Can You Be Friends Later On With A Cheating Ex?

Yes it is possible but both of you have to be mature enough to do so.

Why are you investing so much energy in this? You already decided it’s over. Let it be over.
OK, if you see her at the office Christmas party once a year with other people, that’s fine. Smile, hug, say “hi” but don’t spend any emotional capital on her.
There are other women out there looking for someone like you. That’s the best use of your effort

Certainly don’t let her play the push pull game on you.

If you happen to bump into her someplace be polite and civil. Don’t waste your time and mental energy trying to be “friends” with her. This relationship ended badly and it’s over. If you attempt to be friends with her, it is likely that you will be caught up in the lost feelings you had for her and have to go through all of the misery of breaking up all over again. She won’t. But I bet she’d be happy to play you.

Move on.

For me, just me, “friends” seems too close. I think “civil” would be a good compromise. I’d say hello, how are you? (possibly) and let it go at that.

It can work and is possible to be friends in the future, but you could find it difficult to move on.

When my 4 year relationship came to an end (without any cheating) I found it difficult at the start. It hurt a lot, and still does when I think back to that time. But I feel the only way I got through it was by cutting my ex out of my life. We emailed a couple of christmas’, but contact fizzled out a couple of years ago. I’ve moved on and am sooo much happier than I ever was back then. I’ve met someone else who makes me very happy.
Anyway, enough about my past!
answer: it can work, but you might find it difficult…

It would seem a lot of things have happened between the two of you, but you have both moved on with your lives now.
I would be courteous towards her if, and when, you meet, but I don’t think I would want to make a friend of her.
Your friendship was in the past, and I would leave it there.

I suppose so,but why bother?

It’s your life. If it makes you happy, do it. If the pain is too much, you’ll stop. But there’s little to no harm in trying. If you find yourself with feelings for her, and she returns them, then you have to think about that then.

I find that it’s helpful, with exes, to have a agreement. We still like each other. We’ll be friends. Nothing more. Of course, if you don’t like her or stop liking her, you can stop doing it. Also, you should be clear in your own mind that it’s friendship and not a foot in the door that you are looking for.

Absolutely. People fuck up all the time. They also sometimes grow up. Someone who wrongs you, and learns from that, sounds like someone that could end up being a valuable friend after the dust settles.

But as mentioned above – she has the work to do. If there’s going to be a future relationship that extends beyond civility, she’s got to be the one to make the first, clear step to making that happen.

i guess you could be friends but after a breaking a relationship that’s not the easiest thing to do, but don’t go over the “friend” part to me that’s the stupidest thing to get back together again with someone who cheated on you. but it’s your life not mine do what makes you happiest.

I would say it’s best to keep your distance. You invested years in a relationship that became sour The wounds are still there even if you think you’ve moved on. If you do see her in a place, you can say hi and keep walking. Don’t start up a conversation because you don’t want to be sucked back in.

There is a reason you are ex’s. Not to mention you stated she was a cheating spouse.
Are you looking for revenge sex? I guess it may have a different twist than makeup sex.
Why every would you want to prepare yourself for this. Just act mature and have common curtesy. The mind always supresses the bad times and floats the good times to the top. Like @hotgirl67 stated, say hello, nod your head, keep walking or run like hell.

I did. Well, I don’t spend time with him as friends, but I see him on facebook, got to know his wife a little on facebook. Now and then we actually have a chat/IM, but maybe it was 3 times in the last 3 years. No regularity to it. So, I don’t really reach out to him as a friend, but all the bad feelings are gone, and sometimes we know the same inside jokes, and obviously share some memories. However, we were broken up for many many years inbetween breaking up, and being in semi touch again.