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eponymoushipster's avatar

my guess is it’s hard for him to get it in the cup by that point. but if he’s up for it…

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Torn. It’s easy to say couples should put aside their eggs and sperm for a rainy day with documents of intention but most don’t and I have no idea how much it would cost. From my own selfish reaction, I’d want the option to have my dead husband’s child but only with support and consent from his relatives.

In reference to the article you cite, no I wouldn’t support that.

Zaku's avatar

I think it’s ok with the man’s consent. If there were women wanting to have children with my sperm after I die, er, I can think of women to whom I’d agree to that request. I wonder what the kids might think, though.

Dog's avatar

I think it should not be allowed unless the donor had given written consent in advance of death.

One has to ponder if he would have wanted his children fatherless.

SeventhSense's avatar

Sure why not, but it has to be a real special girl.
The Rolling Stones sang about her in Start me Up.
“You could make a dead man come”..
I don’t know her name but I imagine she’s in demand. :)

casheroo's avatar

I agree with @Dog about the link provided.

dynamicduo's avatar

Why go through all that trouble just for a dead stiff? :D

This can only be legal if the man has written expressed consent and desire for this action. Without a written and signed document, this should be denied. It’s stealing, plain and simple. The sperm does not belong to the mother. Hearsay is not permissible as evidence, generally. If he wanted to have children even if he was dead, he should have written this into his will. That’s why they call it a will, after all. The fact that a 21 year old doesn’t have a will is sad, but other 21 year olds can learn from this.

I mean, I would still have issues if it was his wife who was asking for his sperm. The fact that it’s his mother adds a whole other angle of rights to this story – now the mother gets to choose who will create her grandchildren, with no input from the father whatsoever? That just strikes me as being wrong. His genetics are his property, and I don’t believe the mother has any right over the ownership of them at all.

Dansedescygnes's avatar

We debated this in government class yesterday and I said this almost verbatim: “I think it should not be allowed unless the donor had given written consent in advance of death.”

I stand by that.

YARNLADY's avatar

It sounds to me like the mother has a mental health problem. Without more evidence that the father really wanted this to happen, I am against it.

ratboy's avatar

I don’t believe dead people have rights, nor do I think they need them. In this instance, I think the propriety of the act would depend of the degree of putrefaction exhibited by the corpse.

SeventhSense's avatar

I think the propriety of the act would depend of the degree of putrefaction exhibited by the corpse.
This is an inane statement. This had to be done like the article mentioned in a timely fashion.
The living and the dead have rights to be unmolested and have dignity regarding their last will and testimony.

YARNLADY's avatar

@SeventhSense While the biology of this case is not in dispute, to me it is not the dignity of the dead, but the life and rights of the possible offspring.

SeventhSense's avatar

I do think it’s probably a devastated mother’s attempt at holding on to her son’s life. And that most certainly must be heart wrenching. The only issue I see might be the child’s being reared as the focus of a mothers transferrence and the legality of the act itself in lieu of a real will.
But what would you dispute about the rights of the offspring?

YARNLADY's avatar

@SeventhSense Based strictly on the reports I have read of the grandmother, my opinion is that she is somewhat mentally impaired. I have grandchildren, and I am exceptionally happy about that, but no way would I ever consider the result she has asked for.

SeventhSense's avatar

Yes, it does sound like an act of a desperate spouse more than a mother.
On a diiferent note, I actually had a cousin who conceived a child on his honeymoon and died a couple of weeks later. She gave birth to a sweet little boy who is the spitting image of his father.

theluckiest's avatar

It’s fun for the whole family!
But seriously it’s kinda gross. C’mon ppl.

danimal's avatar

it should be with the husbands consent, kind of like organ donor. put a little white sticker on your license and his family can get his sperm.

I don’t have kids yet, if i died unexpectedly and there was a possibility of reproduction then I know myself and my forefathers would greatly appreciate it. I was actually talking to my g/f just last week about if she would have my babies if i kept some sperm at a bank and i died unexpectedly before we were ready.

I was pleased when she said “yes.. i guess?”

YARNLADY's avatar

I can see where is would be acceptable for some people. I lost my first husband when our baby was a month old, and that baby was the only thing that made my life worth living.

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