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Getting rid of your fear or avoiding it?

Asked by The_Inquisitor (3141 points ) January 21st, 2009

Some ppl are afraid of heights, the dark,.. or maybe even jumping off diving boards (etc). Do you think they should face their fear, or just avoid it? Honestly, I find that I’m too afraid to jump off diving boards that are over 1 story high. I’ve always felt that i could do anything and want to do crazy things. But when i got up to that diving board and looked down, I couldn’t make myself jump down. Should I keep trying? I’ve jumped off of that particular diving board before (longggg time ago tho), but only to end up doing a belly flop… which has made me avoid jumping off of diving boards for years.. but also the fact that i attempted to go off the diving board twice and only ended up walking down the stairs (in shame might i add) was an unpleasant feeling.

Shall I try again… knowing that i may end up dissapointed?

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jonsblond's avatar

You will never get over your fear if you avoid it. Set your mind at ease and just do it!

The_Inquisitor's avatar

haha….... bellly flop… >_<!

LKidKyle1985's avatar

lol the descent of shame, I felt this as well, and to add to it, I fell down the ladder when I was like 8 or something at a local YMCA haha. I eventually learned to jump off a high dive about 10 years later at my college rec center. But its something you should def do, and how do you belly flop? just drop down without trying to dive or anything. but yeah that first jump is hard, but its a blast after that.

Ha I also remember asking if I would get AIDS because it was a year or so after that olympic diver hit his head on the diving board and everyone freaked out because he had aids and what not. Ah traumatizing I tell you.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

lmao. Fell down the ladder! awe!.
Hmm.. well i’m not sure how i did a belly flop, but all i remember was the pain… ouch!

I was a bit afraid also because of that one story i heard once, i think it was also in the newspaper. Someone jumped off a diving board (yada yada something happened.. missed the details) and then they ended up paralyzed for life. O_O

LKidKyle1985's avatar

Yeah thats why I just jump in straight down usually lol. the way I got over it was I walked to the edge, closed my eyes, and tried to imagine I was some where else and just jumped.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

haha… alrighty. I guess i could try that. :)

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is. -H. Jackson Browne:

Trustinglife's avatar

I taught a class a few months ago called “Making Friends with Your Fear.” I find that when I take a friendly approach to what scares me, I stop the war with myself. Then I can decide coolly whether what I’m considering doing is actually something dangerous and smart to avoid, or just scary and worth doing.

Trying to “just get over my fear” doesn’t feel so good, even when I do “conquer” my fear. I’d rather be friends with myself, either way.

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

Can you dive off the low board? Going off the 10’ board takes a slightly different skill set than the low boards, and maybe a private diving lesson would help. Check out Diving on About. It sounds like your fear is quite normal, and can be overcome with training. Maybe that’s a good 2009 resolution, to take diving lessons…

Staalesen's avatar

I have always been of the opinion that you should face your fears head on… What actually helped me was the sci fi series Dune, with the famous text: I must not fear.

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

Witch I find very helpfull… I is true, and an irrational fear is just that… a mind killer…

mzgator's avatar

I am insanely afraid of heights. I always have been. I will turn forty in February. In May I am going zip lining in Maui with my brother. Yikes! I decided to face that fear, plus my brother has promised to push me if I chicken out! It is a fear I want to face, and what a great place to face it! I don’t want to be old and have regrets.

syz's avatar

As a child, I was fearless (it’s amazing that I survived to adulthood). As an adult approaching middle age, I found creeping fears were affecting my actions. So I made a conscious decision to try to identify and face my fears. That fear of heights? I now rock climb. There are plenty of other, more nebulous fears that I still struggle with, but I’m working on them.

Maybe by the time I’m old and approaching death, I’ll be back to being completely fearless.

onesecondregrets's avatar

Hey, taking risks can be scary and sometimes immediately feel like a regret but in the end it will work out being worth it. You jump off that damn diving board! The feeling proceding? Amazing, I’m sure.

cordovanessa's avatar

you should just go for it and face your fear, if you jump off and its positive then you will have conquered that fear and could move on, and if it doesnt work out nothing will have changed because you were afraid before and your feelings will have stayed the same, but you never know till you try.

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