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Do you feel disgusted by a girl's arm hair?

Asked by Ludy (1499 points ) April 17th, 2010

I am wondering if I should remove it or is not a big deal, Do real people have arm hair ( girls mostly ) or is it that I’m the only freak in the world? Is it only an idea that the media has promoted?

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dpworkin's avatar

Not in the least. They come that way, don’t they?

Jbor's avatar

Everybody has arm hairs, and girls probably have as many as men, though thinner and shorter. If the hair is dark or black it will tend to be more visible, however.
If it’s really, really noticeable some men might prefer you to remove it. How to go about that I’m not sure though :-)

ucme's avatar

Not in the least it’s armless don’t worry about it.

tinyfaery's avatar

Some people are. Most people are probably not.

Your_Majesty's avatar

Women too will have arm hair but not as lush as men have. But I think It’ll look better if you get rid of it,especially if you wear sexy dresses.

SeventhSense's avatar

Not really. Hand and back hair..meh

Ludy's avatar

back hair?

SeventhSense's avatar

Chewbacca

Parrappa's avatar

If its dark then yes, but if it’s blonde then I don’t really mind.

netgrrl's avatar

I think unless you have arms like a hobbit, you surely have more important things to worry about. :)

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I’m a female and though my body hair is fine and sparse, it’s dark and I will say honestly over the years that men have been distracted by seeing the arm hair so I shave mine. Guys always think the blonde peach fuzz light haired girls have on their faces and bodies is okay and sometimes kind of sexy but I’ve never once heard anything favorable said about dark hairs. I’m not disgusted by my own hairs but I don’t want to deal with other people getting turned off by them. I could talk until I’m blue in the face about how little body hair I have but that’s not going to change the mind of the person who sees them and then reacts based on their preferences.

Ludy's avatar

is that alright?

SeventhSense's avatar

It’s definitely a preference. I know guys who find hirsute women really sexy. I had a friend who even liked a woman with hairy legs! To each his own I suppose but I think the majority of men like, at the least, shaved legs, pits and a bare or trimmed vajayjay.

Ludy's avatar

hahahahahah ok point taken

laureth's avatar

I’ve never had anyone say they mind mine. Some of us come from the factory that way.

simpleD's avatar

I have no problem with body hair anywhere. I do have a problem with our western culture that holds the natural body as unattractive without modification and chemical adornment. Natural is sexy. And someone who is confident enough to recognize that is even more sexy.

netgrrl's avatar

@simpleD This is one of those times I wish I could give 5 or 10 GA’s.

liminal's avatar

I agree with you, @simpleD.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@simpleD
Agreed but such people are very very rare, imo after several decades. Much easier to defuzz and worry about other things.

Jbor's avatar

@simpleD I totally agree, but do prefer legs and the more intimate areas are trimmed. Arms are not a worry, though I’ve never met a girl with serious arm hair. What turns me off much more than body hair however is excessive piercings, overly large fake breasts, too much makeup and tatoos. Natural is the way to go!

slick44's avatar

Arm hair or armpit hair? arm hair is fine, pit hair, no way!

Tenpinmaster's avatar

Depends on the amount, coarseness, and contrasting color against their skin. In most cases I really don’t care but if they look like george of the jungle then thats just… hmmm eww. =\ I don’t mind arm hair though as much as hair in other places… like thick chest hair for a female is a huge turn off.

slick44's avatar

@Tenpinmaster… haha im sorry to laugh but who do you no that is female that has thick chest hair? really, thats just not right.

deni's avatar

mine is barely visible, and i am glad, but i wouldn’t care if it was a little thicker. the only time i even notice it is when it’s REALLY thick and dark, and i’ve only seen that on maybe 1 or 2 girls ever. but still. its just arm hair.

mcbealer's avatar

I am self-conscious about the hair on my arms, and have waxed for years.
It is painless, lasts a few weeks, and isn’t all that expensive if you DIY.

simpleD's avatar

I’ve seen hair on women’s chests, and around nipples. (Okay, it was mostly just peach fuzz.) We’re mammals, for Darwin’s sake. Body hair is one of our defining qualities. Imagine if female birds plucked out their own feathers. I think self-consciousness is also uniquely human.

Of course, if someone wants to shave because they feel more comfortable, or more attractive, that’s fine with me. My only problem is that people feel they have to alter their bodies because they think it is more socially acceptable.

Is a woman with hairy legs stretching out from her skirt less likely to land a job than a shaved woman? I’d be more likely to recognize individuality and confidence. Someone can be clean and self-respecting and have body hair too.

I also agree, it’s rare to find such people. There may be more pressing challenges to overcome.

SeventhSense's avatar

@simpleD
Oh please. We also bathe and use deodorant in the pursuit of “chemical adornment”. Maybe you can warn your fellow travelers on the bus, in the car or on the subway of your lofty ideals. I’m not so sure they’d back you up on this noble cause.

Adornment and body modification including sprays, waxes, chemicals, jewelery and adornment has been practiced in one form or another by every nation, creed, color, religion and ethnic group on the planet since time began. Some cultures think that huge earrings are attractive and fat women also. Some scar their skin. Some L.A. skaters plaster themselves with tattoos. Some people have their hair permanently removed. These things are not going away but will of course just change and adapt different customs indefinitely as time goes by.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

I was starting to get arm hair that bothered me, so I shaved it off. I love the look & feel of it. Personally, I don’t like body hair period. I keep a close trim down below. Much cleaner looking & feeling. To each his own. Neither way is wrong if that’s what you prefer.

SeventhSense's avatar

@jbfletcherfan
I had a similar sentiment…but I changed my mind after reading the PC comments. I don’t want to see Sasquatch walking down the block or for women to start thinking that they should start braiding their chest hair. Somethings should not be seen in public.

SeventhSense's avatar

@simpleD
Yes a woman with shaved legs is more likely to get the job because simian attributes are not prized in humans. Maybe you missed the last 5000 years?
And we do many things that animals don’t do. We use tools. We don’t crap on the floor.
There were groups who thought that body hair anywhere was acceptable. They were called Neanderthal and Cro Magnon.

MissAnthrope's avatar

People (male and female) have a range of hairiness that is genetic. You will find some men with sparse hair on their legs, arms, and underarms, just as you will find women who have thicker hair on those places. It’s a genetic roll of the dice.

The last two girls I dated were lucky enough to have very little hair and didn’t have to shave much, where I got the Portugese hairy gene and have hairier arms than most women. I guess I should be glad that the hair is light-colored and nobody seems to notice. I guess I should also be glad that I didn’t get the gene my little sister has.. she’s 10 and my mom has started shaving her legs because they’re so hairy.

Pandora's avatar

I have dark arm hair and it never stop me from attracting guys in the least when I was younger. Of course they are hardly noticeable because my skin has is tan. I’ve known girls with even dark hair on their face who have no problem getting guys. I think its all in the attitude. If you let it bother you than it will bother others. Sure people may notice at first but after a while you don’t notice things like that. BTW the girl with the facial hair had more guys chasing her than she knew what to do with. Of course it didn’t hurt she was very pretty, smart and had a great figure. But it was her confidence that made all the guys who liked her say how they didn’t mind a little peach fuzz. Some even thought it sexy.
In some cultures a hairy woman is considered a healthy woman and very sexy.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@SeventhSense Ooohhhh, you got THAT right! OR felt! haha

le_inferno's avatar

Arm hair is only problematic if it’s especially thick or dark. It’s easy to just bleach it if that’s the case. Do NOT shave your arms, it just looks weird and the dark stubble is really unseemly. My best friend has dark hair and she bleaches her arms, mustache, and hair on the sides of her face. Works for her!

thriftymaid's avatar

I haven’t ever heard of a girl having a problem with arm hair, nor have I heard anything about this from the media.

mollypop51797's avatar

i think there are more important things to worry about than arm hair

beautifulbobby193's avatar

It’s not a major issue but if it’s dark you should pobably get rid of it as it could affect first impressions you make.

meagan's avatar

I had a friend with black arm hair and she would shave it. I didn’t notice until we accidentally rubbed arms at a movie one day and there was stubble. It was so strange. I’d say wax it. Thankfully I was born blonde so its basically invisible. But I’ve even seen ladies with.. lower back hair eek

I’d wax it. But thats just what I’d do in the situation.

Vunessuh's avatar

I shave the hair on my arms, but I don’t see anything wrong with female arm hair and I’m certainly not disgusted by it. It’s a personal preference. Some won’t mind it and others will.

beautifulbobby193's avatar

Lower back hair on a woman is repulsive. A lot of Asian and Middle Eastern women have it.

Ludy's avatar

and mexican

SeventhSense's avatar

Who ever said that nature intended that we didn’t have bathing, grooming or adornment? Why not live in the woods, eat roots and shove dirt in your ears.
And this is NOT A WESTERN concept. It’s so anoying to hear the knee jerk naturalist hippy response to every fucking mainstream concept. Some societal concepts simply developed from natural inclinations not in spite of them or as part of some corporate plot. Korubu women do it in the Amazon jungle. Tribesmen in Niger adorn themselves more than most Western women. And they have been doing this long before any Westerner ever stepped foot in their country. And this look did not happen by accident

There are industries that we support with billions of dollars because we like to look good and groom. This is what I really hate about this site sometimes. The bullshit is just so deep you need boots to wade through some of these threads.

JeffVader's avatar

No, it doesn’t bother me…... I’m not very keen on armpit hair, but I suspect thats not what ur asking about.

laureth's avatar

@SeventhSense – These things you have said are right. Bodymod is acceptable and embraced in many cultures. However, “bodymod is OK” does not necessarily mean that “not-mod is not-OK.” There are cultural and even religious reasons to go natural, and even some religious folks that favor natural, even when their religion is against it. (I don’t see many Amish/Mennonite folks worried about their arm hair. Yet they are not unbathed with ears full of dirt. They’re just encouraged not to be so vain.)

A man can walk around in public completely unshaven, completely shaven, or have some mixture thereof, such as a trimmed beard or a goatee, and no one questions their essential manliness or social right to do this. Would that a woman could do that without people feeling like they have a right to comment thus on her “hygiene” and “beauty.”

simpleD's avatar

@laureth: Exactly. My point was not that we shouldn’t shave or adorn our bodies, it is that we shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed if our image doesn’t conform to some arbitrary cultural standard. In the west, that standard has been usurped and monetized by the media and the HABA industry. We are shown icons of unreachable, hyperreal beauty, then made to feel substandard. Buying the (often harmful) products to improve our scent, remove our hair, and color our skin holds the promise that we, too, can be beautiful. While all along, that same media dangles Doritos and beer in front of us.

My 8 year old daughter has dark arm hair, and she is already being picked on. That is a sad, sad, situation. Our media reaches into even our youngest minds and conditions them to conform, to buy, to modify our behaviors – not by our own desires, but by those imposed upon us.

BTW, @SeventhSense, I’m not a hippie. I shave my face, use shampoo, Q-Tips and deodorant. Like you declare in your profile, I am also an art educator and free-thinker; qualities that, I assumed, were consistent with tolerance and civility.

SeventhSense's avatar

@laureth
“not-mod is not-OK.”
Of course that’s fine and if you want to be counterculture go for it. But then to look to the same mainstream culture that you rejected for validation is kind of weak. It’s like a rebel who wants to moan that he’s an outsider. Well, ya that’s part of the job description… Hippies in the 1960’s never expected to be embraced by the establishment. They took their stand and let their “freak flag fly”.

SeventhSense's avatar

@simpleD
I’m sorry for your daughter and kids can be very cruel. I don’t think that the media is at fault for that though. Kids can be cruel even against handicapped children. That not taught as much as it has to be corrected and discouraged. Every parent is at one point shocked by some behavior from their children that they didn’t instill. Call it human nature or whatever.
I think that where I make a distinction with older folks is the line between what is inherent and what is changeable. I would never disparage a woman for small breasts or a kid with red hair and freckles. Those are just completely natural traits. But there are things that are changeable such as our weight and ability to exercise, bleach a mustache on a woman and these things can be addressed with a minimum of effort. Hell we’ve come light years from our parent’s age where one had to wear a suit tie, garters and a dress. Sometimes I think we’ve just gone too far the other way where individuality trumps community. There’s generations walking around like they have a God given right to be a burden to society and that they have no obligation to the collective. And sometimes the grooming is just an extension of that. Get up, make your bed, comb your hair and pull your pants up from around your ankles.
God I’m becoming my grandfather
Well I think you know what I’m saying. Peace

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@SeventhSense
Yay! I come from a hippie household where growing up I got the lectures of why I should be proud and fine with having leg, arm, face and pit hair. Gah! Try getting permission for some farking tweezers much less a razor, I used to feel like I was the only girl in school with hairy legs, unibrow and ‘stache that was not “cute”.

laureth's avatar

@SeventhSense – As a natural sort of gal, I don’t expect to be validated by the mainstream culture. I do, however, see a difference between validation, polite silence, and being told in line at the grocery store in the summer by a hirsute man that I’m disgusting and that I really ought to shave my legs. Two of those are not validation, yet one is preferable to the other.

I have PCOS. As one of its very “special” symptoms, it brings an excess of hair growth to women. I have to spend considerable energy to remove hair from many areas where normal women don’t grow it in the first place. By the time I’m done with that, I could give sweet f*ckall about places where even normal women grow hair, such as arms and legs. I’m not looking to be a counter-cultural freak, I just have more important things to spend my life energy on than fighting a losing battle to look like a magazine model. If I wax my arms, for example, I will have a hairless spot and a red rash where the wax was, and a light hair covering all around it. I don’t think that would look “more beautiful” or “more normal” than just accepting what I have and moving on.

SeventhSense's avatar

@Neizvestnaya
Parents do their children no service when they force their ideals on their kids. It’s like moving to a bad neighborhood because the parents believe there should be no
socio-economic divisions between classes and races. Meanwhile junior gets beat up every day in support of Mom and Dad’s vision. I think some people don’t feel it’s valid until they make someone else pick up their cause. Kids are only the worst casualty of that equation.
@laureth
There’s more than one solution to Depilation.

MissAnthrope's avatar

@SeventhSense – I bite my tongue a lot, but I have to say that I resent your uber-judgemental mentality, not just in this thread, but pervasively throughout this site. Just because something is mainstream doesn’t make it better. Just because YOU don’t find something attractive doesn’t mean it’s not attractive. I’m sure @laureth knows there are other means toward depilation. The point is, if it’s a huge battle, why should anyone have to spend a large portion of their time (possibly better spent elsewhere) to make YOU happy, especially when it may make the individual in question unhappy? Much like that hypocritical guy in the checkout lane, people need to get off each other’s backs and keep their mouths shut when it doesn’t concern them.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@SeventhSense
I totally agree about parents who push their agendas on their kids. It’s hard enough out there without your folks designating you their little totem of social progressiveness.
Looks left, right and behind… “I love you mom”

SeventhSense's avatar

@MissAnthrope
How is me pointing out reality judgmental. Don’t shoot the messenger who wakes you up from your slumber. I’m not saying I always agree with the mainstream except in this case I do. I’m way off the beaten path myself but I’m also a keen observer. Ask ten people on the street and I’m sure that 9 out of ten would say that they prefer a woman to have shaved legs. Am I wrong to bring that your attention? No of course not. But maybe if I refer to your Yeti mama I would. I’m just kidding. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Lighten up Bobo.

MissAnthrope's avatar

@SeventhSense – It’s not the pointing it out, it’s how you point it out..

It’s so anoying to hear the knee jerk naturalist hippy response to every fucking mainstream concept.

So people who don’t agree with you are knee-jerk naturalist hippies? I mean, I could go on, but you get what I’m saying.

Personally, I like people who think for themselves and have a strong sense of individuality. If they don’t want to shave, whatevs. How does that concern you? People act like some lady not shaving is like she’s smeared poo all over herself.. is it really that offensive to your senses? Does it really affect you so much that you have to go out of your way to comment on it (checkout dude)?

laureth's avatar

Good thing I’m not looking to impress, let alone sleep with, 9 out of 10 people on the street!

beautifulbobby193's avatar

Some men actually seek out the hairiest and smelliest women they can find. Disturbing and perverse to me and you, exciting to them. Thankfully they are a very small minority.

simpleD's avatar

@beautifulbobby193: While your statement may be true, hairy does not necessarily mean smelly. That would be one of the stereotypes influencing our culture’s “disgust” with body hair.

SeventhSense's avatar

@MissAnthrope
And how does your pointing out how I point it out, any less judgmental?

laureth's avatar

Chances are, if a woman is hairy, she knows it. She won’t find anything informative about a total stranger on the street pointing out the obvious.

“Oh, am I hairy? I hadn’t noticed! OMG! I should get right to the razor and wax store and have them pour hair-dissolving chemicals over my whole body! Thank you, kind stranger! How could I have been so unaware of the state of the skin suit I live in, every moment of every day? Thank God someone harassed me in the grocery store or else I would live out my life in ignorance of how my duty to humanity means that I must alter my body to a stranger’s taste. Now that I have been enlightened, I know, for the first time, that society doesn’t care for my hairy body, and I will now attend the Church of Nair until the end of days! ”

SeventhSense's avatar

This has obviously become the hirsute lover’s thread. Watch your drains and stock up on extra conditioner peeps. I have to go shave my beard. Peace bitches.

tinyfaery's avatar

Sure thing asshole.

Zen_Again's avatar

Do I feel disgusted? No. Would I like it? No.

laureth's avatar

@SeventhSense Meh. There’s a big difference between “loving” something and “not being freaked out by it.”

SeventhSense's avatar

@tinyfaery
I love you too sweets.

mattbrowne's avatar

We should love human beings the way they are. Keep the hair. It’s wonderful.

jj2k10's avatar

well atlest keep it down to little size not a load

faye's avatar

I once had an appointment with a specialist when I was a young mom going through the ‘pudding brain’ phase. I was so concerned with getting the hair on my head right that I forgot about the hair on my legs- until I changed into the hospital gown! I still don’t know how I could have forgot except that I hadn’t had a full night’s sleep in 10 years. I had lots of arm hair, didn’t worry me.

Storybooklover's avatar

The more hair you have under your arms the more sweat and bo you will have. I shave mine and I think it wouldn’t be a bad idea if men did it too.

jj2k10's avatar

ye thats right always shave the hair under your arm because god knows when you will have a a good bit of heat and you will bit sweating for ages and then people can smell the bo and be offended by you,

Ludy's avatar

what i meant was not the armpit hair but along the arm

larry1031's avatar

I think girls who have hairy arms arew EXTRA beautiful

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