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What is your take on interracial dating?

Asked by mponochie (677points) September 5th, 2009

I am looking for a different prospective. I have mixed emotions about this would love to hear what others think as long as they can be respectful with their opinions.

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dpworkin's avatar

There is no such thing, as there is no such thing as race. I don’t object to dating between, say a man with blue eyes and blond hair, and a woman with brown hair and green eyes.

peyton_farquhar's avatar

Race is an artificial construct. I object to interracial dating as much as I object to dating between a leprechaun and a wood elf.
@Ivan the mods be quick on their feet tonight!

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

Why do you have mixed emotions about interracial dating?

perplexism's avatar

@mponochie Why do you have mixed emotions about it?

If I’m involved with someone, I’m with the person, not the color.

Supacase's avatar

A non-issue other than the fact that he couple involved will have to deal with idiots who have a problem with it and insist on making their opinions known.

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

@peyton_farquhar in all fairness those Leprachauns are always getting into nasty things and mischief…

DominicX's avatar

That there shouldn’t even be a term for it because it’s such a non-issue in my mind. I am being serious; that is my opinion.

Dog's avatar

As long as a couple are both consenting adults appearance does not matter. When it comes down to it we are all just souls inhabiting the same planet.

AC's avatar

One human dating another seems a reasonable thing to do in my book.

What I think about the way some people react to that is probably the answer to a different question.

Qingu's avatar

I’m okay with interracial dating as long as one of the races in question are not black, Asian, Hispanic, Arabic, Irish, Italian, German, Aryan, Ashkenazi, Bushman, Inuit, Pole, Atlantian, or Dark-Elf.

I don’t think those races should mix but the rest of the races are okay I guess.

Edit: wizards should not date muggles.

seVen's avatar

I wouldn’t mind dating any girl from human race. Why we call it a race anyway, am I competing with someone?

dpworkin's avatar

@Qingu What evidence have you that any of the human variations of which you rehearsed a catalog are races at all? I’d be very interested to learn what makes ordinary genetic variation “racial”. How many races are there? Are Ashkenazic Jews of a different race than Sephardic Jews? You seem to say so. Please elaborate.

Facade's avatar

I have no issues with it and am attracted to attractive people of all skin colors. Although, I have only dated guys who were at least part black. I kinda wish I had the chance to date other races, but I’m happy with my chocolate hunny teehee

Qingu's avatar

@pdworkin, obviously, races are different from each other based on their color palettes. Like in Final Fantasy games, where you have to fight “imps” in one area and then “red imps” in another area. And on the volcano-filled continent you fight “dark imps” or “black imps.” And don’t even get me started on the races of imps that live on the moon.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Are the people involved happy together? Then it’s all good.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

I’ve discussed this with someone before.

Their stance was (and I’m paraphrasing) “if everyone was to take that stance (that interracial dating should be encouraged) I think the world would lose out on something so beautiful.”

I feel that when two people truly love each other, something beautiful will come from it regardless of skin color.

Qingu's avatar

@The_Compassionate_Heretic, oh man, that reminds me of this KKK website I remember seeing (I’m not going to bother searching for it, nor would I link to it).

It had a bunch of pictures of rainbows and explained that the Klan doesn’t hate anyone, they love all of God’s created races. But when you mix all of the pretty colors of the rainbow together, you get the color of mud. (Presumably the site confused the nature of paint-based colors with the nature of light-based colors) So the KKK is really just interested in preserving the individual beauty of all the races.

It was actually kind of cute. Of course, I’m weirdly amused by racists.

evegrimm's avatar

I, personally, am not bothered by it. However, some of the older members of my family are.

I find it impressive when two people can overcome the prejudice over interracial dating to find eachother.

I don’t think race matters at all. (My mother, who is a second-grade teacher, says that her students have no clue about the differences in skin color. They don’t even see it. How horrible that it is something that is taught to us!)

After a while, once I get to know people, I forget that others are ‘different’ except in the sense that they have different stances on issues or different opinions about movies or whatever. It takes an outsider to point out, for instance, that two of my friends are Asian, or that a teacher is of Semitic origin.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

I see no reason why it shouldn’t be done. The only issue is that people think it’s an issue.

brinibear's avatar

@The_Compassionate_Heretic I agree. I am a child of a mixed raced relationship, and I consider myself beautiful, cause I’m different, unique. There is nobody in the world that will have the same shade of olive that I have. And not many people can say that they are uh-oh Oreos ( white on the outside, black on the inside. My brother is an oreo) We are proud of who we are. As long a there is love involved, race, isn’t there. It doesn’t exist.

markyy's avatar

Why do we keep all of these types of people under the umbrella term caucasian, yet we feel the need to make distinction based on color. I don’t want to sound like this politically correct person, but a black girl would be just as interracial compared to my body type as a Euro-mediterranean type.

mattbrowne's avatar

What is your take on interhairdye dating? Redhead dating a brunette?

rooeytoo's avatar

I think people date other people to whom they are attracted.

I fell in love with an Australian (I am American), even though there are many similarities there are also many differences in our cultural backgrounds.

When 2 people come from completely different cultural backgrounds, I can see how it could present serious difficulties to a relationship. Many people will say love conquers all and perhaps it can but lots of compromises must be made and that can breed resentment and unhappiness.

veronasgirl's avatar

The term “Interacial Dating” really bothers me. You aren’t dating outside your species, you are dating another human being.
I understand that if other members of the couple’s families are racist, or there are major cultural differences between the couple, it can make it hard to have a good relationship, but that shouldn’t stop two people who really love and respect one another. There is always a compromise.

hearkat's avatar

I am a member of the human race. I believe that love is already quite difficult to find; so why would I limit my options based on features over which the person had no control?

I have dated men of various ethnicities, religious backgrounds, and physical builds. Yes, sometimes we’d get an askew glance from total strangers, but that means nothing to me… I choose the person based on their character.

syz's avatar

I find that I can’t formulate a polite enough answer to this question. I’m stumped.

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

@syz meaning you’re against interracial dating and you don’t want to offend those that are for it, or you’re for it and don’t want to offend those that are against it?

syz's avatar

Meaning that it’s so disappointing that this question even exists anymore. Racism lives on.

benjaminlevi's avatar

@Qingu Why can’t wizards date muggles?!?

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

@benjaminlevi the wizards don’t put out, muggles are all sluts by nature, just doesn’t work out, kind of taboo now a days.

benjaminlevi's avatar

@ABoyNamedBoobs03 I am both muggle and non-slut.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Interracial dating isn’t the problem, its that damned interspecies dating that causes so much of an uproar around here. ~

alive's avatar

i didn’t know “interracial” dating even existed anymore….it has never crossed my mind… in the sense that “race” has nothing to do with whom i date, or anyone else i see dating.

benjaminlevi's avatar

@ABoyNamedBoobs03 So I am a wizard but never knew it?! No one told me, I’m just like HP

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

@benjaminlevi you may very well be, it’s kind of like finding out you were adopted when you’re already in your 20s.

OpryLeigh's avatar

It has never been an issue to me who someone else is dating as long as it’s legal (ie: one person isn’t underage) and both are consenting. I am in an “age gap” relationship which many people have something negative to say about but both myself and my partner are perfectly happy and that’s all that matters. I feel the same way about any relationship with it’s interracial, homosexual, age gap etc

CrammaDoodle's avatar

I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. It is 2011! I’m a white girl and I’m dating a black guy and I seriously have never been happier in my life. He is the sweetest guy I’ve ever met in my life and I wouldn’t pick anyone else.
It shouldn’t matter what color peoples skin is. You should like someone for their personality not for their looks!

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