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What does it mean when a guy sends you a song?

Asked by acebamboo77 (717 points ) December 12th, 2007

This guy and I had a 5 month friends with benefits relationship, until I moved away to school. After I moved away he got into a relationship. He has recently sent me the song All Summer Long by Kid Rock. Check out the lyrics:
It was 1989, my thoughts were short my hair was long
Caught somewhere between a boy and man
She was seventeen and she was far from in-between
It was summertime in Northern Michigan
Ahh Ahh Ahh
Ahh Ahh Ahh

Splashing through the sand bar
Talking by the campfire
It’s the simple things in life, like when and where
We didn’t have no internet
But man I never will forget
The way the moonlight shined upon her hair

[Chorus:]
And we were trying different things
We were smoking funny things
Making love out by the lake to our favorite song
Sipping whiskey out the bottle, not thinking ‘bout tomorrow
Singing Sweet home Alabama all summer long
Singing Sweet home Alabama all summer long

Catching Walleye from the dock
Watching the waves roll off the rocks
She’ll forever hold a spot inside my soul
We’d blister in the sun
We couldn’t wait for night to come
To hit that sand and play some rock and roll

While we were trying different things
And we were smoking funny things
Making love out by the lake to our favorite song
Sipping whiskey out the bottle, not thinking ‘bout tomorrow
Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long
Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Now nothing seems as strange as when the leaves began to change
Or how we thought those days would never end
Sometimes I’ll hear that song and I’ll start to sing along
And think man I’d love to see that girl again

With no previous similar acts, what should I take from this?

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8 Answers

Poser's avatar

Sounds like what you considered to be merely “friends with benefits,” he considered something more. Maybe the song just reminded him of you, and the time you guys used to spend together. Maybe he really wanted something more from your relationship, but knew you weren’t interested.

Have you asked him what he meant by sending the song?

jgoose's avatar

it sounds like he really misses you, and like poser said it seems like you two maybe weren’t completely clear on what your relationship was, or at least on what you each wanted. Sometimes it is hard to realize what you have or how good you have it until it is gone, which is probably what he is going through right now. I know that feeling all too well, and its actually very hard to do something like he did. also, it is very easy when there are problems in a current relationship to get caught up in a past relationship and sometimes it get a little far, and something like this could happen. In any case I’m sure he didn’t mean anything negative by it, and again like poser said, your best bet is to ask him about it, but do not make it a confrontation, if you do it will be hard to get a straight answer and will make him feel bad (unless you want to make him feel bad, but i wouldnt see why)

ironhiway's avatar

I don’t know what the song sounds like but looking at the lyrics it sounds like he wants you to know that 5 months had a forever memorable result. And he’ll never forget the memories of the time spent together. I wouldn’t assume he’s looking to reconect though it’s possible. Somtimes memories remain priceless but when we try to get back to the way we were it often just messes them up.
If your looking for a way to respond be honest about how you feel about the memories. Don’t worry about letting him down or expecting to recreate the past. The freedom of what you two shared can not become permanent but it could become something different. Evaluate whether those memories are worth risking for something other than bliss. I you think you want something more it may be there so give it a chance but move slow. Otherwise enjoy the memories and know that somewhere out there you have touch a life forever in a memorable way.

kevbo's avatar

If it were me, the gesture would be a cross between a feeler and (for obvious lack of a better term) a death rattle. If he’s still in his other relationship, he may feel less than 100% with it and he’s grasping at (the memory) of you because the good memories of you are surfacing. In the same vein, he’s probably wondering if you’re still game. Even if nothing comes of it, he probably is seeking a “hit” from you that you’d still be into him and that things could start up again given time and place.

I would treat it as an opportunity to either close the door or flirt a little bit to let him know you’d still be into him someday down the road.

glial's avatar

He’s missing the “benefits” :-)

breedmitch's avatar

What, no cake?

glial's avatar

@breedmitch – lol, good thinking :-)

john65pennington's avatar

Men(boys) sending a love song to a girl, on the internet, is like sending her a written love letter in the mail.

Do you get the hint????

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