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What is a matured moral attitude?

Asked by liminal (7761points) December 20th, 2010

By asking “what” I am not necessarily looking for a definition but observations. When I write “matured” I am thinking seasoned and developed and not about age (though certainly it may play a part). Finally, when I use the phrase “moral attitude” I am not just thinking about the specific principles one may develop but also the way one goes about cultivating and nurturing their viewpoint.

While there is sense in also having some discussion about what an immature moral attitude is, I am most interested in hearing about what you have observed and decided is mature.

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Neizvestnaya's avatar

I think of someone like my grandpa who could accept people as they are, for the most part without feeling bristly if their morals differed from his. It’s something I hope to have someday but I’m still in the stage of, Do as I say and not as I’ve done.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

Recognizing that morality has context and isn’t uniform. For example, ‘statecraft’ and the professional morals of individuals engaged in international diplomacy is far different from whether one cheats on or is faithful to one’s spouse. Personal morality isn’t equivalent to the ‘morality’ that a nation can display vis a vis other nations.

6rant6's avatar

There are three things I’d suggest.

Use of plural pronouns versus singular when trying to figure out what to do.

An inclination for needing more information before offering a moral opinion when asked for one.

An inclination for not providing a strident opinion of right and wrong – even when asked.

Blackberry's avatar

What comes to my mind is a person that makes decisions and lives their life with more focus on selfless motives, like caring more about others than themselves.

anartist's avatar

one tempered by the vicissitudes of life.

YARNLADY's avatar

Acting in everyone’s best interest, including your own, rather a selfish, unconsidered interest.

Coloma's avatar

I think that the ultimate in moral maturity has to coincide with psychological and spiritual maturity in strong unity.

At this juncture of ones development moral maturity would mean having a profound understanding that there are really no bad people, just unconscious people and therefore everyone is, ultimately ‘innocent.’

This does not eliminate the consequences of societies moral code, but it does transcend ego enough to understand that everyone and everything is really perfect, because it is as much of what it CAN be in the present moment reality and evolution of all things.

Cruiser's avatar

Being mature IMO is seeing there are more options to a situation or ways to solve a problem than just satisfying your own needs or desires. Maturity is the ability to achieve win/win situations as opposed to getting what you want at all costs. Maturity is the ability to say I’m sorry, or I was wrong, or being able to ask someone….how are you when you feel down, out and like shit.

Maturity is the ability to make the hard choices no matter what.

pulcherzee's avatar

acceptance of other people’s criticisms,making them as an inspiration and moving on with life with enthusiasm despite of all the hardships. :)

bkcunningham's avatar

I think alot of it comes about with individual life experience, learning and finally accepting that you can’t always be right. Regardless of your belief system. It is learning through real life lessons that happen to nearly everyone in a similar fashion in some way, shape or form; that you don’t know everything and will never know everything. When we are younger we think we can conquer the world, right every wrong we perceive as wrong and we think we will live and never get hurt emotionally or physically and we will never die. When we are younger, we just don’t give it much thought. We have too much ahead of us and dive in head first and shouting for joy at our new found freedom.

That is natural and the way life is suppose to be. It why war is fought by young men and why baby bird’s finally take that leap and learn to fly. They aren’t afraid. It is how it should be. But as life happens, and we experience death, birth, injustices and justice. We learn about our own individual fears, hopes and dreams and what we believe in based on our own experiences.

Ponderer983's avatar

Good to know that according to most of you I am matured and moral lol.

I believe in the Golden rule – that has basically brought my to how I act towards others. I am selfless and giving and do for others as I wish they would do for me. I take criticism and realize that I am not always right, but I will fight for what I believe.

ETpro's avatar

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

wundayatta's avatar

The more consequences you understand, the more mature your attitude should be. There are direct consequences of any action and then indirect consequences resulting from the original consequences and so on. The further down the road you can see, the more mature your moral attitude.

Most people only think about what they want when they take an action. They don’t think about how the person they are dealing with will react. Some people can predict how other people will react, and take that into account when deciding what to do. A few can figure a chain of reactions. And a very few can see more deeply into the future.

The more deeply you can see, the better moral choices you can make. Sometimes those choices will seem immoral to those who can only see the next step. And of course, morality depends on many other values as well. You can see into the future, but if you don’t care about people, your decisions will not be moral. However, most people who care to learn how to see deeply into the future do so because they care about people and want to take care of them.

Pandora's avatar

Someone who accepts their responsibilites without question and will make the hard decisions needed to be made for their welfare and for the welfare of others, even if they may have too sacrifice their safety or peace in order for someone else’s needs.
Example. I once stopped and acquantaince for cheating someone else. They became cross with me and asked me why did I get involved, because it was none of my business. I explained to them that
1. She was fully aware that the other person is in desperate need for money and could not afford to be ripped off.
2. That the other person wasn’t making her decision with all the facts because she had a mental defect.
3. And that I believed in the saying, that evil can only be carried out when good people do nothing and that she knew me well enough to know that if I would never cheat an innocent that I would hardly allow to take place in front of me.
I knew she had a lot of friends and I knew it would cost me a few aqaintances. It was the buzz at work for a while. ( I did it at the company christmas party.)

SavoirFaire's avatar

I think we are morally mature when we stop needing external reasons to be kind or friendly and not to be cruel or hostile. People who are terribly concerned with why we should act in such ways, or who insist on reasons like “God says so” or “that’s objectively right/wrong,” seem to be focused on things that are ultimately irrelevant. Just be kind, just be friendly. Don’t do it because you’re afraid that God or the universe will be disappointed otherwise. That’s the mindset of a child.

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