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sarah_neerjah1234's avatar

How can I know that a guy loves me? I do not have any boyfriend.

Asked by sarah_neerjah1234 (42points) November 28th, 2007
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zivan's avatar

its very hard question to answer. in my country for example guys willing die for his girlfriend.

sharl's avatar

Well, I think first you have to define what it is you mean by ‘love’. There are probably as many definitions as there are relationships between people, and often while a couple might agree that they love each other, their idea of love may still be quite different.

I think the starting point is to be honest with yourself, and with your suitor. Ask yourself what you really mean: Do you expect him to literally offer up his life to protect you (quite an extreme and rare example I would think)? Do you expect his sexual fidelity? Caring for and providing for you? Unquestioning devotion or loving and well-meant critical honesty?. Once you know what you think you want, you can be honest with him and see if he’s able to give that. Maybe that isn’t all that love is about, but it’s a good foundation.

woodlandanimals's avatar

1. introduces you to parents
2. tries to integrate you into circle of friends
3. doesn’t flinch when you take over a drawer for your pj’s
4. takes you on adventures instead of just going with the boys
5. melts when you look him in the eyes.
6. holds your hair back when you puke
7. tucks you in when you are sick
8. says the words when they are totally unexpected.

jdvanderk's avatar

I think you should start with “like” before “love”

Poser's avatar

A healthy relationship requires two people to worry less about if or how their partner loves them, and more about if or how they love their partner.

You might feel like once you’re sure that a guy loves you, you can be happy/love him back/live happily ever after. But the problem is that you can never be sure. And if you’re not sure, you will worry about what he is or isn’t doing to love you, while neglecting those things you ought to do to love him. You only have control over your own feelings and actions; disproportionate concern over someone else’s tends to make us forget that.

It’s always easier to love someone who loves us. So love, and you will be loved.

ishotthesheriff's avatar

“love does not consist of gazing at each other. love is looking together in the same direction.”

love is someone that well. . . loves you. supports who you are and is willing to be with you no matter what.
but that quote up there is really something to me.

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