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Why is this girl acting like this when we got married?

Asked by chelle21689 (7907points) November 6th, 2020 from iPhone

I just got married two weeks ago to my husband whom I’ve been with for almost 9 years. He posted a photo of me with a caption “My beautiful wife..” and he hardly ever posts! So to me it was so sweet that he was excited to showcase us as newlyweds.

Then some girl (one of our friend’s sisters whom we don’t know very well) comments “I’m dead”. In slang meaning, “That is hilarious!”. My protective sister replied asking “Dead from what? Why are you dead?” No comment.

I asked my husband about it and he had no idea why she said that and doesn’t even talk to her. I think this girl has a thing for my husband or taken men cuz recently she commented “happy birthday handsome” and commented on a workout photo of him. I just brushed it off because I didn’t think it was a big deal but this “I’m dead” comment seemed disrespectful. Anyway, we decided we don’t want any kind of negativity leaking into our marriage so he blocked her. The next day I get an alert she started following me on Instagram so I blocked her too. I am sure she was trying to be nosy. I don’t know why she started following me after! It’s crazy cuz I met her one time and was super nice to her so I don’t even know why she’s doing this. We are good friends with her brothers who attended our wedding…

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kritiper's avatar

This little girl has figured out that she’ll never look as good as you did at your wedding.

chelle21689's avatar

@kritiper I don’t get it, she ruined a post that I thought was sweet. I was so nice to her when we met (not knowing this was the same girl commenting that he was handsome lol). Why follow me on Instagram after being blocked? I mean, is this some crazy stalker “fatal attraction” thing for my husband?

elbanditoroso's avatar

Congrats! And I have no idea. But good for you.

chelle21689's avatar

@elbanditoroso Thanks. I know I won’t have a 100% answer to this behavior but maybe some interesting insight as to why us getting married suddenly has some girl being weird and making negative comments.

KNOWITALL's avatar

You just got married, just let it go. She’s probably just a jealous random who doesn’t matter.

If you can’t let it go, just ask her directly via DM.
Get it out of your system and move on. I certainly wouldn’t bring your husband or her brothers into it at all, because that’s giving her attention and starting drama.

ragingloli's avatar

In this context, It could mean that she is very happy for you.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=I%27m%20Dead

chelle21689's avatar

Link doesn’t work but when I type it in, I only see negative meanings like something is so hilarious or tired.

chelle21689's avatar

@KNOWITALL I won’t bring her brothers into it. I just don’t appreciate the comments she made to him in the past. As I mentioned, I brushed it off since there will always be girls that find him attractive but that comment to me seemed negative so that was the last straw. We just removed her from social media from viewing any of our stuff. I don’t know if that’s excessive but better than knowing she will make any other comments in the future to upset me again or knowing she’s going through all my photos on my page since i don’t know her intentions.

janbb's avatar

She probably did have a thing for your husband. It happens. Doesn’t matter – he’s your husband now. You blocked her and she can’t bother you any more.

KNOWITALL's avatar

@chelle21689 Well if you married a hottie, then you’ll have to get used to that and just take it as a compliment. :D Congrats!

chyna's avatar

Congratulations!
There is always some asshole that wants to stir up shit in people’s lives. She is one of those. Good on you and your husband blocking her. No one needs that kind of negativity for absolutely no reason.

cookieman's avatar

Congratulations on the wedding!!!!

And, I agree with the other jellies who said, ‘who cares?’

Plus, “jealous random who doesn’t matter.” oughta be the name of a band @KNOWITALL

chelle21689's avatar

Thanks all for your input!!!

KNOWITALL's avatar

@cookieman haha, sounds good! My family makes up band names all the time!!

Inspired_2write's avatar

Like Trump.. both are poor losers..

gorillapaws's avatar

I’m not going to waste any of the time I have on this Earth worrying about what that ridiculous girl wants (and neither should you). What I would rather do with that time is to wish you and your husband a long and happy marriage filled with great memories together. My heart is filled with joy for you both. Enjoy each other and the rest won’t matter. Congrats!

chelle21689's avatar

@gorillapaws Thank you for sending best wishes!

Patty_Melt's avatar

I haven’t read any of the other posts.
From your description of her being not a part of your life or circle of friends, I’m thinking it sounds like posts you see when a celebrity marries. People everywhere see the photo, and react as though someone attractive has been taken from them. Truth is, they don’t know this person, and likely never will.

I think she is a non factor. Don’t let her take your joy.

I’m happy for you.

chelle21689's avatar

@Patty_Melt Yeaa people are weird, I was a little concerned she was trying to follow me on IG after he blocked her lol.

Patty_Melt's avatar

Have a hug from me, and chalk her up as somebody refers to her as, “my weird cousin”.

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