How does someone throw an orgy?

My partner and I have thought about this – it would have to be people we know, they’d have to show papers of latest test results prior to receiving details – people would not have to participate so voyers welcome – lots of lube and condoms and dental dams and only light alcohol, if at all…

There is a joke about why the Junior League doesn’t throw orgies, but I’m sure you’ve all heard it.

@pdworkin, please share.

The punch line is: “Because of all those thank you cards…”

evite?

I read in Hollywood Babylon that some famous acting couple in the 1940s would simply throw what appeared to be an ordinary dinner party with as many of their friends as their mansion could hold, but when the clock struck midnight, everyone’s clothes came off and they all just went at it.

I threw one once, but for the life of me I can’t remember how I got it going. I knew I wanted to experience it, and I guess I must have talked to a bunch of friends, and pretty much everyone I talked to was up for it, so to speak. We were all young, so maybe we were more adventuresome, and this was before the days of AIDs. It wasn’t too long after the times of protest, or the sexual revolution, so maybe people were still thinking it was more innocent, fun-wise, then they would now. I’m pretty sure a lot of alcohol and other illicit substances were involved.

I went to one once because I was painfully curious and had to experience it first-hand. This was in the days of BBSes and one of the people running the “pan-sexual orgy” posted an announcement quarterly (they had one event a quarter). I talked another friend I knew from the BBS into going.

Safe sex was emphasized, condoms were in baskets all over the place. The atmosphere was pretty relaxed and no one had to participate, you could feel free to watch. When you went in, they instructed us to strip off and had cubbies to store our clothes for the duration of the event. If someone asked you to play and you didn’t want to, it was totally cool to say, “Thanks but no thanks.”

Very interesting experience, overall.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir ; I must be really old. Dental dams?

I know! I’m ancient @Simone_De_Beauvoir !

@Judi lol…I’m 38 and I don’t know what it is either.

It’s a sheet of latex you hold over your mouth, for safer cunnilingus.

I know what it is. It’s just that we never, ever needed such a thing, in our heady youth.

How sterile. I’m glad that I got married the first time before AIDS and only had one partner (my current husband) since my first husband died. I don’t envy the world you guys play in!!
The seventies was such a care free time to come of age.

Great Question, because you used the word “throw”. Funny, in my opinion.

http://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+host+an+orgy&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en

@kevbo Do you have a favorite from that list? ;)

@jonsblond, no, but there’s a local, weekly swinger party that I’ve been meaning to try for the past two or three years.

Damned Catholic upbringing. ;-)

@kevbo do it!

@pdworkin Lurve for Heady Youth.

Does anyone know if there is a non-latex alternative to the Dental Dam?

In my experience, “no means no” and “leave the attitude with your clothes” are about the only hard and fast rules you need.

It’s good to provide the equipment you need for safer sex, but if you make it into a RULE you wind up having to enforce the RULE, and it’s a lot simpler to just accept that these are adults who get to determine their own acceptable levels of risk.

In my younger days I tried to organize a few. What I found out is that everyone is into the idea, but you’re lucky if one in ten of the people who say they absolutely, totally, without fail will be there even show up. It’s amazing the number of flat tires, sudden visits from out of town friends, and cases of food poisoning that suddenly occur when you schedule an orgy.

@Shegrin – Yep, they do.

@deni I only trust orgies as far as I can throw them.