Is this hopeless?
I met this guy in a party a few months ago and we immediately clicked. We texted back and forth a few weeks, always planning to meet again but he kept cancelling. When I confronted him about it on facebook he confessed he was scared. We had both come out of serious relationships recently, but he was going through more serious stuff: he had a history of being morbidly obese and was currently battling both with his weight and clinical depression, his business had gone down recently and he said that there was no point in starting something with me, since I’m not the kind of girl who ends up with guys like him anyway (I’m a model and dancer, had never dated big men before but was completely taken by this guy). I texted everything I could think of to convince him to come and see me, and that we could at least be good friends but he wouldn’t budge, so I gave up.
A month after this he texted me again and we met for a drink. He said he had sorted out a few things and he was in a better place then. There was immediate chemistry between us and within the week we spent a great night together.
Before we could meet again there was a tragedy in his family. He completely flipped out and disappeared again without explanation. I was worried about him, but waited for a couple of weeks then texted him again, first offering support, which he ignored, then saying that I missed him but there was no pressure and I’d wait until he felt like dating again if he wanted. He answered saying that he was not feeling great, that he just wanted to spend time and have fun with his friends now and was not looking for a relationship any more.
While I understand his position, I’m really hurt that he doesn’t want to see me again. I’m torn between thinking he’s a bastard and hoping that a few weeks from now, when his head clears and he has worked out his feelings, he will be in touch again. Am I kidding myself? He occasionally makes a short comment on things I post on facebook but never engages in conversation. I’m really into this guy. Should I wait for him or should I make an effort to move on?