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Why do girls give blowjobs?

Asked by Mtl_zack (6730 points ) October 13th, 2008

they give pleasure, but recieve none. what do girls get in return? do girls expect something in return? i could understand that some people get pleasure from pleasuring their partner, but what about girls who are sluts?

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nikipedia's avatar

Are you trying to be ignorant or is that an accidental byproduct of your youth?

La_chica_gomela's avatar

zack, you know I have nothing but love for you, but I find this question just a teensy bit sexist, and I’m sure you don’t mean to be, but if you really think about it, I think you’ll see where I’m coming from. Is it just girls who are sluts? What does “slutty” mean to you exactly? “Easy”? Is it someone who will have sex with “just anyone”? Is it someone who has a lot of sex with a lot of different partners? What about guys who are that way? What’s the difference to you?

JackAdams's avatar

I hope this question doesn’t get deleted, because I think it is worth discussing…

basp's avatar

If you have to ask a question like this, you are probably too young to receive one.

Mtl_zack's avatar

this question isnt supposed to sound the way that you are hearing it.

new wording:

why do girls give blowjobs when they know that they wont get any [physical] pleasure in return?

i honestly do not know the answer.

jasonjackson's avatar

Questions which are worded like this have no good answer, because they’re so general. It’s not possible to really answer a question about all girls, know what I mean?

But, sticking with the extreme generalization you’ve framed the question with:

If they have good self-esteem: because they’d like to make the recipient happy, and/or because they enjoy it. (I enjoy going down on my female partners, although I receive no direct physical pleasure from the act.) In some cases it might make them feel sexy, or get them turned on for other sexual acts (e.g. going down as part of foreplay). Or a hundred other good reasons.

If they have less-good self-esteem: because they feel like they “owe” it to the recipient, or they’re trying to make sure the recipient stays interested in them, or they don’t realize that saying “no” is a viable option. Or a hundred other bad reasons.

I suspect that there’s a genuine request for information buried somewhere in your question.. maybe if you can word it more specifically, we could take a stab at answering it a bit better for you?

Nimis's avatar

Oh, dear. Why in the world would you end that question with
but what about girls who are sluts?

KatawaGrey's avatar

Personally, I find a sense of pleasure in making someone else feel great pleasure. I also feel like there is a certain amount of power. Because I am receiving no pleasure, I am in complete control of myself. I also have a fair amount of control over the man. I have the most sensitive part of body in my mouth. I could hurt him terribly or give him great pleasure. I realize not everyone feels this way, but I just thought I’d put my two cents in.

dalepetrie's avatar

To get that ring. Once it’s on her finger, bye bye BJs.

if only I were kidding…sigh

Shin00bi's avatar

Because they like you, and should return that favour ASAP in my opinion.

laureth's avatar

Lots of women trade sex for love, or at least for “love”. Perhaps that’s why they’re “slutty”—but some women get married for the same reason.

Dale, I feel sorry for you. A better relationship is when both people try to make each other happy.

ckinyc's avatar

My question is why are you letting the girl does ALL the work??!

sndfreQ's avatar

You seem to be answering your own question up to the last statement, the inclusion if which changes the question into a statement of a position.

So the better question might be: “Why do I think girls who give BJs are sluts?”

El_Cadejo's avatar

Uhhhh what about cunnilingus? I mean theres no physical pleasure there for a guy at all, yet we love doing it.(most of us at least) I could only assume it would be the same thing just with the roles reversed.

It is kind of funny you mention girls giving oral and not understanding it, but make no mention of guys doing the same. And im not even going to touch that “slut” part.

dalepetrie's avatar

laureth – don’t feel too bad for me, my comment was a bit tongue in cheek. Actually, I’m happy with my marriage…in fact, truth be told, my libido slowed down more quickly than my wife’s as I got older…I really have nothing to complain about.

But regarding that one specific act, the frequency does tend to fall off, and not just for me…most married men I’ve ever heard discuss the issue tend to level the same charge.

dalepetrie's avatar

just noticed I got 8 “great answers” for that one, I don’t think I’m the only one who’s noticed that particular cause and effect relationship…hehe

wundayatta's avatar

I did a little research on this over the past year. I interviewed five or six women in some detail about this. What I found is that most had KatawaGrey’s response. They like giving pleasure, and they like the feeling of control. It gives them a sense of power. In addition, and this really surprised me, they told me they liked the taste and feel of ejaculate.

I think that, on average, women have slightly better empathy than men. When they are doing this, I think they really identify just a tiny bit more strongly with their lover than men do, when performing the analogous action on the woman. I think they identify so strongly with their lover, that it is almost as if they can feel what their lover feels.

It’s also a very concrete thing. You can tell when a man is done very easily. It’s like the reward for the work.

Anyway, I was very skeptical about all this, but the story was pretty much universal. These were also women who said they really liked sex, and weren’t getting enough.

If I talked to women who didn’t like sex, I suspect the story would be different.

trudacia's avatar

Why do men like to look at, touch and kiss boobs? They don’t get any direct pleasure from it…. Same reason some women like penis.

aneedleinthehayy's avatar

I don’t love to give blowjobs.

MissAnthrope's avatar

All I want to say is that not every girl who gives a BJ isn’t getting something in return. If the guy is a decent lover, he will reciprocate in some manner.

deaddolly's avatar

It is NOT better to give than to receive…

deepdivercwa55m's avatar

It’s like you do me and I do you. You suck me an I ‘ll suck you

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choreplay's avatar

I am very oral I like to taste my lover (wife), I love the taste I love the reaction I sense in her body, and sexually I get as much pleasure as if she was down on me.

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