Should you be with the person who loves you the most, or who you love the most?

Long term I don’t think either would.work out well.

It would be nice if they both were the same. Welcome back.

Gotta concur with the previous posts. One sided attraction won’t work for very long…someone will inevitably become bitter.

(This from personal experience.)

Whom I love the most.
Once that is out of the way, it becomes a matter of them loving me.
Most people I know think I am generally a pretty loveable guy.
Fluther’s opinion notwithstanding.
So there you go.

I like to think of love as a rope. If she wants she can pull me in with it. But I can’t force it. Have you ever tried to push a rope up a hill? It doesn’t do much.

At my age, getting along well matters a whole lot more than raging hormones. Pair me up with anyone who truly loves me, and I will love them back and be happy with them. But no matter how fantastic and hot I think someone is, if they don’t care about me, I don’t want to be with them.

Having experienced both, and if I had to choose, I would say, who I love the most.

When you are with the person you love most, you get to know if you are the one loved most. So you would be happy when you are with that person, who loves you most. Express so that it be expressed to you then you get to choose who would make you happy, loved or loving!!

In my case, we love each other equally. That is the best position to be in.

LIke @etpro, been there and done that a few times. I’m going to say that I personally am happier when someone loves me the most.

I don’t think there is such a thing as equal love between two people; they might be very close, it could be a very fine gradient, but I think one partner loves just slightly more than the other. How could you possibly measure the love from one person to another? There will always be some degrees of difference.

That said, would it be the worst thing in the world if you loved someone but they loved you more? Or vice versa? As long as each partner has a considerable amount of love for the other, everything will be fine.

With all that said, I know myself enough to know that I can be enamored of many different types of people. I guess it’s more important to me that I be loved because I know I can love most people.