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Im still in love with my ex-girlfriend,I know I should try to get over her but can't what should I do?

Asked by chris007 (20points) March 23rd, 2008 from iPhone
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Lightlyseared's avatar

stop worrying about it. You will get over her it just takes time and there’s little you can do to speed things up. One day you’ll just realise its happened. In the mean time hang out with your mates, meet some new people and have a bit of fun.

Fallstand's avatar

Delete her number, e-mail, screename, everything that will make you think of her…And go out and have as much fun as possible… I go through this about every other year and this works for me everytime

jrpowell's avatar

That is completely normal. Try to stay active.

Eventually you will notice that you can go a day without thinking about her. Over time that will turn into a week, and then a month.

It took about six months to make it through a day without thinking of my first love in some little way after we broke up. It gets better, it just takes time.

Perchik's avatar

I asked a similar question a little more than a week ago.

I’d definitely agree with john, it’s not gonna happen all at once. Avoid places you might see her (if that’s a consideration.) Try to do things that don’t remind you of her. Don’t talk to her, don’t call her, don’t email her, don’t IM her, don’t facebook her [if applicable]. No contact is the best way to go.

Go out with your friends a lot. Don’t start looking for a new girl right away, but have fun. Recover your life.

For me, I really moved on once I asked my fluther question. I think presenting it to people like that made me self aware and caused me to start thinking. My situation was a bit different, but I’d definitely say those two things are super important: avoid her and go out with friends. Don’t expect it to happen overnight.

iSteve's avatar

Hang in there… It’s tough but you will get over her in time!

TheHaight's avatar

yes, what everyone else says: no contact with that person AT ALL. I know, its going to be very very hard for you, but as tacky as it sounds, time really heals all wounds.

A friend of mine got out of a relationship of a little more than Four years and its been well over seven months since they’ve been broken up, yet they still hang out all the time and he’ll call her almost everyday. Its horrible because he will invite her over and tell her he’s lonely and end up having sex with eachother. As he’s walking her out, she tells me that he reminds her they will never get back together. You need to put yourself and your feelings first, and everything will be fine. Don’t make the mistakes that my friend is making. End all contact. Good luck :)

DS's avatar

You can follow the advice above. But you can also go back to her.

TheHaight's avatar

True, but does she want you back chris007? If she does then go for it! But the way it was posted, he was asking for advice on how to get over her

f15hl39's avatar

all good advice, for me personally I find sex with someone I don’t care about really helps the process. Sluts are good for something. I will get critisism for this response I am sure, but as meaningless sex has helped me in break-up times it may or may not for u, just a suggestion mate, best of luck to u in this difficult time. Know it will get better whatever u do.

LuckVIII's avatar

accept that its over. Then understand what you are feeling is perfectly normal. Depending on how long the two of you been together will depend on how long you will probably feel sad. Try to avoid places that mean something to you and her. Try to reach out to your guy friends and go out and do fun stuff. Even try new stuff you weren’t able to do when you were with your ex

annelandry's avatar

try Xanax. It works

cwilbur's avatar

Find something to distract you. Go out drinking with your guy friends and discuss the perfidy of women. Build a model car or a model railroad. Learn to drive a stick shift, if you don’t already know how. Meet someone new.

Calalily1120's avatar

It’s normal and healthy to miss someone that’s been a large part of your life. Remember to just take one day at a time. Write stuff down if it helps. That’s how I got through some of my break ups. The trick is not to ignore the feelings or ignore the fact that she was in your life, but to acknowledge it, work through it and move on. Commit to something productive so that you’re not sitting at home alone thinking about her and the relationship. You’re going to miss her for awhile…and it sucks. There’s nothing any of us can really say to make you feel better right now, the only thing you need to know is that it will get better..and it will get easier…and you will be able to move on, but it is something you have to work toward.

tyrone's avatar

i was in a reltionship wid my ex fa two yrs dat started in 08 nd we hada child in 09 dat passed after a couple mnths..recently we broke up in oct of 2010 nd im nt dumb nd know der was outside influence frm othr guys..she blocked my number n cut me out like we never knew one anthr.mnth lata she private calls me nd says nun..i textd da random number 2wkz lata to c if it was her bt she denied bt i knew it was.fast frwrd to feb nd i kalled ha to wish ha hppy bdday.nd etc.we tlkd alil bit.then she wud ignore me.days lata textd me agen afta ignoring me..she tol meshe cudnt tlk to me ny mre n i accptd bt an hr lata she txtd me wid sadface..she txtd da nxt day agen bt stppd afta dat daynd its been 3n a haalf wks..dnt get it.tld ha hw i feel abt her bt nuthn.shesreel wierd.wts goin on??

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