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What makes a person loyal?

Asked by ANef_is_Enuf (26789points) January 23rd, 2012

Can someone be loyal to multiple people, and still be loyal? How would you describe a person that you think of as loyal?

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trivenishettar's avatar

Loyality is something that every person has in him. It is not particularly with one person. Loyality with parents will be different, with siblings it again differs and with a partner it still differs. If we think from the deepest corner of our heart we want to be loyal to all the people whom we love and who love us in turn. but sometimes we fail to to be loyal to multiple people when pressure, burden, fear and frustration increases. Ultimately we end up leaving a person in pain who actually loves us truly madly and deeply. But somewhere that guilt remains forever if that person really matters to you. I am getting very emotional. Sorry can’t express more.

smilingheart1's avatar

We can always be loyal in support and affection whereas we can’t always agree with mindsets and behaviors. There are times when being loyal has an expiry date though, an instance might be when toxicity enters a relationship and mutual willingness to repair is not there. Another example is keeping on with a tradition that has lost value or even a spiritual gathering where beliefs begin to shift from where one was to a different view from the original place of seeing.

thorninmud's avatar

A loyal person can be relied upon to support the best interests of those to whom she’s loyal. The thing is, that may sometimes require opposing the will or actions of those to whom one is loyal, because people (countries, institutions, etc.) don’t always act in their own overall best interests.

There’s a twisted perversion of loyalty that expects a person to subjugate her own good judgment to that of another. True loyalty never involves abrogating one’s own judgment; it involves mobilizing that judgment in service to the well-being of others.

Viewed that way, one can certainly be loyal to many people, because ultimately all our best interests are intertwined.

john65pennington's avatar

I was loyal and dedicated to my police department for 44 years.

I am also loyal and dedicated to my wife of 46 years.

This is a lot of loyalty and it was not easy.

Temptation is always there.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

It takes a very strong ethical constitution, but it is very possible.

AshLeigh's avatar

Beating them like a dog? I hear dogs are loyal…

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@AshLeigh Please don’t say beating them like a dog. I know you’re kidding but someone’s going to think you’re serious and give you crap.

Blackberry's avatar

Doing what the other person says/wants.

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

Loyalty to me is not throwing them under the bus, not talking crap about them and defending them if someone else is doing so, not deliberately setting them up for a fall, not lying to them. Seems to me that there is no limit to how many people you can be loyal to under this definition.

AnonymousWoman's avatar

A person who is loyal wants to be loyal for some reason or other. Yes, it’s possible to be loyal to several people.

flutherother's avatar

Multiple loyalties are OK as long as they aren’t inconsistent.

Paradox25's avatar

I’d always thought of loyalty as being there for a person even when it may not be a popular thing to do so. I think that one can be loyal to multiple people if the line of not betraying another person you claim that you’re loyal to is not crossed in the process. The latter thing can be a very difficult thing to do though.

Earthgirl's avatar

What makes a person loyal?
I think it would vary. It’s a sense of obligation which you have for a person. If they helped you out in bad times, if they nurtured you, if they supported you, you feel obligated to return the favor. Sometimes you feel a sense of loyalty because they are in your family. Family ties are often strong and even if the person in question has not done right by you, you might still be loyal to them because they are family. The same with long friendships with lots of shared history. Even if a friendship goes bad you might still feel loyal to the person because of your past relationship being positive. I guess that is just another form of obligation in that case, one that you choose to honor in spite of a falling out.

Why is one person loyal and the next is not?
I guess everyone has their own personal code of ethics. Part of it is how loyal you feel the need to be. It’s a form of gratitude, payback. It is stronger in some people than in others. Could be upbringing and values instilled or it could be just an innate propensity to be conscientious to others.

Can you be loyal to multiple people and still be loyal?
Yes, as long as you are not harming one person by aiding the other.

How would you describe a person that you think of as loyal?
They defend you perhaps verbally, perhaps physically, when others are attacking you, ridiculing you, or harming you in any way.
They help you when you are in need in any way that they are able.
They are there to listen and not judge you.
In other words they know the meaning of true friendship.
You cannot be a good friend,if you are not loyal, I don’t think.

EverRose11's avatar

Money, love, friendship,patriotism, religion, conformity, greed and ambition are all motivator ‘s toward loyalty. Loyalty can also be inspired by either positive or negative feelings, Can someone be loyal to multiple people? I would say if he or she feels loved or admired , that may push one to feel a loyalty to what they feel are their followers.

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