Some suggestions please; relationship trouble, boyfriend drama, need advice. should we try again or call it quits? Attraction, affection issues?
I just don’t know what to do. I want this to work out with him.
Ok here’s how it is:
we’re both 24. I’ve had 2 relationships before him; this is his first.
We have been together for about 1 1/2 years. Things have gone from great to slowly getting worst.
From the start I felt like he was into other women a little too much but I just told myself it was because he had all that desire built up from years of being alone (hes shy and nerdy) I thought it would pass as time went by. I thought his lack of knowledge about women and his immature attitude about sex and wanting other women so badly would calm down after awhile. I thought the bad habits would go away after being with me for a while so I didn’t really care about it too much at first. (everything else about him is great)
So for awhile I thought physically we thought each other looked good.
Then last night we were talking about taking things further; about moving in together ect… and he tells me,
” I don’t think we can keep doing this because I feel really guilty about all the women I see all the time that I want so badly (physically) and I don’t feel that way about you… but u already know this”
I have some real physical conditions which have caused me to have low self esteem and I feel insecure about my looks.
We then start talking about me getting plastic surgery ! and that then I would be really hot! ...ughh
He wants to make it work, I’m so confused…
what we have is special…
I need the guy I’m with to find me physically attractive, It might be shallow but I’ve never had that feeling really and I would like to. I feel so bad that I don’t look anything like all the women he likes. He must have high testosterone or something too because he is so crazy about women! Will I ever be what he wants? Jeez.
He says there are lots of hot women at his work and he cant stop thinking about them and they make him forget about me… does this mean I’m just not what he wants? even though he says he wants to stay with me?!
Ohh my head hurts.
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