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How do I tell my best friend that she shouldn't trust an old family friend?

Asked by Jellie (6492points) July 17th, 2011

My best friend’s cat is not eating but is going number 1 and number 2 normally. She took the cat to a vet who is also a very old family friend of theirs. The vet has told them that it is possible that the cat has Hep A.

Now this doctor’s reputation is very questionable as a majority of people in this city say he has killed/made worse their pets due to negligence or wrong diagnoses. He has now told my friend that her little tiny cat must get 5 shots a day for 5 days.

A similar thing happened to this friend’s dog just a month back where he was acting normal but would eat less. The vet diagnosed him with kidney stones and put him on intense treatment and the dog died within a week.

I am not at all comfortable with this doctor and think he’ll mis diagnose her cat in the same way and kill it! But if I tell her she will FLIP as her whole family trusts this person.


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Aethelflaed's avatar

Tell her that seeing as how the cat is so precious to her, she should double-check and get a second opinion, just to have her bases covered.

Jellie's avatar

She wouldn’t do it… she blindly trusts this man too much.

Aethelflaed's avatar

Well, then there’s probably nothing you can say to change her mind. But I’d try first before giving up – she might surprise you.

Kayak8's avatar

I would ask her how the vet made the diagnosis. Hepatitis simply means inflammation of the liver, but he should have run some very specific bloodwork to make the hepatitis diagnosis. To specify which Hepatitis (A, B, etc.) he would have had to do a liver biopsy.

While I don’t encourage people to treat themselves with Web MD, the fact that people do it anyway may mean your friend is open to what the internet has to say about cats and Hepatitis. Here are a few articles that might interest her:

Here and here

marinelife's avatar

Suggest to her that she get a second opinion.

john65pennington's avatar

Ask your friend if you could pay for a second opinion, from another vet.

At first, your friend may object. But, after some thought, I believe she will realize that you only have her cat and her friendship at heart.

If she really rejects your offer, then let it be. Your friendship is worth more than losing it over a cat.

Jellie's avatar

I hope she listens. Thank you, all.

CWOTUS's avatar

I question your objectivity and facts. “A majority of people in the city” is a pretty high bar – do you know even 1% of the people “in the city”? And does “a majority of people in the city” even have pets? That’s a hyperbolic and unsupportable claim for you to make, I think.

It may also be that the people you know who have taken their pets to this vet have waited until the animal is in extremis and beyond hope. Let’s hope your friend has a better result.

I’m also in agreement with @Kayak8: What tests and observations led the vet to make the diagnosis that he did? That’s what I’d believe in, not your wild accusation or a shot-in-the-dark diagnosis. Let’s have some facts, please.

Tay122's avatar

Tell her exactly what you told us.
Call the person who’s dog died. Have them speak to her.

Jellie's avatar

@CWOTUS I simply phrased my sentence in correctly. All the people I have spoken to about this vet have not told me good things about him. Other than that he is generally not known to be very competent. Either my friend is not aware of his reputation or choses to ignore it, I don’t know.

But if I am asking this question it is not based on a few experiences or just a hunch. I know of many other people whose pets seemed only slightly ill to begin with and then ended up dying. I once took my dog to him (when I didn’t know much about him) for a skin condition and this doctor gave me some sort of disinfectant spray which was way past its expiration date. The interesting thing was that he had attempted to scratch out the date on the can as well meaning he intentionally wished to mislead me.

My accusations are not wild! I would not have asked this question if I thought I was being unfair or if it would not benefit my friend. I only have her best interest at heart.

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