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Why do I feel awful every morning?

Asked by Mandeblind (425points) April 10th, 2012 from iPhone

Every morning since the beginnings of high school I’ve felt so depressed, alone and guilty/unliked. Why do I feel like this in mornings?

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tom_g's avatar

This is very common, and I was in the same boat. Have your parents or a trusted adult help you get in contact with someone (professional) you can talk to.

Rock2's avatar

A high school student shouldn’t feel this way. Try to figure out why on your own but if you can’t, seek some professional help. You have a long life ahead of you.

JLeslie's avatar

Because it is common for teens to feel exhausted and like shit. It sucks. Just don’t do anything rash, know that the feelings will eventually oet up and you will feel better. You are probably depressed. In my experience depression in teens is almost always related to, at least partly, to feeling lonely or on the outside. Making connections with friends who you truly like and relate to might help. If you don’t work, I recommend getting a job, because you will meet new people, get some money, feel more empowered and more free.

If it persists think about talking to a therapist who specializes in teen depression. Promise you will not do drugs or drink to try and self medicate your sadness or sleep difficulties.

Also, if you drink caffeinated drinks, when you wake up you are beginning to withdraw off the caffeine, so waking can really be uncomfortable and difficult. Lastly, teens usually need around 9 hours of sleep every night, so if you are not getting enough either go to bed earlier or take naps when needed. Naps are usually best if they last 1.5 hours, because we usually cycle through all stages of sleep in that amount of time. In fact, I think part of waking well in the morning is waking at the right part of a sleep cycle. If your alarm goes off during deep sleep you might feel paralyzed, glued to the bed. This probably exolains why sometimes we can be awoken in the middle of the night on only 6 hours sleep and not feel terrible, but 8 hours sleep and an alarm is torture. Just a theory of mine.

Bellatrix's avatar

I think it probably has to do with your Serotonin and Cortisol levels. I believe Cortisol levels are at their lowest in the morning and your Serotonin and Adrenalin levels rise as the morning progresses. If your levels are messed up though, perhaps your levels aren’t stable.

It would be good to talk to a doctor @Mandeblind. Regardless of why you feel depressed, there is treatment available that will help you feel better.

dabbler's avatar

What are you having for breakfast? Avoid sugar if you can, you might be crashing by the time you get to school.
The other advice above is excellent and get some help if this continues.
But the solution might be simple, e.g. peanut butter on toast instead of lucky charms.

keobooks's avatar

If you feel this way when you wake up, go see a doctor. There are many people who get problems in the morning and it can be fixed so easily in so many cases. For some folk a very tiny low level antidepressant before bed can keep the seratonin levels high enough that you wake up at a normal level. If you are female, sometimes going on the pill or switching to a different pill if you already take it can do the job. Sometimes thyroid medication can help.

There are so many things that slow down when you sleep and sometimes your body has trouble kickstarting the system back up. There is no reason to suffer in the morning. Go to a doctor and see if you just need a minor patch up.

john65pennington's avatar

Sorry you are having these feelings. There has to be a reason and your parents are the one you need to talk to.

I never had this problem. I looked forward to each day of school with a smile on my face.

Could it be puberty that is interferring with your good times? Again, talk to your parents.

More than likely, they also experienced what you are feeling and can share with you.

This is what parents are for.

JLeslie's avatar

More great advice in the last two answers. Talk to your parents, and rule out any physical problems that are often easily corrected like thyroid problems or low iron.

Let us know how things go. You are not alone, many people feel just like you or went through something similar.

CWOTUS's avatar

Welcome to Fluther. I hope we can help you a bit.

May I suggest that you’re asking the wrong question. Hear me out. When you ask questions such as “Why are things so awful?” or “What is wrong with the world?” you’ll get answers to those questions. You’ll get a list of problems and awful things in the world… and no solutions. Those are “disabling questions”. They focus your mind onto problems, lies, deceit, crime, corruptions… all kinds of nasty things.

Your mind is an amazing thing. It will work at what you direct it toward. So instead of the question you’re asking, try asking “enabling questions” instead:

How can I improve my life?
How can I feel better in the morning?
What can I do that will make me better?

You may not find solutions; your mind can only work as well as you let it, in the first place, and there is no magic. You can’t just wave a wand and make everything better. But you can look in the direction of solutions instead of problems, and if there are better alternatives for you than your current situation – which is a near certainty, even if it’s not possible for you to reach them right now – then at least your mind will be focused in that direction and helping you achieve those ends.

All by itself that should help to improve your outlook, at least, even if it doesn’t change your life immediately.

I’ll tell you honestly, I first heard this advice over twenty years ago, and it did improve my life, directly and immediately, and ever since.

The advice above is good, too. I hope some of it helps. Good luck to you.

Keep_on_running's avatar

What do you think about before you go to sleep? I’ve become very aware that thoughts I think at night when laying in bed determine greatly how I feel when I wake up.

Sometimes the very second I wake up the thoughts from last night enter my head and I remind myself of the feelings I was having whilst thinking them.

When I think positively, or at least try to imagine things from a different angle, I wake up feeling better and more optimistic. Changing your thought patterns may help you if this is the problem.

digitalimpression's avatar

I don’t think you need “professional” help. I think you need to get out and do something that helps fulfill your sense of self actualization. Just going through the dull routine of high-school the same way each day can have a depressing effect.

I definitely went through this for a bit in high-school until I found photography.

Rarebear's avatar

I recommend going to bed much earlier. Teenagers need a lot of sleep, generally stay up too late, and get up early in the morning for school.

YARNLADY's avatar

At that age, hormones are going crazy, so you could be feeling the results of that. I like the suggestions by @CWOTUS

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