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How often do you speak to your adult children or if they're still living, your parents?

Asked by janbb (62880points) February 18th, 2023

By any means of communication – on the phone, texting, in person, etc. I was with a cousin yesterday who said her daughter, in her 30s, calls her most mornings and often after work. Another friend who was in her late 50s said she talked to her mother daily before she died.

I’m in communication with my sons generally a few times a month, although I might email them in between.

Obviously, there’s no right or wrong here; people find their own comfort level. I’m just wondering for the sake of discussion.

If you don’t mind, please indicate if you are a male or female and if your child or parent is the same or a different gender.

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canidmajor's avatar

My Dad passed in 2006, I was I touch a lot, I saw him at least every two weeks.
I was estranged from my mother for 7½ years until she passed a few weeks ago.
I am in touch with my daughter every day, and see her at least once a week, sometimes more often. She lives 25 miles away and wants to buy a house in my town. I am immensely grateful for our closeness.

I am female, 68.

Dig_Dug's avatar

Oh, yes I talk to them everyday. In person, on the phone and through Facebook. A couple of them only in my thoughts.

jca2's avatar

My mom died a little more than 5 years ago. When she was alive, we would talk maybe every day or every other day. Not always long conversations – sometimes just a few minutes to catch up or make plans. She watched my daughter a lot (her granddaughter) so we’d see each other a few times a week and we’d chat then, too. She lived about 40 minutes from my house but about 15 minutes from my job.

She was into emailing but not for every day communication, more for forwarding articles or info. I don’t think we texted much.

Sometimes she really would annoy me but I still always appreciated her help and her good intentions.

I’m a female and I was 50 when she passed away.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I text my children multiple times during the week. They don’t always reply, and that’s OK. We have family video chats on major holidays.

I hear more often from my daughter and my nonbinary child. I hear enough from my son, but it is less frequent.

I’m male, 59.

chyna's avatar

My died in 1975, so I can’t really remember. But my mom died in 2011. We talked on the phone every day and I would visit her one day a week.
Female, about 50 when she died.

kruger_d's avatar

I phone my parents about once a week and visit about 8x per year. I live in a neighboring state. I’m female.

Forever_Free's avatar

An average of daily texts with my Mom with at least a weekly phone call.
It would be as needed with my daughter. Typically at least weekly unless she is home.

flutherother's avatar

I’m in contact with my son at least once a week and I usually visit every week as well. My daughter is much further away and I speak with her several times a month but visit only once or twice a year.

rebbel's avatar

I’m in contact with my mother almost daily (through WhatsApp, Insta, sometimes a phone call).
With my dad twice per week, about.

rebbel's avatar

I’m a male, as is my dad.
My mom is female.

chyna's avatar

^Thank you for clearing that up. I was confused.

SnipSnip's avatar

Daughter probably average once a week. I run by my mother’s several times per week.

YARNLADY's avatar

I am in regular, daily contact with my youngest son, as I am homeschooling his two boys.
I went many years with very little contact with my oldest son, about twice a year, but now we email and Facebook two or three times a week.
I am down to three or four times a year with two of my adult grandsons, and two or three times a month with one of them.
I am in daily contact with my sister.
I just had my 80th birthday.

JLeslie's avatar

Since covid started I zoom with my parents every Friday for about an hour.

I see my dad on other zooms 1–2 times a week. These zooms are discussion groups where someone presents a topic and there is Q&A and opinions afterwards.

I talk to my mom or dad on the phone once every week or two, but that’s usually more like a question not a chat.

Before covid we didn’t zoom and I talked to my parents on the phone once or twice a week.

I’m in my mid 50’s and my parents are both 79.

My husband talks to his parents at most once a week. Sometimes he’ll go two or three weeks not talking to them. He could easily go longer if they didn’t call him a bad son for not calling. He’s mid 50’s and parents early 80’s. It’s no indication of how he feels about them. He’d be ok if they lived with us. He just isn’t much of a phone person.

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