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Ever felt around a stranger: "I've met this person! I know him!"?

Asked by Aster (20023points) July 29th, 2013

How I regret not telling him. Not saying a word. We were at some gathering, in a crowd. Behind us sat a black man around 30 years old and his wife or girlfriend. I glanced at him and felt the most surreal , strong feeling that I had known him well at some point in some location in the past. I felt close to him. But I didn’t say a word. Soon they got up to leave. I turned around and glanced at him and he said, “how are y’all doing?” and they walked off. I guess nobody has had this happen to them, right? Where you just knew you had known a stranger.

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LornaLove's avatar

Not really no. Perhaps he reminded you of someone without you realizing? Or maybe some weird past life? :)

tom_g's avatar

Yes. And the thing is – I did know the person, but forgot the context.

- I saw someone waiting tables a few years ago, and he looked so familiar and I couldn’t figure it out. As soon as we left, I realized he was my roommate during college orientation.
– Last weekend, we were in the library and I saw this woman and couldn’t figure out why she looked so familiar. It was hurting my head. My son finally came up to me and said, “Do you see that woman? She was in the hardware store earlier when we were there.”

Sometimes just seeing someone out of context is confusing.
No supernatural explanations required here.

Aster's avatar

@tom_g I know what you mean about having been acquainted with somebody before but this was different. This felt like a yearning as if we had been very close. As if he had been at least a family member.
@LornaLove it did feel ilke a past life situation, yes. I’m not saying I totally believe in a past life but I sort of do.

tups's avatar

This has happened to me several times. I never did anything either. I figure it would have the potential of being a little creepy?

geeky_mama's avatar

This has happened to me many times before. Sometimes, if I can, I’ll approach the person and say: “Why do I know your face?” ...a few times it’s because I had met them before (I’m terrible with names) and we eventually figured out how we knew each other.
A few other times the person said they really didn’t know me – but we both just laughed it off by saying – “oh well, you must look like someone I know” or “you have a twin running around out there”..
I meet a LOT of people in my line of work and I’ve come to realize we all have our Doppelgängers out there..

tom_g's avatar

@Aster: “As if he had been at least a family member.”

I get that too. Occasionally, I will meet a woman who reminds me of my grandmother who died 12 years ago. There is a strange feeling I get because some part of me sees my grandmother and it brings up all kinds of emotions. Then I realize that I feel close to this stranger simply because she reminds me of her.

Aster's avatar

ok but I’ve never known any black males. That is another thing that puzzles me. And because he spoke to me I like to think he felt the same or similar feeling. Why say how are you to a white woman sitting in front of you?

tom_g's avatar

^ I’m just offering my experience. And for the record – some of these women that reminded me of my grandmother happen to be African American. My grandmother was Irish American. There’s just something about people (in my experience) that reminds me of other people. It can be expressions, mannerisms, etc.

As a thought experiment – what else could be going on here?

Cupcake's avatar

Well, since you haven’t known any black men in your life, I’ll let you in on a little secret. They say hi to all white women. ~

Personally, I believe that souls can connect and might feel like a spark. But I also believe in @tom_g‘s explanations.

Aster's avatar

He did not remind me of anyone. It was purely a feeling that I was sitting near someone who once was very close to me. I’m used to people not understanding what I’m trying to say . Happens so often.

tups's avatar

@Aster I think I understand what you mean – of course there is no way to be certain about that – but I think I can recognize what you are talking about, and yes, it is strange.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

Yes, I totally get what you are saying. A kind of bond, a “pulling” feeling, attached and detached simultaneously. Weird!

hearkat's avatar

Yes. I brought my son to an art therapy group for kids whose parents were splitting up, and in walked a guy with his kids and I felt like I had known him my whole life in the instant that our eyes met. He had lived in my town for a few years, but he was far enough ahead of me in school that we wouldn’t have crossed paths except randomly. We dated for a while, and had it not been the rebound relationship for each of us, I think we would have been a compatible couple.

Buttonstc's avatar

If this persists so strongly for you, you might want to do a little research into past life connections and see if anything clicks for you.

Part of that theory is along the lines of souls reincarnating together or in close proximity to one another.

It could sometimes even be in families where a past love from several hundred years back ends up as a sibling or other close relative and that familiarity persists. There is an even closer than regular bond because of that intimate connection (and I’m referring to emotional intimacy primarily).

Either do some further reading up on it or just try to put it out of your mind altogether.

Buttonstc's avatar

If you’d like to do some reading without needing to register or anything the link below is to a well moderated NON DOGMATIC site which welcomes many points of view and possibilities. The author, Carol Bowman has written a very well researched book on child past lives.

If nothing else, its interesting, non-religious and non-argumentative. Personally, I found it fascinating but I’m pretty open minded about all kinds of possibilities. I just abhor getting into heated arguments about it. This is a pretty calm place.
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http://www.reincarnationforum.com/
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As I said, you can read as much as you want with no registeration or info necessary. They only require registering if you want to post.

But if its not your cup of tea, then just bypass it altogether. But you’re certainly not the only one to have the experience you describe. There are plenty others.

mattbrowne's avatar

Associative memory in our brains uses rough patterns.

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