What does a person have to do in a relationship with you to make you think they're crazy?

Say anything that has already been said by the ultimate warrior. jk

I once lived with a woman when i was in my teens who, well, how to explain… ok, i was working as a security guard for a bar, i used to stay awake all night working from around midnight to 9am, i would arrive home at about 10am and try to get some sleep. one day she woke me up at 1pm by throwing a load of milk over me, shouting her head off that it was time for dinner. i get up and discover that surprise surprise, dinner is boiled white rice, again, for like the 5th day in a row.

she used to say real strange shit at times, like that one of her relatives was a terrorist with the separatist organization ETA, and that they had a money printing machine to finance their bomb making (i was already trying to get the hell away by this point)

as time pased she used to say more and more insane things, until eventually i took a week off work to fake that i had lost my job, so i could claim that there was no rent money. in the middle of the packing i vanished. you may think that is a little cowardly, and that i should have just broke up with her, but i had tried that already, and she was making life difficult.

she constantly wanted sex, even just a few hours after sex, i think it was when i started to say no that is when she started to get crazier and crazier.

still, it does not beat my cousin, who had a girl tell him “i know we are supposed to be together, because when i was struck by lighting i heard a voice telling me that we where meant to be together”.

You’d have to be crazy to be in a relationship with me in the first place.

Consider it a prerequisite

I don’t really call people crazy. I say they have various issues, some of which I can put up with and some of which I can’t. However, there are some things that will earn you a “batshit insane”, but those are either a collection of smaller things, or actions that are either felonies or will land you in a mental institution.

Got into a relation to me.

Say that their father has mental issues: write well-written, creepy stories; punch a brick wall; write threatening letters; and drive 450 miles to show up on my doorstep unannounced.

My first date with one guy in particular told me that if we were to get married, he expected his dinner on the table by a certain time, his clothes folded a certain way, the dishes to always be done, and a few other things. First of all, the first date is too soon to be talking about marriage! And second of all, I wouldn’t mind being a “house wife” if I chose to do so, but I won’t give up my dreams for any other person.

Another guy told me not to bite my nails, when not five minutes later I caught him biting his nails. His reasoning was “you’re a girl, you’re not allowed to bite your nails.”

Another guy told me it was “okay” for him to cheat on me, but he’d kill me if I ever cheated on him…

The list goes on and on…

Beat me, because I would destroy them and they’d have to be crazy to tempt me.

@Pied_Pfeffer But saying that their mother has mental issues doesn’t get them on the list? Interesting.
Is it saying that at all, or would you retract that if, say, their father had spent the last 20 years in a mental institution?

@papayalily Thanks for point that out, as it wasn’t written well. This was a guy I dated in college. He said that his father had mental issues, and if I recall correctly, was diagnosed as such, and it wasn’t just the son’s opinion of his dad.

@Pied_Pfeffer So you would have called the guy you were dating in college crazy for saying his dad had mental issues? (Just want to make sure I got that right, I feel like I got confused in all the pronouns…)

@papayalily Again, thank you for asking for clarification. I wouldn’t call him crazy for the reason of his father, although he worried about it. It was for the actions that he exhibited when we were together, thus the list. He had a good heart and was a smart guy, but sometimes his words and actions were off the chart of normalcy.

Maybe he felt that his father’s condition gave him license to act the way he did. Maybe I wondered about it because the boyfriend did.

@Pied_Pfeffer Ok, now I’m with you. Awesome clarification.

@papayalily Wonderful, as I was about to ask you if you went by the name of ‘Frank’ while attending college. :)

@Pied_Pfeffer Only when I’m trying to be brutally honest ;)

Yes, I once had a brief run-in (relationship) with someone I felt was a true sociopath. The man infiltrated my circle of friends, endeared himself to them with a false persona and got them to introduce him to me as a potential date. Once given a chance as a date, once he’d earned my trust and relaxation then he methodically went about disparaging my friends, my lifestyle, my beliefs while pitching his own racist and weirdo agenda. He threatened and assaulted friends, room mates, harrassed me at work, etc. It was bad and so far beyond being jealous, insecure or posessive. He needed to have been an aborted child.