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What is some good advice that has stuck with you?

Asked by Haleth (19499points) April 19th, 2011

One piece of advice that struck me as sensible was, “You have to know the rules before you can break them.” This was in an art class where we spent the whole time learning technical skills, like drawing from life and color theory.

Advice doesn’t have to be profound to be useful. What advice has stuck with you?

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seazen_'s avatar

Everything in moderation.
Brush and floss daily.
Use sunscreen.

Haleth's avatar

@seazen_ When I graduated high school we had that speech, “And when in doubt, always remember to wear sunscreen.”

longtresses's avatar

this one stuck around the most:

99% of the time, it’s about showing up.

Bellatrix's avatar

To always make sure I have some money (even a little bit) of my own to spend.

lillycoyote's avatar

To start with, two things that my father told me:

Don’t wallow in regret. You did the best you could, made the best decision you could with information you had at the time.


Never lend anyone more money than you can afford to lose.

I know there is some more great advice have encountered in my life but those are what popped into my head immediately.

Hibernate's avatar

Beware, be aware .. and be fair.

lillycoyote's avatar

@Hibernate That’s a good one. As I interpret it, that advice basically says don’t allow yourself to be taken advantage of but don’t take advantage of other people. Don’t be so naive and trusting that you are a perpetual doormat, but don’t be so cynical and evil that you see everyone else as a doormat. A very difficult balance to maintain in life sometimes.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Good advice that stuck with me was:
• Figure out what the problem is in its simplest form and don’t make it larger than it really is.
• If you speak to everyone as if they are the banker you need a loan from to save the family farm you will avoid arguments 80%.
• Don’t believe anything you hear and half of what you see.
• If you are going to dream might as well dream big. Donald Trump
• Don’t cry over money, money won’t cry over you Shark Tank

Coloma's avatar

When people show you who they are believe it!

Hibernate's avatar

@Coloma i don’t get it…

Bellatrix's avatar

I took @Coloma‘s comment to mean if a person’s actions such the sort of person they are, don’t delude yourself that they are someone else. Been guilty of that myself on a few occasions. Of course, she might mean something totally different!

Hibernate's avatar

I could understand it when i changed it though.

when people show you who they are ° , ° believe it !

I wanted to check with him-her if it’s like that ^^

Patience, patience is worth everything

Bellatrix's avatar

lol and I meant “show” rather than such… sighs… I am sure Coloma will come back and tell us.

augustlan's avatar

“Whatever you are, be a good one.” Abraham Lincoln

BarnacleBill's avatar

Doing the right thing makes sleep come easy at night.

SABOTEUR's avatar

You can’t make sense out of nonsense.

JLeslie's avatar

Do what you want to do while you can do it – my grandma

Treat others as you want to be treated – Leviticus? Definitely my gym teacher in 2nd grade said it, and my parents.

If you can’t put it on the front page of the newspaper then you can’t do it – an executive in a company I worked for explaining why he couldn’t make an exception for an employee. If others knew it would cause too much trouble.

SABOTEUR's avatar

@Coloma My daughter posted this to Facebook recently. I asked her if there were ever times people don’t show you who they are. What exactly does this phrase mean?

JLeslie's avatar

@SABOTEUR I think it means don’t live in denial. If your SO lies, don’t overlook it or make excuses for him/her, realize he is a liar now so you don’t waste a lot of time listening to him say he is telling the truth. That’s just one example. Kind of like saying pay attention to peoples actions, not what is coming out of their mouths.

SABOTEUR's avatar

@JLeslie I thought as much, but…‘s kinda of tricky, isn’t it? I mean, none of us really know who we are. We project to others who we think we are or who we would like others to think we are. In all actuality, we simply are who we are regardless of what anyone (ourselves included) thinks.

We can debate that philosophy until the cows come home…which brings me back to your phrase. If 99% of the time we’re playacting (and don’t know it) or confused (and refuse to recognize or acknowledge it) how do we recognize if someone else is showing us who they are? What standard of measure do we use?

(Do we really know that person is lying? How do we know that person doesn’t feel justified to lie? How do we know we’re not lying to ourselves?)

Seems to me that phrase leads to more questions than provide a solution for the issue it seems to address.

seazen_'s avatar

@Haleth When a child asks “Do I have to brush all my teeth?” Answer: “Only the ones you want to keep.” Sunscreen for me is important as I live in the desert. The moderation quote is a paraphrase of something my mother used to say.

I try to live by the Bard’s Neither a borrower nor a lender be, and I have often said that if you lend your money to a friend, you lose your money and lose your friend.

ucme's avatar

I remember my grandma telling me that he who asks never gets. So I never asked for anything….guess what, I never got another bloody thing!!!! I’m not bitter though, even though dear old granny clearly threw me a “rope a dope” :¬/

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

The Platinum Rule Do unto others as they want done unto them.

Also,“If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.”

dxs's avatar

Be yourself.
I like @seazen_‘s “Neither a borrower nor a lender be” because that has happened to me because I am so generous. People shouldn’t ask for money in the first place (give or take a couple of quarters), and if they do, it’s hard to get around it.

knitfroggy's avatar

My grandma told me to marry someone that was good to me. It didn’t matter what they looked like, where they came from, if they were rich or poor. Just make sure they were good to me.

My aunt told me to always date big guys because they never skimp on the food.

My mother always told me to “be who you are”.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I always liked Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Or, Real estate is easy to buy, but hard to sell.
Thanks Zen.

Coloma's avatar


If someone SHOWS you who they are, it means, pay attention to their actions, instead of their words.

And take heed….don’t cry when they let you down because they have shown you their true colors. If you make excuses after that you’re the one with the issue. ;-)

beckk's avatar

Talking down to anyone only makes others look down on you.

john65pennington's avatar

“Don’t Judge A Book By Looking At Its Cover”. It’s still so true today.

“When In Doubt….......Don’t” This has been our rule to live by, since we married 45 years ago.
We have applied this rule to everything, including a new car and
more children.

SABOTEUR's avatar

@Coloma That makes sense. It just seems a slightly convoluted way of saying something that could be phrased more simply. For me, “believe them” kind of flips the thing on it’s ear.

“Who you gonna believe…me, or your lyin’ eyes?”

Coloma's avatar


lol..true, but hey, I didn’t write that mantra…I do like it though.
I am a mantra type person, I believe the answers to everything can be found in sayings. ;-)

rock4ever's avatar

Never give up.
Don’t let anger cloud your judgment.

yankeetooter's avatar

To always go towards the goal…

SABOTEUR's avatar

@Coloma You and I are simpatico, my friend. I too find many of these sayings to be a great source of truth and inspiration. But an annoying side effect of my (infrequent) study of spirituality is understanding the effect of words, hence the necessity of being responsible for what one says.

Most of these sayings, as I’ve said, are sources of wisdom. Occasionally though, you’ll run across something that sounds profound, but makes no sense whatsoever. This particular saying you and my daughter are fond of (IMHO) “straddles the fence”. It’s a wee bit cockeyed.

But I love the intent of what it’s trying to say!

I just think it could have been said a little bit better.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Always wear clean underwear in case you get hit by a tank. Hawkeye Pierce.

stardust's avatar

Be the chane you want to see.

Coloma's avatar


“Chain, chain, chaaaain, chain of fools…” lol

dxs's avatar

@Coloma When I was about five, I used to think that the lyrics to that song were “chain chain chain chain of food”. Just a humorous aside.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Listen to your gut.

Bellatrix's avatar

@Neizvestnaya and mine is saying “eat hot cross buns”!

Bellatrix's avatar

Live and let live.

Bellatrix's avatar

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

SABOTEUR's avatar

@Mz_Lizzy…followed by it’s companion, “It’s all small stuff”.

Bellatrix's avatar

lol. Perhaps @SABOTEUR :-)

woodcutter's avatar

when given a choice, always go for the shovel with the longer handle.
What comes around, goes around.

Hibernate's avatar

Silence has it’s own knowledge. [ was something like this but i cannot remember it exactly the way i hear it ]

stardust's avatar

@Coloma Haha:) That should’ve been change of course

SABOTEUR's avatar

You create as great a disservice
when taking offense
as when giving offense.
Be wary
of believing you know what’s right
for Someone Else…

Someone Else
may begin to believe they know what’s right
for you.

Brian1946's avatar

Don’t pull the pin unless you’re ready to throw the grenade.

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