Am I wrong?
Here’s the thing… I’m 31 years old and I live at home with my parents. My mum is concerned about my living alone because I have borderline personality disorder and depression. But she has a temper, and she still raises her hand on me.
I am the only working member in the family, a major part of my salary goes to my parents. But if I mention ‘my money’, my mum flies into a rage and mentions that O have to repay her the amount she spent on me when I was in my worse states of mind.
I feel confused, mainly because I don’t know if I’m right. What do you guys think?
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Thank you for sharing this with us. It takes courage to ask for suggestions.
I also have a mental illness (bipolar type 1), and I can relate to yours quite easily. I don’t live with my parents, though. I have housing which is partially paid for by the county where I live here in the US. I was wondering if your salary might be enough for you to afford your own place. It doesn’t sound like you’re in a healthy or stable environment with your parents.
In the end, it’s your life. Contact your local government mental health office and ask about ways you might be able to move out and gain some independence. Doing so will bolster your sense of self worth, too.
Welcome to Fluther and best of luck to you.
@mazingerz88 advice* – Advise is a verb, advice is a noun.
“The advisor advised her by giving her advice.”
Sorry; it’s a pet peeve of mine.
Welcome to Fluther.
You may feel a moral debt to your parents, but I would disagree that you have a financial one. Your mother can’t have it both ways: she can’t have you living with them and increasing your debt, and yet not support your attempt to live independently. Like @Hawaii_Jake I suspect that being on your own would be beneficial to you in more ways than one. I think you’d learn to cope better, in the first place, and probably live more healthfully without the strain of having to live with your mother’s temper. I think that the independence you gain would continue your improvement, too.
It’s the advice I’d advise.
Thanks for your answers, I really appreciate it. One problem… I live in a country where there is no government assistance for people with mental illness.
Does your country allow people to hit other people? The fact that your mother is ‘raising her hand’ to you is very disturbing to me. If you can support yourself financially and are stable enough to live alone, it may be time to find your own place.
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