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Are you (or do you ever want to be) called "spunky," "spry," "feisty," or "sharp as a tack"?

Asked by Jeruba (55833points) October 27th, 2016

I hear all these terms used for elderly people, and I think they’re supposed to be compliments or praise.

To me they’re in the same vein as “pretty good, for a six-year-old” and “not bad for a kid.” They sound condescending at best and insulting at worst.

I’m getting up there now myself, but I don’t want to hear “for someone your age” from anyone but my doctor. If anyone ever calls me “spunky,” “spry,” or “feisty” to my face, I hope I’ll have the presence of mind to spit in his eye.

Do you aspire to geriatric spunkiness, or are you as spunky now as you’re ever going to be?

Tags as I wrote them: elderly, seniors, geriatrics, labels, left-handed compliments, condescension.

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stanleybmanly's avatar

Like death itself, it’s inevitable as well as unavoidable and I was almost certainly guilty of such tactless behavior in my youth. It’s become rather tiresome having people discover your age and then announce loudly that you don’t look older than dirt or move around like you’re circling the drain. But take heart. You’ll get used to it. It’s merely a reflection of what everyone is thinking whether they say it out loud or not. And if you think I’m wrong, just show your face at an event where alcohol flows freely.

ucme's avatar

Spunky has a different meaning over here, as in…
“Your bedsheets are all spunky”
It means sperm :(

Aster's avatar

I wouldn’t mind, “feisty” but no; I’ve not been called any of these things as far as I know. Not yet.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

I have been called snarky multiple times, does that count?

canidmajor's avatar

I’ve been called “feisty” my whole life, so that doesn’t bother me. Actually, none of it really does. I am no longer sexually attractive (nor do I try to be) and I’ve had a couple of instances where getting older was not a given, so the aging thing doesn’t faze me much. When I choose not to be invisible, I’m not, but sometimes I enjoy being overlooked.
If someone is a bit condescending, I can usually pull a shocker or a clever witticism out that will rock them a bit, mostly I don’t care anymore.

ragingloli's avatar

I am usually called a public menace

flutherother's avatar

I don’t like any of these terms. “Alive” would be OK.

anniereborn's avatar

I like the term “feisty”. I’d be good with that at any age.

BellaB's avatar

I’ve been called feisty many times over the past decades. Doesn’t seem to have anything to do with age. Same thing with spunky and sharp as a tack – they’re used for people of all ages here.

Spry is the only one I think of as having any connotation with age. My mother was damned spry til about a month before she died.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Spunky can also mean good-looking where I’m from. As in he’s a bit of a spunk. Or he’s a bit spunky. If someone wants to tell me I’m spunky, I’ll take it! My husband calls me spunky sometimes. I’ve got him booked in for an eye appointment.

I’ve been called feisty since I was very little. I’m undoubtedly going to be a feisty old lady too.

JLeslie's avatar

“Sharp as a tack” I wouldn’t mind I don’t think. I use it for all ages.

A word I hear a lot is “active.” She/he is still very active. I guess the “still” might be the most annoying part of that sentence.

I actually live in an “active adult community.” I’m a baby here. Around the nation active adult community is basically synonymous with retirement community.

I don’t think it’s necessary to state someone under the age of 80 is active, spry, spunky, or anything else. My assumption is they are still doing and going and functioning on all cylinders (maybe with a stall out once in a while like most of us) unless I’m told otherwise.

gondwanalon's avatar

Those names sound good to me.

Earlier this month when my Hawaiian outrigger canoe team was racing from Molokai to Oahu (41 miles), my team mates started calling me “Wonder Boy”. Everyone on my team is over 65. It was the first time that I padded with that team. I guess that they liked my performance.

DominicY's avatar

I like being told I have moxie. That’s an underrated word. ;)

jca's avatar

I don’t think of “spry,” spunky,” “feisty” and whatever as negative words.

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