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When you are in a relationship what is the deciding factor that takes it from just liking someone to loving them?

Asked by tennesseejac (3778points) March 1st, 2009

Yeah, Ive told girlfriends that I loved them, but that’s just because there was no other word to describe what I was feeling and we went through all the typical phases of a relationship which always seems to lead to love if it lasts long enough. How do you describe love and what does this mean to you?

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bythebay's avatar

acceptance & comfort.

kheredia's avatar

I kept telling myself that I wasn’t in love until I realized how truly happy I was with him. Like I had never been in any other relationship before. He completes me and I would never want to be without him. That’s how I realized that I was in Love.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

Poet’s and musicians have tried to describe it since the beginning of time.
And I would sit here trying to describe it until the end of time.

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

Sense of sheltering and completeness. The other person makes you want to be the best person that you can possibly be.

DrBill's avatar

No one can choose whom they love, either you do or you don’t, you cannot force it.. Sometimes it can go from friendship to love without realizing when it happens.

I consider love, the point where I would give my life to save theirs.

btko's avatar

Hard to say, for a while I never really knew and then I just started to feel it.

marinelife's avatar

When you have trouble imagining a future without your beloved.

When you want your loved one to be as happy as possible—even more than you want yourself to be happy.

When you are by yourself and see, hear or think something interesting, and the very next thing that goes through your mind is the impulse to share the experience with your loved one.

augustlan's avatar

It seems to me that if you’re not sure that you’re in love, then you are not. Once you experience real, true love… it hits you like a shovel to the head, and there is no question in your mind any longer. From what you described in your question the other day, I think you are falling in love, but may not be all the way there yet.

onesecondregrets's avatar

“What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction.”

‘sup, that’s love in a nutshell. You can thank Chuck Palahniuk for that one.

Johnny_B_Goode's avatar

Aah yes, the big ” L ” word. Keep it under your hat as long as possible…...its d-a-n-g-e-r-o-u-s baby.

nebule's avatar

intention to stay

marinelife's avatar

@onesecondregrets That doesn’t sound like love to me; it sounds like a stalking nightmare. No one can ever meet all of someone else’s needs.

wundayatta's avatar

I give them the Apgar test. If they pass, it’s Lurve!

onesecondregrets's avatar

Haha. It’s a nice mix between obsession and love maybe? Fml. I don’t know what love is. Why do you think I used someone else’s definition. :P.

@lynneblundell ..think that’s definitely one of the biggest components of love. Good answer. :).

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