I really am attracted to this girl, and I want her, what should I do?
I’m relationship oriented, though I have had one night stands last a few years. I’m rather shy, and/or socially retarded. I got scorched in my last relationship, and I’m half the man I used to be, scared to get wounded that deeply again, if/is that possible.
oh and my sister just had a healthy baby girl
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first of all congrats! you’re an uncle now!
Second: man, I’ve been burned twice in a row. I guess in my case that did it. I’m gay now.. much better… Kidding…
The point is that you get fried once/twice, you will never commit to a relationship with the same amount of trust as you previously had. You just gotta make sure the girls is worth it. If this is the case,... give a little and receive a lot
Remember. You MUST risk something in order to win something back!
Best of luck to you!
LE: yeah,as someone said, doing some reading actually helps… i’ve read something from David Deangello (i think this was the guy’s name).. anyways, it was pretty good lecture ;)
Sorry to hijak this question, I’m trying to ask a question and can’t get past the first page, I click on “Start a discussion” then nothing !! Obviously you are not having this issue as you just asked. Any help?
Get to know her. Find out what you have in common and do that together. Find out how close she really comes to your fantasy image of her. Find out how close you come to her fantasy man.
If it is a match, sweet. If not, no harm no foul. You were just trying to see how it might work out.
Without risk, there is little reward in relationships.
Don’t take out your past experiences on the next girl. The chances are good that you will get hurt again, maybe badly. It’s part of the human experience.
Read this book and do about 10% of what it says.
Approach the girl. “Hey, do you want to go get coffee sometime?” Or, “Hey, you want to go catch a movie with me?”
If you don’t know her well, you’re not in love with her so much as with your imaginary version of her. Step 1 is to get to know her.
You man up and ask her out
THAT’S WHAT YOU CAN DO
Just be your socially retarded shy self of course! When a girl can like/love you at your worst (or what you think is your worst but others probably love you for) at the beginning it can only get better. Good luck!
What does this have to do with either “Jews”, “Republicans” or “Fat Chicks” as your topics indicate?
I like to cast my nets wide
If you want a serious relationship; one that is a real relationship, not a pretend one; you have no choice but to open your chest, take out your heart, and hand it to her, still beating, on her favorite plate.
May I ask how long it’s been since you’ve tried to contact her?
I am secretly hoping the guy that I like is like you… so that I have an explanation as to why he hasn’t called me. :(
And by the way, I’d definitely ask her to hang out.
I was like you except as a girl asking a guy… I am shy and socially awkward, and never been in a relationship so I had nothing to lose – yet I am still so afraid to open my heart to others. So I took a risk for sure… the “date” turned out okay. Didn’t fall in love or anything but it got my foot in the door of at least a friendship that could turn into something else.
You can do it. The potential reward weighs much more than the risk.
So @lostinyoureyes what are you doing later? Can I interest you in some magenta riblets?
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