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The guy I like is giving me mixed signals, help me?

Asked by mizkendall3939 (151points) August 25th, 2009

He’s giving mixed signals. On the bus we sat next to each other (he sat next to me) and we had regular conversations about school sports, and home work, and getting ready and stuff. And we flirted in math class. But then in study hall he started talking to this other girl who is really pretty. And then they walked to lunch together! Then in our last class together we started flirting again. Now we are on facebook and talking and he’s like being really funny and making jokes. He then told me to text him but I didn’t have his number so he said I had to earn it. So I was like uh how about a hug and he’s like “ew girls are gross” in a joking way so that was a no. He said he makes everyone earn his number, and I have to think about a way I can earn it. So I don’t know what he wants me to do! Can you guys help me figure out a way to earn it?

Also, does this mean he likes me or he doesn’t like me?? Help please!

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PandoraBoxx's avatar

It sounds like he likes you as a friend to bug around with.

marinelife's avatar

He sounds like a player. Even if you get his attention for a while, you can expect to be sharing it with others. You can also expect that he is likely to have a roving eye.

You have two choices:
Recognize what this guy is like and just enjoy the byplay, but know better than to fall for him.

Cut him off if you are afraid you will develop serious feelings, because he is likely to hurt you.

Judi's avatar

Sounds like a player. You have to “earn” his phone number? Get real. That’s not the kind of guy you need. It’s a new school year. He’s keeping his options open and so should you.

Judi's avatar

(I did not read @Marina. ‘s response before I wrote mine. Great minds think alike :-)

eponymoushipster's avatar

sounds like a d-bag. move along.

aprilsimnel's avatar

“Mixed signals” = Do not pass “GO”. Do not collect $200.

Sorry. He needs to figure his stuff out. You don’t have to wait around for him while he does that.

answerjill's avatar

According to your profile, you are 13 years old. Am I right in guessing that this guy is around your age? If he is, I would hazard to say that his behavior is not all that odd for a kid his age. I’d also add that many boys at that age are a few years behind their girl peers at that age. He may not be ready for a girlfriend. This is all just speculation, though. I would say that he probably likes you* and thinks that you are cute, even if he is not ready for a relationship. (He may also think similarly about some other girls, too.)

mizkendall3939's avatar

Okay thanks for the advice! i have been with a player before and was totally crushed. I am not gonna expect anything good from him.

wundayatta's avatar

If you’re that young, then it’s no surprise that you are analyzing this much too seriously. You’re not going to be able to figure out guys. Not now, and not when you’re 30.

It sounds like you are reading tea leaves around this guy, and that is paying him way more attention that he (or any guy, at this age) deserves. Believe me, he’s not thinking about you in that kind of detail. He doesn’t have a clue about emotions. I wouldn’t call him a player, but it is a game to him, I think.

I also think that it’s a game to you, too. Thirteen is an age when a lot of girls first start getting serious about their emotions. Often, girls your age get so involved in all these intense feelings that they forget who they are. It’s a rush, falling into crushes, but you can easily lose perspective.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t let your emotions run away with you, but I do think it is helpful to understand that this will happen over and over in your life, and that if you let it, it will consume you and make you feel like nothing. You’re much more than a gaga-eyed girl. Focus on school. The boys will take care of themselves.

He’s just a man. No. Not even that. He’s just a boy. But as Mary said in Jesus Christ Superstar, “I’ve had so many men before.”

Roory's avatar

I think boys are boys and will always be boys!
If I were you I would tell him that i like him directly and cut the chase, but sometimes some boys are so into themselves that they leave you hanging and like you say give around mixed signals… so my advice, sit back, relax and let time play it’s role !!

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