Do you know anybody else who does this with bourbon and cigarettes?
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July 8th, 2016
The sixty five year old husband of a close friend of mine quit smoking fifteen years ago. He also stopped drinking in the evenings. She told me that whenever they go out to dinner which is about twice a week he has three or four Crown and Cokes then drives the thirty miles home. A few days ago they went to spend the holiday with his grown daughter. My friend woke up at five a.m. and he wasn’t in bed. She found him talking to his daughter and smoking cigarettes. They had chatted for seven hours. Do you know anyone else with this odd behavior? I know some very strange people! Like attracts like I guess.
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People who chronically drink and drive, and hide their smoking from their wives?
Probably. But I don’t make it a point to pry.
I don’t pry either if that’s what you meant. She calls me every Saturday morning for a three hour chat. At that time she tells me all the “sins” her husband commits. Not that we don’t talk about many other things too.
He hasn’t “quit smoking” and he hasn’t “stopped drinking in the evenings.” He is just afraid to do it around his wife or at home.
@Aster – I never suggested you were prying. I said that I don’t make a point to know that much about my friends’ lives.
@zenvelo That’s an interesting thought. It never occurred to me. He’s retired, though, and is home with her most of each day with the exception of an hour at the gym.
I know many people who have stopped smoking and then started again. I know many people who try to control their drinking only to fail.
Relationships in which one partner hides things from another partner are dysfunctional and are in need of counseling.
@Seek ok but she asks me all sorts of questions about my life.The drinking and smoking part was revealed with no encouragement by me. She has told me hours of tales regarding her childhood. Mine wasn’t that interesting so she doesn’t ask about that. I think she’s telling me so many things because her life- long best friend died last year.
@Hawaii_Jake If you’re right then I think most relationships are dysfunctional. I certainly don’t tell my s/o 100% of stuff about me. He already knows 90% and that’s fine. Or maybe it’s too much. lol
I think it would be sensible of her to buy him a bottle of Crown for home. Perhaps even offer to “serve” him 3 or 4 during dinner, a couple of times a week.
Tell him honestly that it’s not the drinking she objects to, it’s the drinking and driving.
Yes, I’ve known people that only smoked occasionally.
A three hour chat every Saturday? Wow no wonder he still drinks. She never shuts up.
He gets at least a 3 hour respite every Saturday, @chyna.
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