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Do you get along with your siblings?

Asked by naivete (2463points) April 29th, 2011

How do you maintain a relationship with your siblings? Would you say this relationship is good or bad?

If it’s good, explain how you keep it this way.

I have one brother who is 5 years younger than me. We don’t get along at all because I feel like we’re two completely different people with different mindsets. Although he’s young, I don’t think our relationship will ever be considered a “good” one.

I’m interested in how everyone on fluther views their relationships with their siblings.

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knitfroggy's avatar

I have one sister that is 5 years younger. We fought like crazy when we were kids, fist fights and every thing, even though I was so much older. But if my parents were to spank her, I would get so upset and bawl, no one needed to be hitting her but me, I guess. I moved out when I was almost 19 and she asked to spend the night at my house the second night I was there. We’ve been best friends ever since that day. For years we talked to each other on the phone every day for at least an hour, usually longer. With changing work schedules and such we don’t talk every day like we did, but still several times a week. Next to my kids, I probably love her as much as I have ever loved anyone.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

My sister and I used to get into wild, and I mean wild fights when we were younger.
Now we are closer than ever.I love and would do anything for her.
Sometimes things change for the better.:)

dxs's avatar

I am 15 and have an older brother who is now in his mid 20’s away from my family. We used to not get along at all. It got pretty violent between us…Now that we’re a little older and have gone our separate ways (he has, at least), we get along more. I still argue with many things that he says. He is very intelligent, but not that smart. He needs to learn to base himself on his own opinions and not rely on the opinions of others. He also never puts things to a general perspective, only does things he wants to do, and is very immature still. Still, we share many things in common because we are siblings, and can relate very well.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

My sibling is 13 years younger and though we are cordial to each other, we really don’t have a close friendship or interaction aside from a few holidays each year. We were raised very differently, have very different relationships with our parents and different social outlooks.

InkyAnn's avatar

Well, I have 3 siblings. The oldest is my Brother, he is 5 years older then me. We were never close and throughout my years I would always try to get “approval” from him. Be like him, do things that he would think were cool and would want to spend time with me for. It never really worked. Now that were adults were more like there for each other when we need, but other then that not alot of contact.

Next oldest is my sister, shes 3 years older then me. Her and I NEVER were close. If you asked me about her all I could tell you is that shes older then me, is a “goody two shoes” and is a “girly girl”. It wasn’t until I was about 22 that we became “friends”. I think that once again, it took growing up and learning lifes lessons for us to be able to understand each other. We are now best-friends. Talk everyday. I think that with us it was just becoming mature enough for us to be able to accept the differences between us and seeing each other for the people that we are. It started with a friendship of sorts and grew to a bond that nothing could break.

Then there my younger brother, hes 10 years younger then me. From the time he was born I was barely around him, when we were together it was just fighting constantly. Mainly because of the age difference. I wasn’t a part of his life till he was about 12. Since then I cant imagine not being in it. He annoys me to no end but I keep in mind that hes my little brother. And surprisingly we have alot in common that we never gave a chance to find before. I live across the country from all of them now but my little brother and I talk all the time and remind each other everyday that we love each other and are there no matter what.

Seaofclouds's avatar

I have a younger brother. He is 2 years younger than me. When we were kids, we fought. That lasted until we were teenagers, then we started getting a long a bit better. Then once our parents got divorced, we split ways a bit. We still talked occasionally, but he was more on my dad’s side and I was more on my mom’s. Eventually we got past that and now we get along really well. We are both in our later 20s (me 29, him 27), both married with a family. We keep in touch via phone calls, text messages, and Facebook (rarely). I talk to his wife about just as much as I talk to him and he talks to my husband some as well. We go to events together with our kids and we’ve went on vacation together (to Disney). We help each other out whenever we can. I think we have a great relationship now and I am glad that we are in each other’s lives the way we are.

incendiary_dan's avatar

I have a very good relationship with all three of my siblings. I get kind of sad when I realize a lot of people don’t. I remember one time in high school, my brother and I were passing in the hall and said “Hey!” and then did a windmill high five. Later he told me his friend said to him, “Wait, you actually talk to your brother?”

takeachance's avatar

some days we are great mates the next we hate eachother (:

janbb's avatar

Living 3,000 miles apart helps greatly.

klutzaroo's avatar

I don’t get along with my brother. He’s 15 months younger than me and at 25 still has no concept of acting like an adult. He is irresponsible and childish and my mother has spoiled him rotten while being an insufferable bitch to me. He thinks he knows everything, but is one of the most ignorant people I know because he lacks both knowledge and life experience. So no. No getting along to be found really. I barely tolerate him.

stardust's avatar

Out of my three siblings, I have a relatively good relationship with one brother. Myself and my sister haven’t spoken for a few years for reasons I don’t want to get into. We are very different on every level, but it’s a pity that things are the way they are. I’m not close with my other brother either. Our family is quite fragmented. I do feel very envious when I see the close relationships some of my friends have with their siblings.

WasCy's avatar

I have a great relationship with my middle sister (she’s the “second mother” to my kids), and even having my unemployed younger brother live with me for most of last year didn’t overly strain the relationship between us (but I hope we never have to do it again). The other two sisters can go to hell, since they made it clear that they feel that way about me. The hell of it is, I have no real idea why, but I’m not going to beg them to reconsider.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

My brother passed away in 2001. He was 5 and a half years older than me. We never had a normal relationship, if such a thing exists. He was always more dangerous than me, he molested me when I was younger, then stopped, then he blackmailed and made my life hell with my parents. Then he protected and showed me ‘the world’. Then I protected him. Things were never clear, we were never like any other brother and sister. When he died, I lost a part of myself, a mystery of sorts, a magic. I’ve regained some of it since.

beckk's avatar

I have two older sisters who are twins. They are 22 while I am only 18. I would say I have a great relationship between both of them, but they do not have such a great one with each other. They are complete opposites. I possess qualities of both of them so I find it very easy to relate to them. I’m definitely going to miss both of them when I go away for school in the fall.

Nullo's avatar

Meh. We’ve always gotten along fairly well, though we would typically have a fight or three per day, a decade or so back.I would do something, and she’d get offended, so I’d do it some more, and so on; I’ll admit that I wasn’t the best brother in the world.
Tensions eased considerably when we found an anime that we both enjoyed; having something in common helped a lot, and it was aided by the perceived semi-taboo status of the medium that drove a lot of secrecy. I’m reasonably sure that we weren’t fooling anybody, and that the folks didn’t really care, but it was fun holding cryptic conversations and smuggling the manga like proper secret agents.

We pretty much don’t bicker anymore these days, unless we’ve been in the same house too long.

perspicacious's avatar

Yes, my sister is my best girlfriend.

OpryLeigh's avatar

Most of the time my younger brother and I get on very well but I know that, even though we are both adults now, we still irritate each other from time to time.

ucme's avatar

I have two brothers, one a year older than me, the other a year younger…..mam & dad were like breeding rabbits for a while I guess. We get on just fine, wasn’t always the case though. Especially with my younger sibling, i’m amazed he lived through all those beatings XD

LukeFonFabre's avatar

I don’t really get along with my brother and sister because of communication issues. They don’t know how to sign ASL, my first langauge, and they tend to use gesture a lot to communicate me.

rock4ever's avatar

1 of my siblings I haven’t seen in years, so no relationship.
My oldest sister and brother live far away and are adults so a neutral relationship I guess.
My other brother is a has a drug problem and alcohol problem so not a very good relationship most of the time.

markylit's avatar

Yes. I have a younger brother and sister. I make sure that we all talk to each other every now and then and catch up with each other’s lives. And we also meet up atleast once a year. It has worked out really well so far.

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