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(NSFW) How is pleasure received from heading into the "back door"?

Asked by Mama_Cakes (9320 points ) September 12th, 2012

This question is for the ladies.

I’ve tired it, and didn’t care for it. Perhaps, it was because I wasn’t able to relax all that well.

I understand that it can be pleasurable for men, but is it really for the ladies?

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DrBill's avatar

A lot of women do like it, but I said a lot, not all. It is something you need to be relaxed for, being tensed could very well diminish from the enjoyment for you. You need to slow down, embrace the moment, use lots of lube, relax and enjoy it.

Coloma's avatar

Not my thing. It is okay but nothing to get excited about IMO. I think nature gave us plenty of sensual parts to be enjoyed, don’t be greedy.
Men do get prostate stimulation from being anally penetrated, good for them, here’s a giant cucumber, go for it bud. lol

deni's avatar

Anytime I have tried any type of anal play, and I have multiple times simply because of all the hype you hear, and I’ve been with guys who preferred it, BUT!!! It has always felt, to me, like I was pooping in reverse!!!!!!!!!!! So, pooping feels great, but part of that I think is because it’s a release. Anything in my butt sexually has always just felt to me like pooping except the pleasantness of it being replaced by an “inward” pushing and opposite feeling of that. I don’t really know how to explain it. @Coloma Yes, what you said essentially. We have plenty of sensual parts to be enjoyed!!

Crashsequence2012's avatar

I enjoyed it.

And miss it.

downtide's avatar

It works well for me (okay I’m no lady but I still have female anatomy down there). The rectum is in close proximity to the vagina, there are a lot of nerves in that area and they’re stimulated from anal sex as well as vaginal sex. Possibly also because the anus is much tighter than the vagina so the stimulation can be more intense. In my case I really dislike vaginal sex (a constant reminder that my body is wrong) so anal sex is an opportunity that doesn’t leave me cringing at my body’s femininity.

creative1's avatar

Been there done that not something that is my favorite but if my partner wants it I don’t take it off the table just limit the amount. I think doggie style is much more pleasurable anyway.

Facade's avatar

Like everything else, it’s not for everyone. I happen to enjoy it. It’s a very intense and submissive type of pleasure, probably best done with a long-time partner who you trust. Toys help too; they can help train you to relax. I always tell people to try things on their own first @Mama_Cakes

Mama_Cakes's avatar

I get the submissive part. Part of the reason why my s/o enjoys receiving. And, I’m all about giving, ha.

I give another go on my own.

downtide's avatar

@Facade practising on my own with toys is how I started with it. By the time I got to try it with my partner I’d already had enough practise to be relaxed and it wasn’t painful at all.

A word of caution if using toys – get ones specifically designed for anal play. They are flared at the base, vaginal ones aren’t, and hence a toy designed for vaginal play can easily get “lost” up there. I’m sure none of you want to take a trip to A&E to ask for it to be removed.

rojo's avatar

@Coloma who was it said “Most men don’t know what a prostate is but they’re pretty sure if they had one up their butt they’d know it.”?

digitalimpression's avatar

People have enjoyed doing things wrong for centuries. Why stop now?

Kardamom's avatar

If I ever get a tatoo on my butt, it will say Exit Only, Do Not Enter, Severe Tire Damage LOL

NuclearWessels's avatar

I’m not sure how accurate this is or if I’m remembering it correctly, but i heard it explained this way once:

As we were evolving into organisms with rectums, nature had to incorporate a way to ensure we would use it… or ‘remember’ to poop. So lots of pleasurable feel good nerve endings developed in that region.

Judi's avatar

@downtide , my two sister used to work in an Emergency Room and many many people come in with that problem.
Funniest story. My sisters were talking about it happening again and my mom was there. She was going deaf. About an hour after the conversation was over my mom said, “I just don’t understand. How could someone get their elbow stuck in their butt?”

augustlan's avatar

I don’t like big things in there, but I find small things very pleasurable. A finger, for instance. Start even smaller than that, and see if you enjoy it at all. If not, maybe it’s just not your thing.

Kardamom's avatar

@augustlan OMG! You just made me think of my favorite book series, All Creatures Great and Small. Now how am I going to get that image out of my head??? LOL.

bookish1's avatar

Yes, it can be enjoyable, even if one doesn’t have a prostate.

BhacSsylan's avatar

In regards to the strict “How is please received”, you actually have quite a large number of nerve endings in the anus, which can be quite pleasurable to stimulate. So regardless of the existence of a prostate there it still can be quite a bit of fun.

And for an anecdote, I can say that when I tried it with my fiance, she enjoyed it quite a lot. More then me, actually. Though I haven’t been on the receiving side yet.

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