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NSFW possibly. Should I wear fake eyelashes when on a date? 2 part question inside.

Asked by partyrock (3865 points ) December 28th, 2011

This is a 2 part question, just want some opinions. Do you think wearing fake eyelashes is tacky? I’m thinking of wearing them to see a guy I like. I wouldn’t wear the big really fake looking kind, but just small ones to enhance my eyes and make them look bigger.

2nd question – Do fake eyelashes come off during sex ? If you have sex for the whole night or for longer than a few hours ?

Do they come off in the water or shower too? I’ve never worn them before so I’m not sure.

I would wear small individual lashes, and then mascara on top of that. It looks good, it doesn’t look too “much” or overly done… But we’ll probably have really hot sex so I’m scared of them coming off.

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trailsillustrated's avatar

wear em! the smaller kind that you can trim and only extend the outer edges of your eye. If you think your’e going to have a roll in the hay, slip into the bathroom and take em off, store in your handbag or something. It won’t be noticed. Don’t wear them to bed.

Blackberry's avatar

Yes, it’s tacky (to me). My personal opinion is that people should be who they are without pressure from society due to gender, which is what bothers me about this question. What is to be gained from changing the look of your eyes?

partyrock's avatar

@trailsillustrated – One of my girlfriends said that there was a trick she knew, and that she could sleep in eyelashes and the next morning they would still be there… do you know what she was talking about? I don’t and sadly don’t talk to her anymore :(

partyrock's avatar

@Blackberry – Well, thanks for your opinion, but I’m not pressured by society. I love playing up my eyes, and feeling/looking beautiful. I like myself without them, but when I play up my eyes, it makes me feel sexier. Just like how I love dressing up and being really girly, it’s just me. I don’t have anything against women who dress or wear makeup(if they choose to wear any makeup at all) differently either.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I have managed to keep them on during sex on multiple occasions, but there are no guarantees. PRACTICE putting them on BEFORE your date, because they can be really tricky if you don’t have a method down for using them.

They can be made to look very natural. I wore them for my wedding, I bought them in brown and trimmed them so that they weren’t extreme, and no one had a clue that I was wearing them. Later, many of my friends were shocked.. yet, everyone kept commenting on how beautiful my eye makeup was, and I had hardly worn any makeup at all (I rarely do.)

partyrock's avatar

@Blackberry – If worn correctly I think some fake eyelashes can enhance whatever the woman wants them to be. My eyes are already big, but if I wear lashes it makes them “pop” more.

trailsillustrated's avatar

@partyrock unless they were extensions, no, it’s not safe to do. Just take em off when you think something’s going to happen, believe me it won’t be noticed even if you go out for brekky in the morning. And no, it’s not tacky if you wear the smaller ones you can trim that flare out at the end of your eye. There might be a way to keep them on and from melting off your face during sex but if there is I don’t know it.

partyrock's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf – This is the first time I will be wearing them. I have them on now, just for practice. I have the long single kind, and I also have the individual lashes.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

@partyrock also, if you are unfamiliar with false lashes, and you do have big eyes.. you may prefer the individual lashes to strips. I also have very big eyes, and the strip lashes are not big enough to cover the whole length of my eyelid. The individual lashes are a little more difficult to work with, but the key to both is to get them as close to your natural lash line as possible. Use tweezers. :)

partyrock's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf – How did you manage to keep them on during ? Did you put a little extra glue or were you just careful in putting them on ?

partyrock's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf – Yeah that’s what I did today ! I used tweezers to put them on :) great minds think a like, lol.

partyrock's avatar

@trailsillustrated – Oh ok, I understand.

partyrock's avatar

I have the waterproof eyelash adhesive too, I hope it makes a difference !

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

@partyrock I’m a pro. With the LASHES. ;)

I use any occasion to wear false lashes. It has been a bit of an obsession for as long as I can remember. There isn’t a Halloween that goes by that I don’t wear them. I don’t care if I’m being a zombie or a goddess, I’m wearing my damn lashes. I have a drawer full of them. I don’t wear them for day to day things, but I love excuses to put them on. If you use quality adhesive and apply them to clean lids, they should stay secure for a while. But, again, there are no guarantees.
I would carry a small tube of adhesive and a couple of toothpicks in your bag on your date, so if anything feels loose or detaches, you can touch up in the bathroom.

Aethelflaed's avatar

I don’t personally like fake eyelashes, and I don’t really enjoy them on others. There are some possible exceptions for sort of really elaborate makeup play (like if you were wearing this or this), and it would be kind of a fun make-believe play type of thing. But it’s in the context of play and make-believe that it’s fun, not as a “natural” thing.

partyrock's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf – I’m the same way, I love them, and I love playing up the eyes. It’s a lot of fun to be a girl sometimes, I love it.

One question—When putting them on, I’m supposed to let the glue dry for a few seconds before applying to my lids ? Like when I’m putting the adhesive to the lashes ?

Blackberry's avatar

@partyrock Yeah. Not a big deal, just wondering. :)

FutureMemory's avatar

@partyrock Just avoid rug burn to the face during that hot sex and you’ll be fine.

partyrock's avatar

This is some what of the look I’m going for—but much more natural—

The first picture the eyelashes are too long for what I’m gonna do, but it’s sort of how I want it. Only smaller and less noticeable.

Exhibit A :

http://makeupforlife.net/wp-content/gallery/lashes/makeup-for-life-fake-lashes-au-naturale-open.jpg

and

Exhibit B :

http://www.glam.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/thumb24725-false_lashes.jpg

partyrock's avatar

@FutureMemory – Hahaha. I have to give you a great answer for that, lol.

digitalimpression's avatar

@Blackberry I would agree if it weren’t for the fact that makeup, lashes, nails… none of that is for a man to enjoy. It is, as the OP said, for them to look and feel good about themselves.

Personally, I can’t stand excessive makeup.

partyrock's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf – Where did you go :’( ? lol

trailsillustrated's avatar

I like exhibit A. Go for it, @partyrock ! ps. I have personally experienced that many men dig the look very very much.

BeccaBoo's avatar

I have lash extensions put on because I just can not wear mascara, makes my eyes stream! Anyhoo, they look more natural but give you the thickness and length of false, also take a few weeks to fall off. Maybe a bit pricey, but so so worth every penny, and they look uber glam too with a glitter mascara put just on the tip (just to funk them up a bit). False ones have a habit of coming loose just at the wrong moment and don’t look too natural.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Oops, sorry. I’m here.

Yes, I usually let the glue get a bit tacky, first. I definitely think they can be made to look natural, and simply enhance your eyes. We’re not trying to achieve this.

Bellatrix's avatar

I think it is like anything else, less is more. As long as you don’t go overboard and they look tasteful if wearing them makes you feel better and more confident, wear them. I have long, thick lashes so I have never worn them. I wouldn’t have a clue how to put them on.

partyrock's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf – lol !! No definitely not that for date night! Well, maybe for another type of night, if we’re feeling freaky, adventurous, and want to play dress up… but that’s another post all together lol.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Everyone’s idea of tacky is different but the falsies will come off with a lot of sweating, showering and very possibly sex. As far as wearing them for the date, how about seeing if you like each other enough to go out on more dates and then gauge if he’ll notice or not? A guy who likes you is a lot more forgiving of stuff they think is odd or different than on a very first date.

partyrock's avatar

@Neizvestnaya – He likes me already, I’m just deciding whether to put them on or not, to feel sexier. I’m just worried they’ll come off during sex. I don’t really think he’ll notice them anyway, if I put them on right and make them look natural… if he does notice I hope it would be in a positive way not…. “Half of your eyelash is coming off!” lol.

saint's avatar

If you are going to take your clothes off, you should take everything off. Otherwise, it is not the real thing. Which matters when everything is said and done.

partyrock's avatar

@Neizvestnaya – Have you tried them on before with waterproof adhesive ? Did they come off for you ?

gailcalled's avatar

@partyrock: I agree with those who say “Don’t.” Would you like him better if HE were wearing false eyelashes?

Personally, (and you did ask), I vote for “tacky.”

What a thing to worry about while you are in the throes of passion (or not, if you are thinking about your false eyelashes too much).

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Tacky is in the eye of the beholder. And if the night is a good night, yes they should come off but you won’t care.

syz's avatar

Ugh. Fake eyelashes are so…fake.

partyrock's avatar

@syz – Yeah it is fake, but so is many other things people do for beauty and looks. Nail polish is fake too, but a lot of people wear it. I guess eyelashes fake more people out though, for some reason.

fundevogel's avatar

For the sake of avoiding all accusations of affectation, artifice, and insecurity regarding my natural looks henceforth all my fluthering shall be done in the nude, sans make-up. Unfortunately consistency means I won’t be wearing my glasses either so I apologize in advance for the inevitable increase of spelling errors.

judochop's avatar

Tacky is hot sometimes… I am a fan of too much makeup, fake eyelashes, tight jeans, old tshirts and whiskey though so I am probably not the best person to ask.

Ayesha's avatar

I would say it’s better if you don’t. If you do decide on wearing them then make sure you make them look really really natural, blend them nicely with your mascarra. You have some great answers here, you’ll do fine.

SomeoneElse's avatar

What if they come off and you awake(!) to what appears to be a furry insect lying next to you? What if the companion, also lying next to you but taking up more space, has a phobia for furry insects? I’d say wait awhile until a) you have worn them in several different life-style situations and b) you are really sure of the adhesive.
I realise that this will not a lot of help but I like to add my thoughts!

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