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Did I mess up Valentines Day?

Asked by lici92 (261 points ) February 13th, 2013

My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. I have been so busy with school that I totally spaced that tomorrow is Valentines Day. I didn’t send him anything. If I were a guy I could very easily call the florist and get some flowers sent to him, but since I am not what should I do? Do you think it would really matter? Should I just call and tell him Happy Valentines Day, or would that make me a bad girlfriend? I feel as if it is already too late to do anything about it.

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KNOWITALL's avatar

No, it’s not until tomorrow anyway. Do you have a friend in the area where he’s at, that can help you out?

You can get on the Internet and order him something as well, no big deal, just may not want to mention it when you talk to him, you forgetting and all that.

Write him a love poem or something and read it to him on the phone, that’s much more personal.

poisonedantidote's avatar

Send him flowers, I am a guy and I love getting flowers, there is nothing wrong with sending a guy flowers.

zenvelo's avatar

You can make him a mix-CD and express it to him today. Or you can get something on amazon and have them overnight it to him, with a personalized card! or send him a sexy video of your self singing to him, and attach it to an email that says “do not open until February 14.”

KNOWITALL's avatar

@zenvelo Great idea—- do a naked Skype! :)

rojo's avatar

Is this in social? YESS!

Therefore, Just Sext him.
Most men are simple creatures with simple needs.

wundayatta's avatar

If you did, it’s not the end of the world. A lot of guys are probably relieved to be let off the hook. Remember, it’s the relationship that matters, not the symbols. But people do get bent out of shape by a lack of symbols. That’s pretty silly. But usually you can over come it. I’d just make a big deal with an email or call or something. This business about cards and flowers and chocolates is ridiculous.

And it’s a real pain this year in the middle of the week. How am I going to get three boxes of chocolates and one bouquet of flowers tomorrow? It has me all worried. There is no joy to valentines day for me. Just relief when I don’t fuck it up. Is that how it’s supposed to be? I don’t think so.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

If you’ve already “done the deed” with him, I would suggest steamy phone sex.

If you haven’t, I would suggest the flowers. My husband loves getting flowers.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I respectfully disagree with @zenvelo . Under no circumstances should you send a video of yourself doing anything you wouldn’t want your mother to see. You are friends/lovers now. You do not know what the future my bring. Do not put yourself in the position of sitting under a Sword of Damocles. Ever! Once that genie is out of the bottle, it cannot be put back in.
Never send naked pictures of yourself. I don’t care if he is your best buddy. You are not a fortune teller. You do not know who will find his computer or where those picture might show up. We are only 2 years away from publicly released facial recognitions software. You don’t want someone seeing your pictures and having them linked immediately to your FB account. Got it?

If you have to send something right away do something inexpensive like a Jackie Lawson card or something. He’s a guy. He is secretly relived that he didn’t have to sweat this holiday. He appreciates you more for it.
Personally I did not care for flowers. I preferred a box of Whitman’s sampler chocolates, or Hickory Farms gift box of summer sausage, cheese and crackers.

burntbonez's avatar

I don’t think you messed it up. It is my impression that girls have expectations of guys moreso than guys have expectations of girls. Look at poor @wundayatta. It isn’t a win-win for him, it’s a lose/no-win situation for him. I think you have the woman’s side of that: win/no lose. The worst you can do is not lose by not doing something for him. At best, by doing anything at all, you win.

I have to say that this is the one day of the year that makes me feel happy I have no relationship. I guess it makes women feel sad if they don’t have something to do on v day. It makes me happy that I have nothing to do and no one I have to worry about disappointing. The rest of the year, I’m sad. But at least there is this one day a year I can be happy about my relationships status.

envidula61's avatar

A phone call. An email. Especially the email may be the most precious thing in the long run if you tell him all about your love for him.

Judi's avatar

My husband appreciates flowers. Maybe you could ask the florist to “man it up” or you could hire a singing telegram.

mazingerz88's avatar

Just tell him you forgot the occasion and that was because there was only one thought in your mind outside of whatever it was that kept you busy, and that thought was of Him. And that you love him so much and his Valentine gift is sure to follow. : )

gorillapaws's avatar

Just make it up to him on Steak and Blowjob Day, that’s what it’s for.

lici92's avatar

Thank you so much for the awesome responses everyone! Way to keep a girl stress free haha. I would just like to say that I got off the hook. Turns out him and my roommate had a secret planned out, and he surprised me yesterday by showing up with gifts at my doorstep. I was definitely not expecting him to show up the day before V-day, but since he wasn’t able to stay through today he made sure to come up a day early. He paid for dinner and I got the movie. Everything went great. Thank you all again.

Self_Consuming_Cannibal's avatar

Send him a naked picture of yourself. LOL

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

No! ^^ No naked pictures! I sent a naked picture of myself to my husband’s cell phone once. He didn’t know what the message included and opened it in front of his boss. His boss never looked at me the same way after that. I send racy pictures of myself to my hubby now, but only after we had several discussions about him never opening attachments from me when he’s around other people.

Self_Consuming_Cannibal's avatar

@WillWorkForChocolate Well perhaps she should send it via email with the subject line saying, “for your eyes only”

rojo's avatar

OR pehaps it could just say NSFW on the tagline.

zenvelo's avatar

@LuckyGuy I wrote that but didn’t mean for it to be a sex or nude video, just one of her looking sexily into the camera while she sung. I agree that sending something you wouldn’t want the world to see is a lousy idea.

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