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If you were in a band, would you date your fans?

Asked by Mandeblind (420 points ) March 27th, 2012 from iPhone

I went to “The Wanted” concert on sunday. I got lipkissed by one, and kissed by the others. And they showed much attention to me than all the others. Why?

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chyna's avatar

Rent the movie “Almost Famous” and then decide if that would be the life you would want, being passed around by band members.

Mandeblind's avatar

i watched that movie. Of course I wouldnt spend my own life like that. The thing is, I wasnt even their fan when i went to the concert. i just thought it would be fun. But now I do want to know what THEY were thinking when interacting with me like that.

john65pennington's avatar

I had four bands and never kissed a single fan and never dated a fan, except my wife.

She did not know anything about my bands or my music and I am glad it turned out that way.

You have to remember, that today, most of the kissing is just for show.

I wonder if Elvis kissed his wife, in the audience, before they were married?

Blackberry's avatar

They were most likely thinking you were hot. It’s up to you to do what you want.

Lightlyseared's avatar

No. Just fuck them.

Bent's avatar

I was in a band for six years but I didn’t date any fans because most of them were girls, or straight guys. If we’d had more of a gay following… maybe?

But kissing is not the same as wanting to date. Kissing is just fun and for-the-moment. It doesn’t have any deeper significance than that. (Unless they gave you their personal phone numbers and asked you to call them).

thorninmud's avatar

Nope. There would be a respect problem. My fan would have some inflated idea of how special I am because she let herself get infatuated with my on-stage persona. I would know that I’m not at all who she thinks I am (unless I’m a narcissist myself), so I would see her as naive. I would also know that I would either have to keep putting on a show to sustain her illusions (which would be exhausting), or she would eventually be disillusioned to see that I’m just some dude after all.

janbb's avatar

I don’t think “dating” is the mot juste here!

Nimis's avatar

I might date someone who appreciated my work. But definitely not a groupie.

Mandeblind's avatar

They all just seemed to be very intimite and sweet towards me. And as i watched some videos of concert, some were looking at where I am heading, and doing signs after me such as “o” sign you do with your tumb and point finger.

josie's avatar

They saw you as a mark. Easy money. Does that flatter you?

woodcutter's avatar

Stevie Nicks sings ”Players only love you when they’re playing

As to the q…hell yeah, all day long. If I was unattached. Because I’d be an artist. You know how those people live.

PurpleClouds's avatar

The husband wouldn’t like that.

jazmina88's avatar

absolutely…..what are groupies for.!!

I have been on both sides of this one, or dating fellow musicians in the band.

Mandeblind's avatar

^ what do you mean they saw me as easy money? This band is not an unknown metal band, I doubt they sleep with their fans

Keep_on_running's avatar

Why are you asking this you gloater!

To answer your question, no.

Bent's avatar

I feel at this point that I should point out, I was only the drummer. No matter what the band, no-one is ever interested in the drummer.

chyna's avatar

@Bent I always liked Phil Collins.

Bent's avatar

@chyna Phil is a great drummer but he’s never had a reputation for being sexy. My late grandmother used to think he was cute though.

jazmina88's avatar

@bent. Because drummers are like hippies, you cant get them off your couch. :p

I marched drum line in college, so dont take it personal.

I date musicians which is a blessing and a curse. We understand each other.
But I know what they are capable of.

Therefore, I dont date much.

woodcutter's avatar

@Bent Don’t tell that to Pam Anderson

Bent's avatar

@jazmina88 “What do you call a bloke who hangs around with musicians all the time?”

“A drummer”.

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