I’ve been leaning more towards polysexual rather than just bi, mainly because I’ve suddenly been very attractive to a few ftms lately.. rather cute, but I don’t think I could say I have a straight attraction to them, or gay, because they’re in transition.
@WillWorkForChocolate – I will tell you first hand, that a threesome is a slippery slope. (no pun intended) Attractions to the third party could develop, and it could become a dangerous mix if it is not handled in a polite and discreet manner between partners.
@Bill_Lumbergh I was apart of a few in my early 20’s and I was into it because I wasn’t emotionally attached to anyone. I was just out to have fun (get my rocks off). Now, in my late 30’s and very much in love, I have no interest in threesomes. It would be hard for me to see my partner with another woman. That’s just me, though. Perhaps, for others, they’d be cool with it.
I’ve been involved in 3 and 4-somes. The problem is that, if it continues, one person develops feelings for another outside of the group dynamic. Possessiveness and jealousy ensues. It seems the cycle of attraction to individuals rarely matches up. Example: In a foursome of 2 men and 2 women, both men have primary attraction to one of the girls; that girl only has feelings for the other girl; the other girl has feelings for one of the boys and resents that he wants girl #1. Literally, a cluster fuck.
This discussion had me thinking for a while back to the days of threesomes and moresomes of my past, and there was never an issue with jealousy or misplaced affection. Sometimes they didn’t work on a purely physical level, which made it not all it’s “cracked up to be,” but there were never emotional explosions over it. It’s worth it, if you choose the right people. Just my two cents.
I’m bi, but I don’t have much experience with other women. Still, I never really questioned this, although I did keep it hidden in the past, due to how a lot of people react to this kinda thing. Don’t give a shit now though lol.
In my 20’s, I would be attracted to both men and women and had a relationship with 3 women during that time. Nowadays, I went through a lot of changes in the past few years and I’m no longer really sure who or what I’m attracted to, what I want from relationships, etc. Re-learning period!
I’m not sure. I’m definitely attracted to men, and I want to marry a man one day. But I’m also very attracted to women, but I could do without the vagina. I would have and have had sex with a woman, but I wouldn’t date or marry a woman… What does that make me?
Sometimes, I am attracted to people who have vaginas, whether those vaginas are natural or constructed. Sometimes, I am attracted to people who have penises whether those penises are natural or constructed. Yes, I believe that external genitalia is all that defines what someone’s sex is. If you got a penis, you’re male, if you got a vagina, you’re female, thus, I consider myself bisexual.
@Jude and @King_Pariah As @Blueroses suggested, I am curious as to how it happens. There are people who do it with friends. Others do it with… what? Strangers? Acquaintances? How do you find strangers?
I am uninterested in having a threesome, foursome or orgy. But I am curious as to how people organize them. I don’t think I could do sex with someone I didn’t know and know well. So it’s a different world.
I don’t find bisexuality to be much of a mystery, either.
@wundayatta acquaintances/fuck buddies and friends of acquaintances/fuck buddies. Never with someone I was in a relationship with… one minor exception but I always feared it would ruin the relationship