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Can you help me figure out what this dream means (see details)

Asked by SamIAm (8690points) July 27th, 2010

Okay… so I’m going to preface this by saying that a. I’m not a mean person b. I can barely kill a fly and c. I love my sister VERY much, she is my best friend.

I had a dream early this morning that I killed my sister. The dream was extremely vivid – I shot her in the head, standing just feet away from her. I can picture the image of her with the bullet in between her eyes, but there was no blood. I was very much so “in” the dream, everything was kind of hazy and I had no reason as to why I did this. I told a friend after and he said something to the effect of “you’re probably going to regret this in the morning.” The dream continued on and some of her old friends were in it, along with my parents—no one was crying or even too upset with me, but I was completely distraught and feeling great remorse, but still in a hazey state. There was more to the dream but it was all unrelated to this incident.

I woke up very upset and concerned. My sister and I are on great terms and as I mentioned, I love her with all of my heart. I have no reason to have had this dream and it kind of freaked me out. Any suggestions as to what this may mean?

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marinelife's avatar

“To dream that you kill someone, indicates that you are on the verge of losing your temper and self-control. Consider the person you have killed and ask yourself if you feel any rage towards him or her in your waking life. Your dream may be expressing some hidden anger. Alternatively, you may be trying to kill an aspect of yourself that is represented by the person killed. Identify the characteristics of this person and ask yourself which of these qualities you are trying to put an end to.”

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SamIAm's avatar

@marinelife: The beginning is so obvious to me… and we were recently not talking but are totally fine now. There are things about her that I wish were different and things that I resent, I am wondering if I am hating some of those characteristics within myself. Thank you!

Coloma's avatar

Sounds like you’re getting down to the nitty gritty…hidden resentments, jealousies, maybe.

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

I agree with @marinelife.

Write a list of the things that you don’t like about your sister. See which ones you have yourself. Your sister is simply mirroring those aspects of yourself…that you want to “kill off”...and you do that by healing yourself and getting rid of those aspects in you. If your sister (for example) is loud or possessive or materialistic…then see where you might have those in you. And then, work on eliminating those negative traits in you.

This is what is referred to as a “big dream” in shamanism. That is, it is a very powerful dream that can be used to teach you something very important about yourself.

To heal the dream in yourself and its frightening impact el susto (and this is for anyone who has a disturbing dream) you re-enact your dream by yourself and change the ending. This is really therapeutic. Basically, do this in private…close the bedroom door or wherever you can have a few minutes by yourself. Imagine yourself back in the scene…and re-create all the dream that you can remember. Physically walk it through and talk aloud and have the characters in the dream answer you back (in your imagination.) Then, change the ending to a good one. In your case, when you see your sister, you give her a hug and tell her you love her, instead of the violence. Continue the dream—- changing whatever you need changing…with everyone giving you both a party, for example…all the friends and family in the dream giving you a party. This is a great way to spiritually change the impact the dream had on you…but you still need to address the issues the original dream brought up.

Hope this helps….!

stardust's avatar

@Samantha_Rae It does sound like you’re getting it there. Our dreams are about us, regardless of who pops up in them. Maybe take the place of each element in the dream, such as yourself, your sister, the weapon and so on. Feel how it is to be each one of these and see what questions arise from that.

stardust's avatar

@DarlingRhadamanthus This is very helpful. I’m going to note this for myself. Thanks!

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

@stardust…Glad to help…! The latter really is powerful and you feel better…especially after a nightmare has disturbed you. (You gave a great and helpful answer as well!)

Coloma's avatar


Yes, thanks for the refresher on ‘mirroring’.
One of the great truths! :-)

janedelila's avatar

@DarlingRhadamanthus I wish I could give you triple lurve for that answer! I have had nightmares for years, nearly every night. I never have heard that technique, but will definitely try it. It took me a long time to acquire lucid dreaming skills, which don’t help. In my case, anyhow.

wundayatta's avatar

What strikes me in this is the lack of emotion. As you described it, you didn’t have any strong feelings while doing these things, and your friend didn’t get all that upset and your parents didn’t seem upset.

The only one with real emotions is you, and you are distraught and upset, and yet, it’s all kind of hazy.

Dreams, I think, can often be doors into our emotional state. They can be messages from ourselves to ourselves. They not necessarily have anything to do with the ostensible circumstances of the dream.

Thus, you may be working through some feelings of guilt, and your mind placed those feeling in this situation. No one else takes it seriously because they all know this is your internal stuff, not external stuff. Or maybe they aren’t paying attention to your feelings in a way you want them to.

I’m getting the sense that you might feel like you don’t matter to people in your life as much as you want to matter.

Isn’t this fun? Trying to make sense out of the senseless? I could do it all day long!

daytonamisticrip's avatar

I’m really into dreams and psychology and i know a lot about it. I’m thinking that sometimes you just want to shoot her because you get annoyed.The fact there was no blood says that you wouldn’t really shoot her.

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