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What are the chances of pregnancy in this situation? (NSFW).

Asked by robotmonkeyarm (151 points ) November 18th, 2012 from iPhone

So basically this girl was over at my house and we were fooling around.

She had taken all her clothes off and I was down to my boxers. We grinded just slightly, but I didn’t want to risk coming near ejaculation, so I pushed off (was very intimate). After a while I started fingering her and this is where I start to worry. Though I didn’t ejaculate during this time I am almost positive I had some pre-cum and I am worried that it could have soaked through my boxers and onto her vagina at some point. I never made contact with my penis directly, but I “adjusted” myself a few times, is there a chance it could have gotten on my fingers while adjusting my boxers and gotten inside her while fingering?

I have heard that sperm dies immediately upon contact with air, but I’m still a nervous wreck right now, as she’s not on any birth control and I wasn’t wearing a condom as I had my boxers on and never ejaculated. From what I have read, it seems like if she were to get pregnant from this it would be a very unlikely thing, but I would like to know from some more experienced flutherers what the actual chances of a pregnancy here are in this exact situation.

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janbb's avatar

Highly, highly unlikely. You can relax.

robotmonkeyarm's avatar

@janbb Okay, so highly unlikely. But still possible, correct? Also: would her being on her period affect anything?

Brenna_o's avatar

Relax it’s very unlikely. Your fishes probably died in your underwear before touching her. Don’t think it’s possible.

Mariah's avatar

Virtually impossible.

If she’s on her period then it’s even less likely.

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deni's avatar

Yeah it’s possible but so is getting hit by lightning tomorrow, about the same chances, so no need to freak out.

robotmonkeyarm's avatar

Thanks a ton for the answers guys. I feel a LOT better. Also, just for reference, how can I be safer next time? E.g. is it recommended to wear a condom even in situations like this?

Also, what if I had ejaculated? Are we talking a different situation on our hands?

Mariah's avatar

Not a bad idea, or she could start taking birth control.

bhec10's avatar

In my opinion birth control is by far the safest and most comfortable option.

Just make sure both of you are clean, (as in STD’s) and be sure to have lots of fun

robotmonkeyarm's avatar

@Mariah So just to clarify, it is in fact very unlikely for pre-cum to have gotten on my fingers through my boxers and gotten her pregnant from fingering her? I mean, does sperm really die immediately upon contact with air, or is it just the whole thing that makes for low risk of pregnancy?

Mariah's avatar

I wouldn’t assume sperm dies immediately. I don’t know if that’s a fact, sounds kind of sketchy to me. But I do not think you need to worry about what happened.

marinelife's avatar

Very unlikely.

BhacSsylan's avatar

They don’t die that fast, but there’s two major things working for you here. First is that there are very few sperm in pre-cum to begin with. They may be present, and it’s technically possible to get pregnant from it, but it’s highly unlikely that there’s many viable sperm and they’re capable of getting where they need to go, especially just from hitching a ride on your fingers. Along these lines, while it may be true that sperm dies on contact with air (and, as a biochemist, I’m very skeptical of that claim), keep in mind that most sperm, even in pre-cum, is not exposed to air, they’re in the protective solution that is cum. But still, there’s not much there to begin with in pre-cum.

Secondly, the chances of getting pregnant when you’re trying are surprisingly low, something like 20% even if you know she’s ovulating. Sperm have literally a several-day journey to make after ejaculation, replete with choices to be made about direction of travel. Along these lines, cum has various properties that help sperm survive for the several day journey, as the vagina is a surprisingly inhospitable place for sperm. Pre-cum has far less of this, and thus you have far, far less sperm, in a worse environment, and already with a low chance of finding an egg, and even then, a small chance of implanting (iirc, it requires quite a few sperm to find the egg, as the first ones weaken the barriers to allow the later sperm to enter). So, yeah, I wouldn’t worry at all. And I’d actually say the chances of being struck by lightning tomorrow are a decent sight higher.

This is not to say never worry, and it’s very good you’re thinking about it and that you came to ask (and this is certainly not true for real sex, as 20%, while I consider surprisingly low, is way higher then any teen should want to gamble on). But I don’t think you have anything to be concerned about. I would say having condoms is never a bad idea (and hey, if you both decide to move forward, you’re prepared!), and you could bring up the idea of hormonal birth control with her (someday, we will have male chemical bc. Someday…). This depends a lot on your age and her parents, probably, but it’s usually not a bad idea, some have a number of side benefits like depo-provera and the pill, and most are even better than condoms in terms of pregnancy prevention (though, in general, I’d suggest both if you do actually go to sex).

Also, i highly suggest you check out Scarleteen in general, which is a fantastic site for sex ed.

robotmonkeyarm's avatar

@BhacSsylan Wow, that was an amazingly detailed answer, thanks so much! Seeing the science behind it all really helps my mind with the worry. I’m feeling much more relaxed now. I’m gonna look at that site you suggested and look into some pills. Once again, thank you very much!

deni's avatar

I got pregnant with precum so that possibility is very real and does exist, just so you know for the future. If you have sex, don’t take the gamble of putting it in for a second then taking it out and then putting a condom on. It’s such a low chance, but obviously it can happen. But seriously your penis didn’t even touch her, you do not need to worry.

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tedd's avatar

lol…. ahhhh to be young again.

No you are fine. If she gets pregnant it’s the second coming of Jesus.

bhec10's avatar

@tedd Pun intended?

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