Is love enough to warrant a huge gamble?

Always. What good is anything without love?

I believe that the successful cultivation of a loving, supportive long-term relationships is one of the pinnacles of human activity.

It is difficult, exhausting, sometimes demoralizing, prone to failure, frightening, dangerous and very, very rewarding.

Waking up in the morning is taking a chance. Surely it is worth taking chances for an experience this rich and valuable.

If you have night sweats about this relationship, then maybe you don’t really want to be in it. Generally I find that if you’re with a person you really love and who you believe really loves you, you don’t think about these things.

I think we have to first define the word “love”
What is love?

Sometimes i think that its natural to be really in love at the beginning but the question is will that sort of feeling last?

I have the feeling that a 20 years old relationship will depend a lot of the bond that had been formed in the early stages. The “love” probably had long gone but what keeps both of them together is the responsibility they share.

I heard from someone that love is like boilling water in kettle. The idea is not to keep the kettle dry and maintain sufficient heat so that the water will keep boilling until eternity.

I think it is not healthy to assume and think too much about future relationship. Relationship requires act of commitment and communicating with the partner and not just one person thinking about it.

I hear people say that having “cold feet” about marriage is normal. I happen to disagree. I feel it’s those people who have doubts are the 50% who get divorced.
Be sure about your decision, whether it be to marry or to remain single.
Can you tolerate this persons habits forever? Do you both agree on the major factors in life? If you feel as though the two of you can function as a unit ‘til death do you part, then do it. If not, hold off.

if you reeeeeeeally feel it in your gut then yes…!! love is worth any gamble…

I had doubts once we got to within a week of the wedding ceremony, mostly because legally I would be joined at the hip to this person for life. I worried about the loss of control I would have over things such as debts and taxes and so on. I did go through with the marriage, however, and I did end up having problems with debts and taxes and so on because I went through with it.

However, while it would have been nice not to have those problems, he didn’t cause any of them to hurt me, or even while I knew him. It was possible to solve the problems while still loving the person, and in spite of the problems, materially we are better off than either of us would have been alone. So far we have been married for twenty years, and I expect to be married to him for the rest of his life.

I strongly believe that if you don’t have cold feet just before the wedding, then either you haven’t thought beyond the honeymoon, or you aren’t taking what a wedding means seriously enough. Those are the people that I think have a high risk of divorce, unless they are willing and able to change gears and realize that this is a permanent change, for better or worse.

Love is always enough to warrant a big gamble…even one so big as marriage!

Absolutely!

of course it’s worth it – there is no reason you have to stay with the person if the relationship is bad, so divorce is okay, in my book…there is no reason you have to have one soul mate so multiple great long relationships are all right…we all change throughout our lives, we gain so much from sharing our lives with our loves, whether it be one or many…even if your marriage doesn’t work out and there’s no reason to think it won’t, it is worth the whatever time you will have spent deeply in love…it is much more risky to not have a go at it

Sure it is but you can also do some things to reduce nagging thoughts of the downside if things don’t work out. Odds are odds and you’d be foolish to ignore them when you gamble. I think most people should draw up pre nuptial agreements to take the whole issue of “what if” off the table and leave the field open for exploring the more positive aspects and challenges to come.

Here’s a quote I’ve fallen in love with.

“Love is everything it’s cracked up to be…It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.” – Erica Jong

@Disc2021 oh yes that’s definitely one of my favorite quotes – i thought it was longer, though…

The place I took it from might have paraphrased it, Lol. Perhaps.