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If you are married, whats the best and worst thing about it?

Asked by Mom2BDec2010 (2666points) October 8th, 2010

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BoBo1946's avatar

I was for almost 20 years. Best thing about it, not married anyone! The details would be biased. So, this is my story.

Deja_vu's avatar

@Mom2BDec2010 Details? What’s the meat of your question? other than ”...”. What’s on your mind girl?

Pandora's avatar

Best thing is waking up next to him every morning. :)
Worst, tv remote control freak!

Deja_vu's avatar

@Pandora The good definitely out weighs the bad, eh? Thats’ sweet

cazzie's avatar

Just generally speaking… because personal details are WAAAY too biased here…...:

The best thing, is knowing that you have someone to call and tell news to, or someone to come home to and share good or bad news with…. Like having a ‘mandatory’ friend… sort of.

The worst thing is sharing space… sometimes. Having their stuff all over the place… from their ‘hobby stuff’ to dirty clothes, dirty dishes… it gets annoying.

Loried2008's avatar

Best thing? Knowing I have only one person to love like this for the rest of my life and that he lives for my happiness (as I live for his). Worst thing? The only thing I can think of is the struggle we face getting financial independence at this point.

marinelife's avatar

Best thing is always having someone there for you. To hear your thoughts, to share trips with, to sleep lying next to, to make love whenever.

Worst? Dealing with their neuroses as well as your own.

Cruiser's avatar

Divorce is the worst part of it and the cruelness involved is unmatched by any other experience I have had in my life.

Blackberry's avatar

Pro: Someone you can really get to know who will become your best friend and lover over time.
Con: You can’t have sex with anyone else or act on your feelings for anyone else.

Blackberry's avatar

@Cruiser I agree, only a divorce has caused to me to feel true disgust, anger, and hatred. I didn’t even know I was capable of those feelings to an extreme.

john65pennington's avatar

45 years Oct. 11th.

If you have found your soulmate for life, there is nothing like having a partner to share the good and the bad times. your partner is your best friend that both of you can talk about anything. i do mean anything. my wife had hemmoroid surgery and that was a sharing experience i hope to never go through again. but, the point is this, we made it together. to have a partner you can rely on, no matter what the situation. respect for each other is number one, but the sharing experience is close to the top.

NaturallyMe's avatar

I got married in May and there’s been no bad things about it. We’ve been living together for about 5 years before we got married anyway, so nothing’s changed.

NinjaBiscuit's avatar

I’ve been married about three and a half years now.

So far – Best thing: Spending my life with someone who cares about my feelings, my dreams, my aspirations, .. knows about my faults and every single secret I have, comforts me.. and most of all.. loves me unconditionally and will still love me when I’m old and wrinkled.

Not so fun: (I won’t say worst, because I don’t like using that word when talking about my marriage) Having to share. I’m a selfish creature, I’ll admit. I don’t have to share EVERYTHING at least. =3 (God, I’m horrible.) As a mom though, I’m learning to share more and more, even if it’s against my will. ^_^ That and having to deal with my in laws and my parents fighting over us with visits, holidays, etc. We’ve gotten it to the point of taking turns with each family every year, but my inlaws see their grandson more than my parents do due to distance, so that continually causes ruffled feathers between the two families. Yrghgh..

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

There is nothing negative about my marriage. The best is that I am with the person who is my home in my home and with kids who are my joy.

Aster's avatar

what @cazzie said.

YoBob's avatar

I’ve been married for 18 years.

The best thing is looking back over all of the ups and downs of the past couple of decades and realizing that she has been right there beside me the whole time.

I guess the worst thing is that because I truly love my wife and wouldn’t do anything to mess that up, even given the opportunity for a no strings attached wild roll in the hay with an excessively hot twenty something I would have to decline.

tinyfaery's avatar

Best: Having someone who will care for you even when you cannot care for yourself.

Worst: I really can’t think of anything, generally. My wife (who I call hurricane “tinyfaery’s wife) can make a mess like no other. Ugh.

Seaofclouds's avatar

Best thing: Having my best friend with me to share all the joys and sorrows of life. Someone who loves me for who I am and I love him for who he is. Someone I connect with and work well with. Someone to share my secrets and who will confide his secrets in me.

Worst thing: The only bad thing is him being gone for the deployment, but that’s an Army thing, not a marriage thing.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I was married once, will be again soon and have noticed the feelings are the same for me:

Best- no matter where the location or circumstances then that person is my “home”, home is wherever we are together even if we’re under hardship.

Worst- when the other person is troubled of pained and there’s nothing I can do to change it, sometimes feels like it hurts me too.

YARNLADY's avatar

The best thing is sharing my life with my best friend. The worst is when we have a difference of opinion, but that is rare.

cak's avatar

Best thing, my husband throughout me dealing with various illnesses and life-threatening things, is still here. The “in sickness and in health” part, yeah…he nailed that part of the vows. The worst part…stuff I thought was bad, seems silly now. I just know we got it right. It wasn’t perfect for some time, but we got it right.

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