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Should they be thrown out or kept?

Asked by The_Inquisitor (3146 points ) January 22nd, 2010

Photos, cards and letters received from an old boyfriend/ girlfriend when you were dating. Would you still keep them or throw them out? You feel like you want to throw them out, yet you don’t want to just in case you regret it.

What would you do? Keep those memories, or throw them out?

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filmfann's avatar

I burned a lot of stuff from my first gf. I wish I had them now.

rangerr's avatar

I have a shoebox that’s wrapped very heavily in electrical tape in the back of our crawlspace that’s filled with letters, pictures and things from my ex.
First instinct was to burn everything, but I figured I’d want to go back and read them when I’m older.

Les's avatar

I got rid of most letters and things from my longest relationship. I’ve never regretted it. I still have a valentine that my first boyfriend gave me. Don’t know why, but I like it. It’s really up to you. Maybe hold on to them for a while, and when you are in a new relationship, you might decide to toss them. Or you might not. But once they’re gone, they’re gone, so don’t do anything in haste.

Flo_Nightengale's avatar

Follow your gut feeling. I think you already know the answer!

Pandora's avatar

I got rid of everything except old photos where other people where in it as well. Years later I got rid of all the old photos where I forgot who the people where. After a while you just don’t care to go down memory lane. At least not for me. I have tons of pictures of family and its even hard keeping track of cousins I haven’t seen in years.

liliesndaisies's avatar

I have not thrown any. I’m not in love with them anymore.
But they are full of fond memories I am not ready to let go just yet.

lilikoi's avatar

Depends on how you feel. I keep them for a while, but after a while it is just a bunch of crap that you have to lug around and then it gets thrown away.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I might keep one picture, labeled, to have decades later.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

A decade ago I threw all things away of that nature and haven’t regretted it since. In a way it’s pushed me to make new memories. I admit I have some poems around written to me from particular people that I consider more art than mementos of romance.

borderline_blonde's avatar

I’ve kept the letters and cards from a couple of my ex’s (the nice ones haha). I boxed them all up and have them in my closet in case I want to look at them someday. I know that at the time those letters and cards were written, they were done so with love… so regardless of the fact that it’s over now, I don’t want to get rid of those things.

As for the not nice ex’s, that sh*t got thrown in the trash.

DrMC's avatar

If it is over, then it’s over. I prefer to have my ex loves transfered to the battlefront.

DrBill's avatar

Store them, forget them. Sometime in the future, you will stumble over them again and the decision will be easer then.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I kept them. They are hidden away.
You can always throw them out later – or your grandchildren will.

qashqai's avatar

I keep them. I have a room full of shoeboxes that I sort out alphabetically to make that ex gf easier to find when needed.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

Keep them, at least for now, but bundle them up and put them out of sight.

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