Would you give her a chance?
My question is a bit on a personal level but I can trust my fellow jellies to give me a good answer. About fifteen years ago I met this woman we fell in love and were engaged and she cheated on me. A year later we met again by chance and we started an on and off relationship. We both wanted to get more serious again and I ended up in hospital on the day we were suppose to meet on a date. But on her side was another man interested in her and she thought I stood her up. So she went for this other man, they got married and is now in the process of getting divorced. Than a year ago she started making contact with me again, the thing is she asked me to give her another chance and hoping that we should rebuild our relationship again once her divorce had been concluded.
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Sounds like something is trying to keep you apart. I’d go for it, no hesitation, life’s too short and regrets are hard to live with. Good luck!
Your asking if she should have a second chance.
ME? I would have moved on a long time ago.
Why not? Giving a try is not like making a lifelong commitment. Don’t jump to conclusions. Take this one step at a time. In 15 years both of you will have changed.
What’s to lose?
“She cheated on me”, I would never give her the time of day again.
Your giving her a third chance and she should have lost her first chance years ago. She seems to be a screwup. Cheated on you, divorced, and puts you second in everything. Move on!
She simply sounds immature and irresponsible.
I wouldn’t but if you like drama, why not. The only thing you have to lose is your heart.
Well, it doesn’t seem too good. First she cheated on you. Then she ran off with someone else without even giving you a chance to explain. Now she is divorcing her husband. There does not seem to be much faithfulness in her. She seems to be a person who keeps her eye out for the main chance. Do you really want her in your life?
What would you be giving up to do this? Are you in a relationship now? If so, are you happy? Is this just a case of the grass being greener…?
”...fifteen years ago…”
”...were engaged and she cheated on me”
”...we started an on and off relationship”
”...she thought I stood her up. So she went for this other man, they got married”
My advice: move on.
Given how long it has been, if you are not otherwise involved, go for it. But go into it with your eyes wide open, and be clear with her from the very start that this it. I agree with @KNOWITALL.
@zenvelo I went through a similar situation, filled with drama, fell in love with someone while we were both with other people. It ended up being a life-changing experience that I wouldn’t have missed for the world.
It seems to me from your explaination , that she might see you as a ‘spare”.?
Unless you want that?
I’d say that you are not interested in fly by night affairs nor to be treated so disrespectfully, as she had in the past.
You deserve respect and it seems that she does not give it.
Hence her repeated comebacks?
The fact that you asked Fluther, shows us that you are even considering it?
If in doubt..don’t do it.
I ditto @rojo‘s questions. What would you be giving up to do this? Are you in a relationship now? If so, are you happy? Is this just a case of the grass being greener…?
I’m also curious if you could leave the past in the past or if you’d be carrying some of the hurt with you into a relationship now.
For me, i will not. I think you really deserves better one, open your eyes,missed will meet the better!
Thanks guys you all said the same and I had the same thoughts about this woman.
I would give her another chance;)
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