In general, I find people who have confidence attractive and those who are overconfident (not just on occasion with areas they have some familiarity with – but in everything) to be incredibly annoying.
Blind confidence is adorable sometimes. I’ve met a few people who are just plucky and think they can move mountains if they try hard enough. I don’t know how to explain how this is different from the “overconfident” type without throwing the word “arrogant” into the mix.
Many years ago, was working in the summer on a construction job, and also, working on my Master’s degree that summer. At lunch, was sitting with an older gentleman (i was his laborer), and talking about girls. The construction site was very close to the women’s dorms at my University. Never will forget him saying, “when I was your age, only a few of them looked good, but as i got older, most of them looked good, and now, they all look good!” Touche my friend, now i certainly understand.
Confidence is sexy, as long as it stops there and doesn’t go into arrogance or a big ego. Who wants a bumbling person who is always self-deprecating? I’ve been told I exude a lot of confidence and seem like a formidable woman, and people respond positively to that.
I like “confidence” to some degree but it is not a major factor with me. Confidence can be easily faked (and usually is). I prefer down-to earth personalities, someone that’s easy to talk to and be with. I need women who have the abilty to show compassion and emotions, something I usually do not find with the so called “confident” girls.