My boyfriend wants to have a threeway kiss, and a threesome, am I not enough?
Well, we are still in highschool, and we’ve been together for a year pretty much, but all of a sudden he wants me to kiss other girls, and have a threeway kiss and/or a threesome, I explain to him how much that hurts me, but he still doesn’t seem to care, I can’t help but think, he doesn’t want me anymore. I thought the sex I was giving him was like great, but I guess, it really wasnt. I know its a dream for every man, but do you think he’s tired of me?
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Ohh, You don’t mind if I bring wrestle into this thread do you?, I know Somethings but he he knows the most. You mind?
Hold it right there! This may not seem like a serious question, I have reason to believe this person is What-you-call-it, a Stalker, or something like that.
It doesn’t mean you are inadequate. Men; especially boys are really curious about all things sexual. He is totally into the fun he thinks it might be. He probably is getting off on the idea of having two girls attend to him. He probably still wants you. Men seem to have an easier time separating sex from love. So I don’t think he’s tired of you.
However, if you don’t want to do it, don’t. If you lose him, too bad. He’s not worth it. However, it might make him want you more. Seriously, I would not do it. It could lead to all kinds of painful places and insecurities.
Any way from what i know, since i’m a guy, other guys find it hot or on turning if they see a girl on girl, and if joining in…..whoa, it goin to be a craaazy night, woo. so you might want to consider it, you might.
True I often heard from other guys in my school that it’s a rush.
If you don’t want to do it, be firm with him and don’t do it.
It is less of a concern to me that he ‘wants’ to have a 3-way, than that you’ve TOLD him how much this hurts you and he continues. This is saying he is not honoring your feelings, but wanting his own at the expense of yours. That would not be okay with me. I hope it’s not with you.
Just want to echo what daloon, PnT & Seeker have said: Don’t do something like this just because he wants to. If you want to, fine, but if – as you said – it makes you uncomfortable, stand firm and say no!
In the long run, losing someone who wants you to do things you don’t want to, will hurt a lot less than doing something that hurts and makes you uncomfortable!
If he forces you into this, it harassment.
if he forces you in to a threesome it’s (at least) borderline rape!
True and you can send him to court.
if he said that he’s a pervert and doesnt love you. For your info not all men engage in sexual relationship before marriage and sin of flesh.
God Bless.
NecroKing mocking wont get you far.
Oh for a teenager, this guy is well on his way to being a player. A threeway kiss would be awkward and pretty uncomfortable but if he could get that, he is well on his way to something else. Tell him you mght go for it but you’re interested in kissing two guys and see if he wants to liplock a dude. LOL
My “hobby’ is spoiling women as best I can, and if Valentine’s Day occurred once a month, instead of once a year, I’d be as happy as a pig in manure.
One of the things I enjoy arranging for my women, is a 3-some for her and two men, and I will let her decide if I am to be one of the men.
I have never known a woman to turn down such an opportunity, when seriously presented to her.
August 24, 2008, 2:00 PM EDT
You deserve better. I agree with seeker and wildflower.
Jack maybe you are a pig in manure and that explains it.
GG, that doesn’t begin to explain it. I don’t know what does. I mean, I’ve been sitting here for fifteen minutes trying to see how it could make sense. The only explanation that seems to have any traction with me is that guys who treat women as things, human things, but things, none the less, might do a thing like this. I swear. This has me hornswoggled. Usually I’ve got a theory about everything. This, I can’t even begin to make sense out of it.
Never mind most of us understand it quite well.
If he’s trying to force you to do something that you don’t want to do, he doesn’t really care about you. Tell him to drop it or get lost.
A bit off topic, but I’m with daloon re. JackAdams’ response. It sounds like “his women” are generic and interchangeable, to be enjoyed for certain experiences, rather than people to connect with emotionally, intellectually – and physically.
Not really a view I can understand or accept.
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If it hurts you and he doesn’t acknowledge it, you deserve a better boyfriend.
He is more interested in his fantasies and sexual needs than he is in your feelings. It has nothing to do with you being adequate in any way.
Remember that and think enough of yourself to dump him.
@ Marina – very, very well put.
Marina’s answer is EXCELLENT. Check the “Great Answer” spot, as I did.
August 25, 2008, 4:30 AM EDT
I concur, Marina. Well put!
As a younger man, I nagged my then girlfriend to have a threesome with a hot chick she worked with. After several months, it finally happened. The first time was great, after that, the girls figured out that they really did not need me for anything. The two girls became a couple, I became a wiser single man—an soon started dating my now wife.
Point is, the boyfriend has no idea what kind of can of worms he is about to open up.
I am so womanfully avoiding temptation here.
However, hats’ off to Daloon for “hornswoggled,” which goes into my “must use immediately list” and to Marina for her forbearance. I am tying myself to the mast.
Hey! I have a patent on that word! ;-)
@ allengreen – I commend you for sharing that story. Thanks.
Daloon; not after your poem about “gormless gits,” you don’t.
what are you doing having sex at such a young age, Am I alone on this one?
I’m surprised no one has said anything.
Unless you already had a 3some since this question is 4 days old…
Nope, I have to climb on board with you windex.
@gail: well, I tried! ;-) But my agents are out there, buying up the rights from anyone who will sell! I tell you, “hornswoggled” will be mine! All mine!
young age? how old are you windex?
Me? why is that relevant?
If she’s in HS then I’m just assuming she 16ish
Do you really think that the Average 16 year old is mature enough and mentally ready?
a teenager’s brain is still developing/maturing (whatever you wanna call it)
If you don’t think this is going to affect her for the rest of her life, then OK…sex away
1 Year and he’s asking for 3somes? (COMON! and still in HS…thanks TV)
Oh shit! my bad I’m having attention problems here I meant MattAmber!!
yeah, I’m only 16. Its sorta young for kids to be having sex, I do agree.
Hey you only live once, LIVE IT UP GIRL!!!!
Not really the attitude to have when your dealing with another potential human being who’s life will rely on you, someone who had sex at such a young age.
If you want to get reckless, how about 13 items in the 10 or less isle?
I don’t suppose there’s much point in suggesting not becoming sexually active yet – I suspect it’s too late for that!
However, as a few people have already pointed out, during your teens, your feelings and thoughts are confusing enough just figuring yourself out, adding sexual experimentation to the mix – when doubtful of the experiment beforehand – can’t be a good idea!!
@MattxAmber: You will make your own decision, I can only encourage you to not enter in to something you don’t feel good about that could make you feel far far worse after!
Yes, do keep in mind that Necro and Wrestle are licensed and trained Therapists and have been in analysis themselves for years. So treat them as the mature experts in human behavior that they are.
Thanks, I actually knew this girl, who wanted to remain with her boyfriend but her boyfriend wanted her to join a threesome, he forced her, and I advised her to get a court order, it worked.
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