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What does it mean when a guy wants you to invite friends also ?

Asked by partyrock (3865 points ) November 20th, 2011

What does it mean when a guy you like wants you to invite some of your friends along to a social gathering ? I was supposed to meet him in a club/lounge/bar and in his text he said
“Bring some friends.Chicks.No dudes >:l ”
What does this mean? Does it mean he wasn’t interested in getting to know only me or does it mean he just wanted to have a good time? Granted we were supposed to meet in a big social setting. Do you think he said this so his friends could have girls to hang with? Or do you think he said this so he wouldn’t have only me to talk with? Thoughts?

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faye's avatar

Run away from this asshole fast!! It means he wants the opportunity to screw other women.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

What does it mean when a guy stares at your best friend’s tits?

I’ll let you think about that one….............

Seaofclouds's avatar

I think it depends on the situation. Were you going out with a group of friends or was this suppose to be a date for just the two of you? If he was bringing a bunch of his guy friends, it could be that he wanted them to have girls to chat with. If he’s not bringing friends, it could mean he’s not that interested in you and he’s hoping you have a friend he’d like more. Have you talked to him about your feelings for him and found out how he feels about you?

blueiiznh's avatar

Might need to know more. If it is just him showing up and he want you and more of your friends, then it is a red flag.
If it is him and a few of his friends, then he may want some company for his friends.
Don;t know based on what you wrote alone.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I don’t think he’s interested in you enough to just be one on one. My guess is he wants some of his guy friends along so you don’t don’t interpret him meeting you is a “date” and he wants you to bring girls along so his guys can have eye candy.

SavoirFaire's avatar

Unlike everyone above, I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. Your question says that you were already supposed to meet in a social setting with other people. The details you give imply that he was already supposed to be bringing some of his (male) friends. But as any moderately observant guy knows, a situation in which it’s all guys except for one girl is a situation in which the girl gets all the attention and any single guy has to compete to look good in front of the girl. Not good if you’re interested in the girl.

As such, I would guess that he’s trying to even out the numbers so that he can have more time with you. That’s why he insisted on women, not more men.

partyrock's avatar

@Seaofclouds – It was “suit night” at a club/bar/lounge, and no it wasn’t a date or anything of that nature. We were supposed to just meet and have fun. It was a social setting.

partyrock's avatar

@Seaofclouds – Yes some of his friends were there too. Like his group or guy friends he hang out with.

Seaofclouds's avatar

Sounds like it was about having fun then and not really anything else, but only the two of you would know for sure. Since it was just for fun, I’d guess that it was just about having a group of people and having a good time. How did it go?

partyrock's avatar

@SavoirFaire Hmm that is why I was thinking why would he say to bring girls that are friends, and not bring any more guys ?

partyrock's avatar

@Seaofclouds – I never went sadly, have to meet up with him another day/time. Do you think it means anything that he would say to bring friends that are girls and not guys ?

Seaofclouds's avatar

@partyrock To me, I’d guess he just wanted to try to make it more even so that his guy friends would have girls to talk to and dance with so that they could have fun as well. Unfortunately, you won’t really know for sure unless you ask him since you didn’t go to see what happened.

partyrock's avatar

@Seaofclouds – We’ve been talking here and there, but never met in person (yet).

partyrock's avatar

@Seaofclouds – I’m excited and happy to meet him, when I do, I will most likely put up a question here again lol.

Seaofclouds's avatar

@partyrock Ohh, well that changes things quite a bit. If you were going to be meeting for the first time and he was bringing some of his friends, it would have been a great idea for you to bring some of your friends so that you’d have people you knew and could be comfortable with as well as you were getting to know him. Then your group of friends and his group of friends could have just had a good time and went from there.

Whenever you do go meet him for the first time, please be sure that someone knows exactly where you are going and who you will be with if you don’t have a friend go with you for the meeting.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Oh, you haven’t met yet, and that was to be the “ice breaker” get together? So sorry, I retract my previous answer.

partyrock's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate – Yes it was the first time meeting. What would you say then since it was the first time get together?

partyrock's avatar

@Seaofclouds – I will definitely. Thank you.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

A “first time get together” is often a double date or group date.

KateTheGreat's avatar

It depends. He might be trying to set his friends up with some girls too. Social gatherings are not fun when it’s a total sausage fest.

partyrock's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate – That’s what I was thinking. Makes sense now.

15barcam's avatar

was he inviting some guys???

partyrock's avatar

@15barcam – Yes he was with his group of boys. We were meeting in a bar/club/lounge. I guess the point of it was his friends, my friends, everyone having a good time. Since it was the first time me and him meeting, there wouldn’t be any pressure or anything.

Ayesha's avatar

Run away. Please.

15barcam's avatar

ya he probably just wanted the support of his guys. Maybe he was a little too shy to have a one on one date the first time.

partyrock's avatar

@Ayesha – Why run away ???

sliceswiththings's avatar

Yeah, I’d agree with others and say it unquestionably means that he was trying to get some ass for his friends as well as himself. If he wanted you to feel comfortable, it wouldn’t matter what friends you brought. This guy’s not a keeper. I’ve gotten this text before and it’s always the last contact I have with these douches.

partyrock's avatar

@sliceswiththings – Even if it was the first time meeting and if we were meeting at a social event and lounge ??

AnonymousWoman's avatar

It sounds like he wanted to get “lucky” and help his friends “pick up” girls at the same time.

partyrock's avatar

@AnonymousGirl – I don’t mind that, as long as he wanted to get lucky with me! lol.

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