How do you break up with someone you're not really in a relationship with?

Asked by tups (6732

) April 22nd, 2013

Yeah, this is the second break-up question from me today. Please bear with me.

I’ll try to keep this as short at possible.
See, I’ve been seeing this guy for some months. We’ve never really had the conversation, so we’ve never discussed what we are. I guess we’ve kind of been leading up to a relationship, or at least he has thought that, I think, but I was never really sure about what I wanted. I know now, though, that I want to end it.
I just don’t know how to. I can’t really break up, since we’re not officially anything. We have some of the same friends, I really like him as a person and I’m afraid everything will be so awkward. I don’t want to hurt him. I’m bad a confrontations.
I guess I’m just looking for some advice here.

Peace.

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My personal way would be to be honest and direct:

“I like you. We share interests & friends. I don’t want awkwardness to build up, so I’d like to let you know that I don’t want to go out on dates with you from here on out.”

Try not to think of it as confrontation. This is open communication.

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Yes – building on what @SpatzieLover said, you can say, “I don’t see our friendship as moving toward a dating relationship so I’d just like to see you as part of the crowd from now on.” It can be painful on the receiving end but said with kindness and honesty, it is not confrontational.

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