Do I have a right to feel this way?
The last month and a half for me has been a series of crises and emotional upturns, so recently I have been a bit more dependent on my friends for emotional support than I normally am. My best friend has refrained from talking to me for almost two weeks. When I called him out on it and asked him what was going on, he first said nothing really, he just hasn’t felt like hanging out lately. When I tried to get him to explain further, he told me that when he is around me lately he feels depressed, and that he thinks it is the natural turn of events for us to “go our own separate ways.” He also thinks we have been drifting friendship-wise since summer and that he shouldn’t hang out with me because he feels obligated to, but because he wants to, and that we should “face it: neither of us is into the things the other one is.” While I agree that it’s a waste of time (for both of us) if he’s only friending me because he feels “obligated to”, I think it’s a total lie that we have no interests in common, and I also think that if he thought our friendship has been on a downhill slope since last summer he should have said it six months ago and not now, when I need his friendship most of all. I have been there for him when he was having his romantic/emotional crises and I really feel like he’s abandoning me. I think that he is just telling himself that our friendship has been dwindling so he has an excuse to walk away from a difficult situation, the difficulty being in trying to help me out by being my friend.
I’m having a hard time deciphering his actions. Do I have a right to feel like he’s treading me in the mud, or are his reasons legitimate and I’m just a hypersensitive bitch? It’s not like I’ve been trying to drag him down with me or invite him into my problems, I just thought I could rely on him to be a shoulder to lean on when I’m down.
Sorry this post is so long.
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