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NostalgicChills's avatar

First date jitters.... Advice?

Asked by NostalgicChills (2759 points ) August 31st, 2011

Ok, so I’m going on my first date…. ever.
I’m friends with this person, so we know each other REALLY well.
I’m super nervous though, so does anyone have any advice?

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Pele's avatar

Relax and be yourself. Don’t over think it.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Enjoy the hell out of it. When you get old like me you’ll wish you could go back and do it all over again.

ucme's avatar

Nerves are good, shows you care & for certain your date will be feeling those same nerves.
Go with the flow, it’s all good.

CWOTUS's avatar

First dates are always jittery-making, if you’re doing it right. You seem to be doing it right. The advice you’ve already gotten is good:

1. Enjoy the time together.
2. Enjoy yourself.
3. Help your date to enjoy her/himself, too.
4. Repeat.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

I agree with @ucme…it means that you care about how it goes. The same happens when giving a presentation in front of a group of people. If you care about the experience, there are always nerves going a bit crazy. Once you two are together, everything will fall into place, especially since you already know each other.

Two pieces of advice: 1.) If the jitters are bad enough, throw up before the date and not during. And don’t forget to brush your teeth. 2.) Have someone take a photo. It may sound cheesy, but trust me….many years from now, that picture will be valued.

Let us know how it turns out!

NostalgicChills's avatar

Okay, thank you guys!

zenvelo's avatar

One way to reduce nervousness and relax is to admit it. You might say, “I’m kind of nervous because I want to make a good impression while just being myself.”

Have fun, be in the moment, and remember, he’s lucky to be on a date with you!

Lightlyseared's avatar

Don’t drink too much alcohol to compenstate.

thebluewaffle's avatar

if you know each other really well…then technically, you have no worries, you’ll have plenty to talk about. Its just you’re probably overthinking it.

tedd's avatar

You’re not going out with a loaded gun are you?

(anyone get the movie reference?)

Lightlyseared's avatar

@tedd good advice. You never know when you need more hairgel.

Hibernate's avatar

Hell no. Don’t relax. You’ll be in too much mess just trying to relax. I recommend you go and do something [together] you like. That way you’ll know what to do. There will be a lot of awkward moments but it’s normal.
If it doesn’t work just say you’ve never been on a real good date till now and you don’t know what to do. YOu guys have to help each other when it comes to enjoying the company.

NostalgicChills's avatar

Okay so THAT date didn’t happen.
But I did get to see him yesterday, and we had so much fun. :D

At one point, we left the festival we went to, at MIDNIGHT, and walked to a pharmacy a mile away, which was fun considering I’ve never done anything risky. xD

CWOTUS's avatar

LOL… wait, how old are you, anyway? Walking a mile in the middle of the night to a pharmacy with someone you know well and trust is risky?

Glad to hear that you had fun. You’re doing it right.

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