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Can you help me with the wording in this note?

Asked by Supacase (14543points) October 13th, 2011

Only 4 of 9 girls in the class are included in the school directory (parental choice) but my daughter wants to invite them all. I can just explain the situation and go with it, but I would hate for anyone to feel excluded. Especially the new girl. Her teacher said I can write a note for her to give the students with my contact information so the parents can get in touch with me if they want to.

What I wrote is below, but I need to find a way to write it without using the student’s name because 1) there is a new girl in class with an unusual name I don’t know how to spell and 2) I can’t remember one of the girls and it is driving me crazy.

“Supacase Jr. would very much like to invite Emma to her birthday party! Since she has asked for a girls-only fairy party, I am unable to send invitations through school and I do not have any contact information for you. We would still love to include Emma if you are comfortable with that. Please contact me at 555–1234 or and I will get an invitation to you.”

Or should I just say “screw it” and go with the four I have?

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fizzbanger's avatar

You could give your kid the 9 invitations to hand out, without names on them.

GabrielsLamb's avatar

I would ask first and then re-do it.

SpatzieLover's avatar

Supacase Jr. would very much like to invite All GIRL Classmates to her birthday party

Supacase's avatar

The teacher can’t tell me the names of the kids over the phone or through email – so I would have to go in.

I thought about using “your daughter.” Is that too generic?

@fizzbanger Can’t do it. Invitations sent through class only if all students are invited. I am not inviting 23 kids to my house even if she did want to invite boys!

SpatzieLover's avatar

@Supacase No, I don’t think “your daughter” is too generic. The kids will be delighted to be invited.

fizzbanger's avatar

@Supacase Oh no, I forgot about schools being all P.C. and whatnot nowadays :(

Bellatrix's avatar

Why don’t you just say “would like to invite you to her…” and “we would still like to include you….”

Please ask your parents to contact me on….

Then hand nine of these to the teacher. Also saves the teacher having to make sure the right student gets an invite. If the student is female, she gets a note.

Ela's avatar

If you drop off or pick up your daughter from school, go a bit early and see if you can catch Emma’s parent to talk to them directly? (pending they drop off/pick up also)

Jeruba's avatar

I’m confused by this part:

Since she has asked for a girls-only fairy party, I am unable to send invitations through school

This says that because it’s a certain kind of party, the invitations can’t be sent through school. Is that correct? What if it were some other kind of party? (And—I’m sorry, but what’s a fairy party? I’m just curious.)

Bellatrix's avatar

@Jeruba. I suspect they all come dressed as fairies, with tutus and little wings and eat food like fairy bread and very pretty, delicate cupcakes.

janbb's avatar

Can’t you daughter find out the new girl’s name?

Ela's avatar

The invitations can not be passed out in school unless the entire class is invited (all 23 in this case). My children’s school had the same policy.
My guess on the fairy party would be Tinkerbell-like dinnerware, decorations and cake.

…with sparklies!! must have it sparkle ; )

Supacase's avatar

@Jeruba It isn’t because it is a fairy party. It is because it is a girls-only party. Boys won’t be invited, which means the entire class won’t be invited, so I cannot pass invitations out at school. I can leave out the word “fairy”.

A fairy party is a party with a fairy theme. Along the lines of Tinkerbell, but she doesn’t want any famous fairies for some reason.

@janbb She kind of knows the girl’s name, but it is a foreign name and she hasn’t gotten the pronunciation down quite yet. I can think of about 15 ways to spell what it sounds like she is saying.

janbb's avatar

@Supacase Maybe she could ask the girl to write it down?

Supacase's avatar

They are in Kindergarten. I’m sure the girl knows how to spell her name, but relying on my daughter to remember and take care of this (at an appropriate time so she won’t get in trouble for talking… again) is probably not my best option.

I think I’ll just go with the generic “your daughter” and “her.”

Ela's avatar

Once I looked up a last name in the phonebook and called them all until I got the correct one : )

Stinley's avatar

I would say ‘your daughter’ and ask for the correct spelling of her name. This would cover both the new girl and the forgotten girl. I’d also make it more clear that it is school policy as some might be as confused as we were:-)

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