What is proper spooning form?

I don’t think you’re obliged to stay that way all night. Or maybe we were just really unsentimental…..

Well. there are parts of her that you could cup. (Cups and spoons – seems appropriate…)

@DarkScribe Fair enough, but then my arm’s under her body, and that’s not too comfortable either. Although she is significantly lighter than me.

@cfrydj _but then my arm’s under her body, _

Maybe it has to do with comparative size. My wife will lie with her head and neck on my arm, her shoulder under my arm – sort of like a pillow – I cuddle her that way. She is much smaller than me.

I’d have that arm under her. We usually would only be in that position for an hour or less. That position was calming and reassuring for her if she was having one of her PTSD nightmares.

http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-avoid-trapped-arm-whilst-cuddling-in-bed

You can also roll both of you a bit more onto your stomachs.

@papayalily Amazing, problem solved.

Aha. As Darkscribe writes, if the comparative size works out, it can be comfortable for both parties to have your left arm under her neck, or even up higher so her head rests on it. Another option is to put the arm straight up above yourself, if he bed allows enough room. Down by your side or any form of arm-over-wife is supremely uncomfortable and, hence, unacceptable.

@papayalily Wow, I checked out your video after my answer, great! It turns out what I recommened was called “superman”. For me turning onto my stomach with my arm splayed out behind me impossible, due to shoulder surgery.

@papayalily beat me to linking to that. :) Funny, but informative video!

that guy flashes the camera at the end of the video when he crawls onto the couch ;D

I have always believed that humans should come with detachable limbs to solve this problem. If I put it under her, it falls asleep, if I put it under me, it falls asleep and aches, wedging it between us does not work.

So, I should be able to unscrew it and hang it on a hook on the door.

This is the actual, correct answer http://xkcd.com/335/

Allow your left arm to serve as her pillow. Pretend you’re talking on a cell phone. Keep that arm position while holding your elbow out and level with your shoulder. Her head should fit either right against the side of your upper-arm or right in the middle with her ear in the opening.

Or prop up your neck with your left arm.

@Arisztid I should be able to unscrew it

The lament of many a “late” teenager.

I remember a line in a novel I read years ago, possibly Shibumi, that went something like this: ”...like two lovers who know what to do with the extra arm when they snuggle up together.” I always though it was rude of the author not to have shared the secret.

I tend to put my useless arm under the pillows… & my other hand between some pillows :)

Put that arm underneath her.

I HATE the “retard arm”. I’m sorry if that’s not PC but that is how I describe that arm. It never happens to me while spooning in that position though. It usually happens when we’re facing each other. So annoying. Anyhow, yeah, put that arm either under here or under your head under the pillows. Problemo solved!

I had the same trouble and one time my shoulder ended up really sore from sleeping there all night. Now I have resorted to not worrying about having my upper body right against here. I let the lower body follow her countour and the upper body has room between she and I. The arm just finds a better place that way. Happy spooning!

Your left arm should go under her neck and wrap around her front, while your right hand wraps around the opposite side of her body. Kinda like giving someone a sideways bear hug. I’m not suggesting this should be a wrestling move though (unless you want it to be ;D)

I’m with @martyjacobs.

In agreement, that is.

@martyjacobs has nailed it….... ;)