Have you ever had the opportunity to cheat on your spouse or SO and turned it down?
You ask 100 people if they would EVER cheat on their spouses and at least 99 would say no, never, I would never do that. But we know that in reality more than 1% of people do cheat. Not sure what the numbers are exactly, but I wonder how many people who say they would never cheat really wouldn’t if push came to shove. I believe I wouldn’t, but I’ve never had that opportunity, and don’t really expect I ever will, so it’s kind of a moot point for me.
But I wonder, for those who believed they’d never cheat, who then had the opportunity to do so, and I mean with someone who they’d have slept with in a microsecond if they weren’t attached, someone incredibly tempting, how many have honestly been able to resist the temptation. Because I seriously think there are a lot of people who really, really love their spouses or SOs, who have zero intention of cheating, who honestly believe they would never, ever do something like that, who if the right person, in the right circumstance were to come along, and were to say and do exactly the right things to tempt them, and the risk of getting caught was virtually non-existent, who would not have the will power to resist the temptation.
I’d like to believe I would have the will power, but I even have to admit to myself that I’m human and I can never say “never”. The only reason I can feel 100% sure it would never happen anyway is because I know I’m not the type of person who would attract that type of attention. Basically I’m middle aged, 200 pounds overweight, married and broke (and currently unemployed) with an uninteresting career (an accountant) and a number of health problems, the treatments for which leave me with a diminished libido. Plus I’m socially retarded and even when I was looking for a date, I was too clueless to pick up on non verbal cues to know if someone was interested. I suspect winning the lottery would be easier for me than obtaining side action, let’s just put it that way.
But let’s say in some bizarro universe, the woman who pushes every one of my buttons throws herself at me, say she’s got 15 minutes to live and wants to get laid one last time, we’re in a locked room with no one else around for miles, and my wife is on a different continent, and I’ve just been injected with shark testosterone and a megadose of Viagra. I can have the most thrilling sexual experience of my life and I’ll be the only person who knows about it and she knows all my turn ons and is using everyone of them to convince me. Can I honestly say in that hypothetical that I wouldn’t compromise my integrity? Could you? I think it’s impossible for even the best intentioned person to say.
So it leads me to the question of if anyone has ever HAD the opportunity to do so, and no matter how tempting it was, managed to do the right thing? If so, tell me about it. Of course, if you were tempted and succumbed to the temptation, I’d love to hear about that too, but I suspect anyone who has cheated, probably isn’t too keen on talking about it. So, can you walk the talk?