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Soubresaut's avatar

How would you react to this reappearance?

Asked by Soubresaut (13709points) February 17th, 2012

Let’s say—
There’s someone you knew for a while (maybe: a few years, to quite a few,) and maybe knew well. You at least saw them on a daily basis for an extended period of time, in a common skill/craft/profession, and were around them enough to care about them. Maybe you’re their mentor, maybe you just worked with them. They could be a little difficult, but they always were there, on time, and worked fairly hard.
Then, they stop showing up. Really they give no reason or goodbye or acknowledgement, they just disappear.
A year and a half/two years later, they come to an event of yours, entirely unannounced.

How do you respond?—What are you thinking/feeling? What do you do/are you like?

This may come off as a little vague—fill in the details, the context, as you see it. Your response could be anything, just honestly, what would it be?

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Coloma's avatar

If you seemed to have a good relationship, work or friendship or both, or more, or whatever, I’d be extremely shocked after pulling a disappearing act like that.
I’d think it even more bizarre if they offered no explanation.
People, they’re nuts!

My response, I dunno, I think I’d just observe and let them circle for an approach. lol

Garebo's avatar

I love it, he said f’it, and I am sure people he cared about, he let them know. He still participates, why shouldn’t he. He has just as much right and prominence to many people as you probably do, even if he is the well endowed janitor..

Jeruba's avatar

I’d say “I’m so happy to see you again, @DancingMind. I hope you’re okay. You know I still care about you. If you’d ever like to talk about what happened, you know where to find me.”

augustlan's avatar

I think I’d be happily surprised, and would try to make arrangements to get together more privately in the near future. I’d want to know what happened.

marinelife's avatar

I probably would welcome them with open arms.

CaptainHarley's avatar

Pleased surprise?

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’d probably exclaim something “Wow, you’re alive. What happened to you?!”...then I’d notice their reticence and probably email them later asking for details after I get their card.

downtide's avatar

Pleasantly surprised, folloed by a hug (if appropriate for the kind of friendship we had) and “Where the hell have you been all this time?”

stavepark's avatar

I also welcome them with my grand opening of a champagne bottle.

SpatzieLover's avatar

I’d be grateful to have them back.

filmfann's avatar

Do they now have prison tattoos? It might explain where they have been.

I am always happy to see long absent friends.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

@Jeruba – what a perfect answer. I’d have said that if you had not already done so.

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